Seeing words in print and hearing them makes it so different.

I think that a lot of the interpretation (or misinterpretaion) of words that we see come from the feelings or exact stage of the reader. That's why it could mean so different seeing it in print, versus just hearing them. I use to overanalyze emails, texts, and letters. Trying to figure out what the sender meant by his/her words. It's a bad habit that causes undue stress on me. That's why I feel it's better to hear it, or talk to the person face to face.

Hi bluemoonpavilion Here and at many places... and many a times, these words on paper or even the pages of the internet all look so very black and white. I wish there was a capacity in these texts to convey the emotions the right way - no matter when we looked at them. Personally, I think that it is in our minds which controls how these texts appear to us. As for this particular incidence, maybe you had a prior experience when you were asked to meet and you forgot and it re-surfaced when you saw the message

Hi moon... It is not your fault. It happens to everyone. may be fields are different as like to mention, i never wish to receive phone sms or i do send them. But sometimes, in case of conversation, misunderstandings occur. I have misunderstood in mylot too, many times and later i have to clarify myself. IT is really a complicated issue but easy to solve, if the second person is ready to accept. have a nice time.

Yes it happens to me on an off, you english is me second language and even if I can speak fluently there is a time that the meaning of my saying is not the same has for what I wanted to express myself about something so it can create some tension and frustration,but my husband is able to get over that misunderstanding and finally our children too, so I don't feel dum.

You are correct. Whenever words are written/printed, its interpretation and message conveyed can be significantly different from that when the same words are spoken (heard). You're correct again when you stated that one is likely to get a different message when one chooses the same words to communicate with another; depending on the type of methods of communication used; for the resaons forwarded. Interesting, this is why the efforts at clarification and verification of the message is necessary. Thank the alimghty that the word 'why' was invented; because that word gives us the opportunity to 'bridge the gap' in communication; from a clarification and verification perspective. I am happy that you were able to get the correct message when your husband asked you that important question. Keep on working at sending the correct message; despite the method of communication being used, ok bluemoonpavillion? You're doing great!

How sweet! You know this is good to hear. I know it is true because my husband and I do the same thing. He will text me and I think he is mad at me or yelling. He is just concerned or working something out by getting more details from me. He loves to text and I think it is easier to just talk which eliminates getting the message across in the wrong matter. I now understand he expresses himself easier in a text then telling me directly. I think it's cute!

I have sometimes misinterpreted message though not exactly the same type of message. My husband is a soft speaking kind of person and even if he is annoyed or something of sort, he will still maintain that softness. It is very hard to judge him depending on his voice tone.