Do you have this issue with twins?
By Seppy1984
@Seppy1984 (2145)
United States
March 22, 2012 9:36pm CST
OK, I want to start off by saying I do love my twin sisters but it gets to where I get so mad. They sit there and act like I'm nothing but crap to them alot. We usually go to the park alot together with our children. I have 2 boys which are 5 and 3 and my one sis has 2 girls who are 4 and 1, and the other sis has 2 girls who are 1 and 2. Well I'm not going to say my kids are angels cause they aren't but when my one sis says the my boys are always bad yes I will have to say something cause they aren't always bad. She sat there and said for the last 2 days that my boys never listened and they were very bad which is not true. Like yesterday my 5 year old was bad but my 3 year old was good and then the day before my 3 year old was bad but my 5 year was good. Well alot of this arguing started yesterday when she posted something on facebook and I commented to it and then she went off topic to talk about my parenting skills and how bad my kids are. I'm sorry you just don't do that on facebook. So I told my other sis I was upset about this cause of the fact that my other sis's daughter the 2 year old was horrible yesterday, she threw her cup at her mom and then tried hitting her and keep throwing herself on the ground. But yet her mom told me that she was a good kid yesterday. Why is it that twins think they have to be mean to their other siblings. I just don't get it, at least I will sit there and say that my kids are not angels but they are not always bad either. Today they had a great day, no fighting and listened very well. I just wish I knew why my twin sisters think that their children are complete angels that never do wrong and that my kids are the ones that are always bad. This upsets me and no matter how I tell them that this upsets or how I feel they think I am taking it way out of control and to personal. Well yes I'm going to take it personal this time. Its always been like this since they started having kids. Do you have these kind of issues or know twins who seem to think they are better then everyone else? Its just that I feel like crying cause its a everyday thing it seems.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 12
hi seppy I ha ve never had any issue with twin but t hen we did not have any twins ion our close family. I know twins do stick together a lot but thats because they are twins I guess. Did you try talking to each of them separtely as that might help, and tell them you feel like they think they are better than y ou because they are twins,.tell that really hurts you and your feelings.
also tell them its not very becoming to talk about you being a bad mom just because one of you kids was naughty all kids get naughty at times.I think family members think its okay to say those hurtful things to their own family members yet they would be afraid to say that to someone yu did not know very well.of co urse one takes it perosnal whebn anyone badmouths your own children. this is human
nature and you tell them that "I am not going to the park if thats thewasy you see my kids, I would not want you to be upset.goodbe.
then act on it,cool it between you and the twin sisters. let them realize they went way too far.
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I have tried to talk with them both separately but they run back to each other and talk about my parenting and the reason I know this is cause they are always messaging me about me telling them how I feel. I figure that I'm only going to take my kids out when they aren't there. Also it seems that when I need help its always a no but if they need it I seem to help. I decided I'm done with helping. This has always been going on since they first had their first child at 15 and 16. Like I just don't get it.
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@shaggin (72141)
• United States
23 Mar 12
I dont have a twin sister. I know a set of twins who hate each other and havent spoken in probably 30 years and their kids dont speak to each others kids either. But for the most part I do think that twins have a connection where they pair off and exclude other people. I am sorry you are going through this. Some people just like to think their kids are perfect and everyone elses are so bad but cant see that there kids are being bad as well.
