Being in love with a best friend is much harder than I thought it is.

You could try to assess if he has similar feelings for you, or since you are best friends, why not discuss it openly? I am sure you are both mature enough to accept each other as more than friends if both have mutual feelings. If it doesn't work out, let it be. You can choose to still be friends, or otherwise. Trust me, even if you make him your boyfriend, others can still be your best friend, even he. Is there really so much to lose if it don't work out OR finding that many years down the road "why didn't you try?" Just my 2-cents worth. Best wishes.

Well, he is your best friend and you know so much about each other. It can really mess things up if it turns out he doesn’t feel the same way. If he has a guy friend whom you trust you can use him to find out for you how he feels about you. This way you don’t have to break up a perfect best friendship.

it would be good if you gave it a try...u never know...!!! good luck:)

The only thing you can do is follow your heart and hope for the best. I had a best friend for 2 years and then we began dating. We always promised that if we broke up we'd remain friends, because we were friends first and we felt our friendship was very important. We've been together 11 years now and have 5 children together and currently have no plans of ever breaking up.

I've been in to this situation before but eventually I ended up marrying other girl. While me and my bestfriend are no longer best of friends anymore. Yes, we agreed to have a relationship and it was a good one. But the break-up is so hard that we decided to never communicate to each other again. Right now, she's still single but she's got a partner. Hope this helps.

Cleverland, I think you can take a chance. My husband and I are used to be bestfriend for four years I just broke up from my boyfriend for about a year when he took chance to tell his feel toward me want more than friendship in our relationship. Knowing over four years how good person he is made me confident enough to take change and give our relationship chance to higher level. And here now we, are we've been married for six years and we still best friend. Everyday we hold hand, grateful for having each other. I am so glad he decide to ask me for other relationship than just as a friend. I feel lucky. So why don't you take your chance?? because you never know.

I had a relationship with my guy bestfriend once. We have been friends for years and he decided he wanted to take our friendship to the next level. We were together for six months. But eventually, he broke up with me because he could not handle our relationship.I was so hurt at first because he was my first relationship and I a also his. After two years of aloofness, we became friends again, I have a new boyfriend now.

My significant other was a friend before we had a relationship. When we encountered some problems during the relationship, we vowed to keep the friendship alive no matter what happens between us. He was the friend I could always lean on to and I knew he considered me as his source of strength and comfort. I am the only person with whom he can confide his innermost fears and doubts. This must be the reason why we got attracted to on another. I did not want to lose him no matter if the relationship would just remain to be a friendship but I guess the love was really strong since we were able to overcome the differences between us. it is not really difficult to love a friend in a romantic kind of way. What becomes more difficult is if you suppress the feelings. Not all relationships end in pain. There are many ways to make it strong and endless. Just need some little sacrifices and a lot of understanding and patience.

yes..it is a bit harder. I have the same issue here.. he is a friend and quite not that close and do feel like getting a bit closer and it's because of the fact that he is blind and I feel pity for him. I don't know what to do so I posted a discussion detailing what it is and did get some responses and everyone says to back off if possible.

I have been in a similar boat 2 years ago. I fell in love with an old friend who I reunited after 10 years of absenteeism. I make the fatal mistake on allowing it to proceed to the next level, but I was willing to risk it all at the time. Things never worked out, as we grew up together as teens and knew each other very well. But I took in mind that we never saw each other for 10 years so I assumed it would have made a difference. Well.... It doesn't we were still best friends willing to risk what we had, and we did. Things never worked out, we got into a huge fight and moved on. Now today we are slowly becoming friends again. Don't do it unless you know for sure things will work out. But then again, sometimes taking a risk gains knowledge. Are you willing to ponder through life the question "what if"?