Is Online Dating Something to Be Serious About?
By Pauline
@PDSaddam (10)
Philippines
March 24, 2012 5:41am CST
You see, I've seen a lot of people who are in relationships with people they met online, and I'm a bit curious on how that works. Let's say the person you've met is 2 thousand miles away, and it's pretty obvious that you both hit off the right spot. Then what? They say that distance is nothing, but would that still apply with a person you haven't met personally? There are some other means, yes (Skype, Yahoo! Messenger, and Facebook, just to name some); but will you be rest assured that you're the only one? Would it work like an 'open relationship'? Does it really last that long?
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8 responses
@machristinajes (10)
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24 Mar 12
This is a very nice topic which i want to discuss about.
Ive been in a lot of online dating websites for so long and had so many accounts before from different websites.
Ive talked to and even met a few guys who has been here to the Philippines not just to see me but maybe on a business trip as well.
It does not mean that every time you meet or start talking to someone online means that the person is already your Bf, nope it doesnt work that well.
For one, i honestly do not believe that i can have an online relationship only. For me, the online thing is a getting to know each other stage. And when you both realize how much you like each other and come to an agreement to know each other better in person and maybe meet then that is the time that i can really say its serious.
OBviously, you arent the only person that this guy is chatting or talking with because this is such a big wide world. That means that the guy also talks to a lot of girls from different countries. For me you dont need to compete with them at all. All you need to do is take your time and take it slow. Know the person better first and when you find yourself really liking him becaues of a lot of reasons then take one step at a time. Dont hurry too much on having a relationship because it wont work if it does not happen naturally.
@PDSaddam (10)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
So, you've really seen a guy you met online personally? I also believe that, if you already communicated with a person for maybe 5 months, he/she still isn't in a relationship with you unless stated; but surely, you're both in a state wherein you're interested in getting to know each other better.
But what if you really, really like that person? Would you cross the borders for him/her even though there's no assurance that he/she might like you?
@machristinajes (10)
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24 Mar 12
Hi there, yes i have seen a few guys in person and during those times when I met them for real, then that is the only time i can really assess if i do really like them or not.
I just dont base my liking in them on our virtual conversations because there were a few times when i really liked a few guys and when i finally got to meet them i found out some things about them in person which i didnt like at all.
I do agree with you that you cant be in a relationship unless you see each other in person, unless you really spend time with each other in person.
Even if i really really like the person i still wouldnt cross the border and just have a virtual relationship with that person.
First, when i start talking to someone online i always try to let them understand and know what our culture is like and i do still like traditional courtship.
If a person is truly interested in you, he would understand and respect your culture and views and would do things that will show his respect for you.
For me, that is the real meaning of having a relationship. Not just the online thing but the person wanting and doing the best he can to see you in person because he is really interested in you.
@seemared (771)
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24 Mar 12
On line open relationship? haven't heard of that but easy to assume. Can guess it out and one safe way to have an affair or what you called the open relationship without submitting myself physically..it is one good way but don't you think that you might fall for the guy after some time and feel like marrying him?
I am a married lady active in open relationship. the way that it is kept is based on some rules and that's why I have been able to keep and play it safe all the time.It has been almost one year. It is good on one perspective but not many would support it.
I have faced some boys online who wanted to chat dirty and I used to think, I am in an open relationship already, then why do I need to flirt with a guy so far away through net?
Sounds good as you are not physically getting into him. I mean you can keep your virginity( I lost mine already).
@PDSaddam (10)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Could it be like an open relationship in which you both love each other, but you guys aren't close in loving someone else (even if it's just an online thing)? I think it's a possibility that a person might actually fall for the other person once they truly meet in person; however, there's no assurance that the other party may fall for the other one in return. When you meet, you're already taking the relationship in to a greater height; and it's a risk too.
Really? You're in an open relationship? How does that work? Are you really doing stuffs with the other person physically or sexually?
True. Why do you have to flirt when in fact, you're already in an open relationship? But what if you're not in any relationship? Would you pursue?
@mscongeniality (110)
• Canada
25 Mar 12
Thank you for commenting in one of my discussion and now let me comment on your discussion too about online dating.
Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
But I am a witnessed of this kind of relationship within our family. It is actually my mom. After so many years of waiting for the person who will love her the second time around, she met her "destiny" as she call it online. Social networking is the means of their relationship. For they are in a different place of the globe. A long distance love affair. But they end up meeting each other. Finally met personally and now they are getting married on April of this year. You may think that I'm just making this up but yes it is true and yes they are both old as in my mom is already 59 years old and my stepfather to be is already 65! Both of them discover the magic of social networking and the fantasy that it can bring to reality. Love is always in the air in a magical way and even old people has the right to experience this kind of love too.
But always be reminded that it doesn't work to everybody and always be careful of those people you meet online. It is hard to find a genuine. My mom and her fiance case is one of a million.
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
25 Mar 12
My partner and I met in an online BDSM site, and are coming up to 8 years together. I know numerous others with similar tales. So yes, it can work.
Lash
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
7 Jul 12
Online relationships do work and most online sites recommend people that are very close to your location or in your location. You may be some miles apart initially but if your relationship is working out and growing stronger you move closer to each other or even with each other.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Good day PDSaddam,
Apparently, online relationship is vulnerable. Hence it is susceptible in every trials, much more of an offline relationship. Thus, an online relationship is not too reliable to begin and maintain. Although some people still go for it, as they find it interesting and exciting. However, if you are a serious type of person who wants their relationship to be sacred and lasting, then for sure, you will not go on for an online dating that will somehow lead you to online relationship as well. Since if you pursue an online dating, it is indeed a waste of time and effort. After all, generally, nobody likes to waste a single time without getting any return at all.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
I am not trusting any online dating.Few maybe true,but some re fake.Philippines people like that much,want something to chat,date and to marry.But i don't know if they sure,or confident to their doing.
