Hello to all of my Mylot friends...again.
By Katlady2
@Katlady2 (9904)
United States
March 23, 2012 9:35pm CST
Hello everyone. It's been such a very long time since I've posted here. And I hope you all can forgive me for being gone so long (if you even remember me, that is). Life has changed in a big big way for me...and it's all for the good. I've gone from being married (not happily, if some of you remember), to separated, living with roomies, and finally having the TRUE love of my life with me. By the way, Bill (aka the love of my life) and I are still together to this very day. I've gone through my divorce, which actually made me very very happy. Bill and I ended up in a homeless shelter for about a week shy of a full year. It was most definitely a learning experience, that's for sure. You learn your strengths and weaknesses when you're in a dorm full of people that are in the same boat you're in. Anyway, we both clawed our way through it all, finally getting out of the shelter to go and live with my daughter and her hubby for a few months (and I thank God for both of them every single day). As of now, we are both full time college students. I am working on getting my degree in Medical Office Administration, plus I am working on the last 10 units I need for my AA in General Education...a course I started over 25 years ago when I was going to college in my younger days. Believe it or not, Bill and I are actually living in the home that belongs to the father of both of my kids, along with his wife. My son is ecstatic because this is his home too. It's awesome...no Jerry Springer stuff going on or anything...we all get along really well. LOL! This is the happiest I've been in pretty much my whole entire life.
So...to make this a discussion, what kind of life changing experiences have any of you gone through? What has made you much happier in your lives? Feel free to share anything you want here please...it's all among friends. If you don't want to share, that's ok too.
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11 responses
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Hi there katlady,
Welcome back, i know i am not a part of your past since i am vey new here but i would just like to welcome you back and it is nice to hear that you are happy right now. I am also in a better state now since im am self exploring and trying to change my life to abetter one, better practices and loosing the weight that for me has dragged me down for some years now and yet i am thankful so that in my life i have a challenge and that i can be proud of conquering one.
Take care now katlady2 and hope to read from you soon.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Most definitely a big CONGRATS on the weight loss! That's a big hurdle to jump, and you did it. Good for you! I dealt with that too. I had gastric bypass surgery 4 years ago, and I'm so glad I did it. I feel much better too. Thanks for the warm welcome hon. I appreciate it.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 12
Hi Catlady, welcome back to mylot. Where have you been so far? Nice to have you back here again.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Thank you so much hon. I have been pretty much in the same area I've lived in for years, but because of everything I've been dealing with, I just wasn't able to get my head, heart, and mind together enough to post anything that would have made any sense. But I'm back now, and in a much better place, and in a much more peaceful state of mind.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
26 Mar 12
Don't mention it, Katlady2. Although we haven't chatted before but I feel it seems to me as if I have talked to you often. Great to have you back in here.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
4 Apr 12
Hello lovely lady. Sounds like life is as it should be for you and that gives me much happiness. You've been missed here and there are many new members to get to know and make new friendships with. You'll find a lot of the old characters have moved on or are not around much, including me for the most part.
I've recently had an event that I believe has changed my life and that was the passing of my dad. I find I no longer need to seek his approval and that it's finally OK to be me. It's been a huge burden gone from my shoulders. All my childhood issues are still there but his passing has given me room to breathe and I know that I can deal with those issues, or not, as I need to. It's hard to explain but I am even looking at myself differently and more able to accept the old stranger looking back at me.
Brightest blessings to you dear friend and hugs and much happiness to you and your Bill.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
11 Apr 12
Yes, I guess it was a relief . He was 98 and the last couple of years were difficult an worrying for me. I seemed to be grieving his loss before he was gone. I was so afraid of his being gone. I miss him and it's still painful and hard to accept his absence but it's getting easier in some ways, it's not as hard as I thought it would be. It's a huge chapter of my life I now I have finished the book.
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@AmbiePam (92794)
• United States
24 Mar 12
I've wondered about you! I'm so glad things are better. What an interesting living situation, but I'm so glad it's working for you all. I hope you'll be able to stick around here for a while. And good for you for continuing your education. I hope that leads to you getting a job you really enjoy.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Well, I remember your avatar, and I know that it has been quite a long time since I've seen it.
That said, I've been through a lot of life-changing experiences in the last year or so as well. First of all, about this time last year my husband was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma (he has been through treatment and is currently in remission). Also, I've reconnected with some of my best friends from my younger days and that has been something that has brought me a lot of joy during this tough time in my life.
Then, there is the fact that because of his chemo and radiation, my husband has developed an addiction to prescription pain pills and that is something that I think is putting our marriage in jeopardy. I'm trying to stick with him because I do have an idea of what he is going through, but I also know that if it puts my children's life or my life in jeopardy or if it puts us in financial jeopardy, I will have to just leave.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Thank you so much for sharing that hon. I hope it all works out for you. You need to do whatever is right for you and your children. It's a tough thing to go through, if it comes down to that point. I'm glad you've reconnected with your good friends. I'm sure they will be there for you to help you with everything you're dealing with. And just remember...your Mylot friends are here for you as well.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
24 Mar 12
Welcome back Katlady2! You've been missed!!! I am so glad that you are out of the bad marriage and have the true love of your life with you. When you have the true love beside you, you find that you can go through anything together. It amazes me where life leads you when you are needing your life to change.
Have you applied for grant money from the government? It doesn't have to be paid back and in your situation you would be eligible.
My boy friend (Bill kind of a familiar name isn't it? But maybe it's because Bills are really super people.) and I became engaged December 15th. It was a total shock when he asked me to marry him. We haven't set a date yet, but like I said it took him 11 years to ask so there is no hurry to tie the knot. We're just happy to be together.
Welcome back again, and I hope we will hear a lot more from you!
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
26 Mar 12
Thank you so much for the warm welcome back hon! I've missed everyone so much! Congrats on the engagement! And yes, Bills do seem to be the most wonderful of guys. LOL! I didn't even think about applying for grant money from the government, to be honest. I wouldn't even know where to start. Right now, since Bill and I are both full time students, we are living on Pell Grants and student loans. We'll be in debt up to our ears by the time we get done, but it's putting food on the table and a roof over our heads. I'm so thankful to God for that. My Bill and I are engaged too. We haven't set a firm date yet...maybe next year. I'll keep you posted. 
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
24 Mar 12
I will admit that I did not recognize you by your name but I did by the avatar. I am not even sure if you will remember me. I am now divorced myself, I am not sure if you ever knew I was married. This will be the second discussion I've actually admitted that in, though a few mylotters know that I am.
I'd rather not really go into details on it to be honest. I will say I am living back at home with my grandparents, and I am trying to get my life back together.
I am glad you found your way through the struggles, and I don't think it is weird for you to be living where you do now. I say if it works out and everyone is happy that it is a wonderful thing.
I hope to see you around here more.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
24 Mar 12
LOL! It's funny that you say that about my avatar because at one point, I had changed it to something else and got 'in trouble' with friends here on Mylot. So I had to go back to my beloved Cheshire. LOL! Anyway, you don't have to share anything you don't want to here hon. I really appreciate you divulging what you did. If you need a friend, please PM me here if you want to. Good for you for taking the steps necessary to get your own life back. And thank you so much for the positive reinforcement for what I have done. BIG HUGS to you hon.
@vovandat1988 (1121)
• Vietnam
24 Mar 12
Hello, welcome back katlady2!
I am new member here, so I don't know you before. I think I have a good job, lovely gf and have a happy family, some close frind make me feel happy.
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