What would you say, when your mother complained of pain to you?

Hai Indah.... I know right know your situation must be really hard right now. its not easy to see your parent sick and can not do any thing to help them. Both my parent has been facing operation table, my dad twice and my mom once. Its made me really worry at that's time because I really not ready to lose them. All I can do is praying for them, ask God to ease their pain because He is doctor of all doctors. And I believe just by hearing her complain and massage her hand and feet she already knew you love her. TETAP SEMANGAT YA

This is such a hard thing to bear. Is the Doctor worried that to much pain meds may kill her? Is he worried that she will be in a lot of pain later? We have Doctors that treat nothing but pain. They can do many things to help with the pain. Do you have someone there, where you live? Will your Mother get better or is she going to die? All these questions come up regarding pain and it's treatment. Blessing and prayers are with you.

If she is sick enough to be in the hospital she should be getting medication for her pain. Perhaps you should speak to her doctor about whether the meds are helping or if she is in such a situation that they won't help anymore. Perhaps you should learn more about her illness.

hi, of course i will tell her to go at the physician that can define or check what is that pain in her body,actually my mother because of the age of 55 she have experiencing some pain in her knees and feet especially when she is standing for long time.

In most cases, nothing needs to be said! What your mother probably needs is attention and your time! I don't know what is going on in her particular situation... But what I have found through clinicals is that most the time, people just need to know that someone cares! And of course she knows you love her, but just spending time with her will help her to feel much better! =)

I'm very sad hear about it. Keep praying to Allah to ask your Mom soon be healed. And do not forget to give motivation to your mother to always think that he will get well soon. and tell him to not much thinking negative things about the desease. I hope your mother well get soon.

When my mother was hospitalized due to pain because of her liver cancer, thankfully the pain was eased by the pain medication given to her. But before she was given the pain relievers, I had to scream and shout at every nurse and hospital staff that night. My mom got admitted in the hospital at 5PM and was already complaining of pain. At two in the morning, not one doctor had come to see her since they told me it was the weekend and her oncologist wasn't on duty. I had to wake everyone up at 2AM shouting in the hallway because the only medication they gave my mother was a simple analgesic to bring down her fever. I told them that if that was what they were just going to give her, I could've given her the same pill at home. After that the nurses came to check on my mother every thirty minutes because she was really in pain. Before that, not one even said "boo" to her after being admitted at 5PM and she had the usual checking of temperature and blood pressure. The doctors were so afraid of me in the morning that three specialists came at 7AM to look at my mother. I threatened to sue the hospital because of the incident and already had contacted the hospital director who we knew personally. I told these doctors that it's not as if my mom is being admitted for free. That hospital is one of the most expensive hospitals here in my country so I had every right to wake everybody when no one was looking or even listening to mom's complaints of pain. I guess the best that you can do for your mother is to assure her that you are there to care for her if the pain medication doesn't work. My mom was actually aggravated whenever I would ask her like every hour how she felt and if the pain is tolerable. What we also did was to talk about my childhood and things that were funny so that I could take her mind off the pain. I guess it worked because after a week she was off the pain meds and still lived a couple of years even if the doctors told her she had less than three months to live. Do take care, Inda.

I think when she complain her pain to you means she really trusts you and depends on you. You are not a doctor, it is hard for you to help her away from pain, but you can talk with her, or tell her something interesting, so maybe she can abstracted from her own body and forget the pain on her body. To you mother in her age, the love from family member is more important. In some cases, she just wants to catch your attention by the way, and she wants your feedback.

i just would say ...i can understand how pain it is let us pray than complaining u should remind her to utter the god's name every time she complain hope u have a good patience to face this trial

Rely on God to help you. Read Quran next to her. This will ease her. Doctor can not help her as you said any medication didn't work yet. I wish your mother would be just all right.

Indah, it is pity to hear that your mother is very sick. Your mother is having hat sickness until the doctor medication cannot ease her pain? My mother is having diabetics and she had to be very careful with her food intake. If not, she will be having a very terrible pain in her body system. Because diabetics can cause many types of health complications. I think you can always ease your mother pain by telling her to pray more and be patience. It is because every medication needs time to ease the pain.

Yes, i would be like you, feel helpless. Seeing her in pain and yet i'm not able to help, really makes me feel useless and frustrated. As we are not her, we won't be able to describe the level of pain she's facing. Much as your mom might want to out on a strong front in front of you, deep inside, she's struggling hard to control it. If we can't help, at least we should make them smile, laugh, even for a moment, to take their mind off their pain. That should be the best solution to cure their pain, something where medicine can't.

I've seen a scenario of that in a hospital.for a daughter hear his mother complaining of pain is very hard. if i will put myself in a scenario like that, I think the only thing that i can do is to hug my mom and pray for her

My heart cried if it happened. I will pray hard. I hope that the disease was removed without pain. I hope your mother recover quickly without experiencing pain.

my dad passed away a couple of years ago so my mom has no one to complain to about her aches and pains, except me because i am only child. it is tough to see your parents grow old for sure.

I do not know h ow to answer you, as my mother almost never complained about pain. She spend her last years in a nursing home. The nurses called her their baby and talked about how she never complained,

Don't say any word, just be with her all the time. On these case, action a lot better than words

You have to say the truth. That you can not help her and also the doctor can not. So the only thing you can do/try is to keep her mind busy with something else or to leave her in peace. Being alone might help if she is able to think about nothing or her mind is able to escape to her paradise.

I have to agree with that you are of course right, you can not ease the physical pain, but when people complain they want some attenstion and sympathy most her pain is maybe because she is feeling lonely or so, so you can not say to your mother i cant ease your pain, you have to find nice words to divert her attnetion i guess you know her better see what she likes and do it for her and she will forget the pain to some things she likes, sounds good? good luck and hopes she feels ok soon, have good days