How would you deal with a conceited and obnoxious friend?
By munach
@munach (49)
Philippines
March 24, 2012 5:15am CST
I have this friend whose seemingly proud of being beautiful, although she is beautiful but the fact is, it annoys me that she's becoming very conceited. Most of our friends had observed her also. I want to tell her about the kind of behavior she's showing but i'm afraid she'd feel bad.
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11 responses
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Hi there! If she is conceited only to you and your friends then maybe it is her way of joking but it she does that to others to I guess the best way is to tell her that she is getting out of hand. And needs to lie low the emotion a bit. For if it just friends and it would do no harm. I have to keep my mouth shut and besides I would not be a friend of someone whom I am or will be irritated later. We can never be friends:D
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Mar 12
It's simple, a punch in the face would be enough if it's a guy. I have an obnoxious boss. She's hardworking, which is fine, but the problem is she's also kind of an @ss. Well, I can't punch her since we're under the law here in the office. Although I've been messing with her and she doesn't even know it. Sometimes I'd go pee, intentionally pee on my hands, then tap her in the shoulders o arms to bade goodbye. Lol! There are also times when I pick my nose and put the booger on her drink, if she has one. Or just simply mess up her computer by logging her out. This will take time for her to log back in.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
28 Mar 12
Well given that I don't get along well with conceited and obnoxious people, I really doubt that I would really have friends like this. Of course, if someone who seemed humble and down to earth had fallen in with a crowd that had made them conceited and obnoxious, then really that would be another thing. It is almost like you are dealing with a different person, than the one that you had become friends with to say the least.
And I'll be perfectly honest, if someone was conceited and obnoxious, there is a pretty good chance that would not really not really listen that what they are doing is wrong. That is really just absolutely agitating when this happens, but conceited people do not really like being told that they are being such. This was one lesson that I learned a lot of the time to say the least and it is not a rather fun word. Calling it out of it might not be the best idea.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
LOL, don't worry about her feeling bad. She needs to wake up. In fact, you are doing her a favor if you tell her straight just make sure you are telling that to her constructively. So that she can improve herself and not annoy a lot of people in the process. XD
I think she really deserves to come back to earth and the hard way if necessary. That's the terrible thing about beautiful people, they sometimes think too highly about themselves.
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
7 Jul 12
You know at the end of the day, a true friend is one who tells you the truth no matter what. I have a friend named nick who has very few friends simply because he is direct. I love him because whenever I am behaving inappropriately he tells it to my face. Tell your friend the truth or one day her behavior will cost her a lot.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Mar 12
It's simple, a punch in the face would be enough if it's a guy. I have an obnoxious boss. She's hardworking, which is fine, but the problem is she's also kind of an @ss. Well, I can't punch her since we're under the law here in the office. Although I've been messing with her and she doesn't even know it. Sometimes I'd go pee, intentionally pee on my hands, then tap her in the shoulders o arms to bade goodbye. Lol! There are also times when I pick my nose and put the booger on her drink, if she has one. Or just simply mess up her computer by logging her out. This will take time for her to log back in.
@offkey (313)
• United States
24 Mar 12
I would tell her you are beautiful, but the way you're always going on and boasting about how good looking you think you are isn't very flattering, and your stating to come off as conceited, and that's getting annoying. Believe me her ego does need to be deflated a bit.
@cheszka (167)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I have a friend who doesn't have a pretty face, but has an almost perfect body. There is never a day that she didn't brag about her curvy body. It really annoys me, I don't understand why she has to remind me about it almost everyday. She never stops telling me stories about people she meet who admires her body. There are times I just ignore her, but sometimes to end a conversation, I just smile and agree with her.
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Mar 12
She should feel bad, she's making you feel annoyed and she has no qualms about it.
I've a friend who is one of the most intelligent guy in the world, but always puffing up his chest and talking 'bout "there isn't anoybody who can challenge him in the wits of minds" and that may very well be true, but doesn't mean I always need to be reminded about it.
So when he gets on one of his high horse and on my nerves,I would say things "like you're too full of yourself and need to tone it down some notches" or "boy, are you trying to impress me with your level of stupidity??"or "hmmmm,I need to bake you a nice big 'ole humble pie", Yes sounds mean, and I'm not tellin you to take that approach, but people like that need to have their ego DE-flated.
How I would tell you to appraoch it is,by telling her how actions are affecting you and others, of course she'll just think that y'all are jealous of her, so what?? You know you're not.
But if the friendly,direct approach doesn't work, well as one the respondents said, keep your distance, don't be around her as much, however there are two realities here if you do that:
1.You may either lose her as a friend completely
2. She'll see the error of her ways and stop
I know with my friend, he's starting to get the message and thankfully, I don't hear MUCH boasting coming out of his mouth.