will you wait for two years?

For a girlfriend or boyfriend, the answer would typically be 'no'. For a spouse, yes. If you are married, that's different. If you are planning to get married, I would do whatever it takes to marry FIRST, and then go abroad TOGETHER. I have dealt with tons of 'boys' who come here from other parts of the world. About 6 years ago, I met a guy from Kenya. He was a great guy. A real decent person. He showed me this picture of a girl, and she was absolutely beautiful. He told me this girl was waiting for him back home. But a it was about a month after this that I came in one day, and he told me he had decided to find a girl friend. I was shocked and a little ticked off. I told there was no way in the world he was getting a girl friend here. He has a stunningly beautiful girl waiting back home for him, and he shouldn't violate that. He looked me in the eye and said "But I am so lonely, and I have nothing to do, no one to talk to. I'm all by myself." And you know what? He's right! He's a million miles from home, living in a tiny little apartment, with no one else from his country, no family, no friends, no one with him. He gets up, goes to work, comes home, and goes to bed. Some of you people have no idea whatsoever, how much pain and loneliness, you cause your boys send them to the US, and other countries. You need to stop doing that. If you are going to come, get married, come here as a married couple. Or don't. But don't do this send one lonely guy who gets so lonely and depressed, he runs off with some girl that ruins his life. And then you wonder why your 'boyfriend' stops sending letters, stops calling on the phone, or sending an Email. Hello... Human beings are not meant to be alone. They are not designed for that. You send them on the opposite side of the world, and think they'll be fine by themselves? And by the way, most guys don't fall into this on purpose. They don't come here and say "I'm going to cheat on my girl friend here". It's not like that. They simply get lonely, and depressed, and have a need for someone to talk to. That's when a girl shows up and off he goes whether he intended to or not. No, this is a bad plan. You people who do this, need a better system. This is not a good way to go. Either get married, and come together, or just break up, and tell him if he comes back and you are still not married, then we'll talk.

I had a bf before who went abroad to work, he said he'll be back in two years and asked me to wait for him. I said of course, I will wait for you. That's exactly what I did, we had constant communication, and we exchanged emails and pictures. After about a year and a half, he stopped communicating with me...that was because he found someone else. I'm not trying to discourage you or make you feel negative about your situation, I just want to share my experience. I understand that you're bf has to leave and you can't control the situation. I believe If you're boyfriend really loves you, and if you two are really meant for each other, I'm sure no matter how far or how long the years of being far apart are, you two will be together in the end.

I would not wait to just talk about your relationship. I would only wait if it were a definite committment.j

hi there, my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 8 years now and it is a long distance relationship. he is in the states and i am here in Philippines. it is pretty tough but we always work it out. if you love a person and you think he is all worth it of your love then you will wait for him. 2 years may be a long time but just try to keep yourself busy

Did he truly say that? That you should wait and then you'll talk about the relationship after two years? I don't want to wait for two years if I will just be able to talk to him after two years. It will be better if in those two years that he went abroad, I will still be able to talk to him like everyday or even just once a week. That I could wait. But for two years without talking? No thanks.

life brings challenges everyday. Things changes everyday. when someone asks me to imagine things after two years, i do not answer that question, or generally avoid it. i am a firm believer that life can not stop for one person. I would say that you should remain in touch with him for a while and then see of yourself as to how your relation has grown over a period of time. It might be that you begin to like someone else or your BF starts to like someone else within this time frame. please forgive...it was not meant to be offensive. 2 years is along time for something. If you both are destined for each other then things would help you bring him back in your life

Well, is he asking you to wait and then at the end of two years you'll discuss whether you want to stay together? Because I'm not sure I'd accept those terms. I guess it would depend on how we both felt, and whether he was committed to me and said he was committed to me, or if I started to feel like he was just moving on but wanted to have a backup plan.

If we really trust each other & if he's really true to his word,then yes,I'll wait for him.If he breaks my trust,then I'll trash him.I'm a girl worth loving & keeping so I won't waste my time on someone who doesn't understand my worth.

2 years is to too short for two people who are really in love. If he is worth waiting for then wait for him. Long distance relationship is hard for other people as they said it is a hindrance. But the truth is long distance relationship is not really the issue at all. It is always the trust and faithfulness for each other. And you said that he said to wait for him why not give it a try. Love isn't really easy at all. Long distance or not there will always be a trials to test your love.

Im totally confused. Your profile says male (boy) but your pic is of female (girl). Anyway about the subject. Long distance relationships ususlly dont work. 2 years a lot can happen. Many times the one that traveled meets someone and has a family there.

Why not just get married now? 2 years is a long time. Why should you put your life on hold?

if you love him and you think he loves you too then go and wait for him. it is really hard to tell but if you are meant for each other distance will never be a problem. a long distance relationship is not easy and you know that even short distance relationship is hard. its up to both of you, if you have a strong trust with each other and you love each other deeply then ask for God's guidance. nothing is impossible with God.

mscongeniality is exactly right. A long distance relationship isn't the issue here, the issue is whether you know, love and trust him enough to be able to wait for two years without raising a doubt. The fact that you don't seem entirely sure suggests that you both aren't entirely on the same page about this. If you both know eachother that well and love eachother that strongly, then 2 years is something you can handle, because it's just like a parent going abroad for 2 years - you (usually) know them really well and stay in contact with them constantly and trust them with your life, and there's hardly a doubt raised in your mind other than you obviously missing them. On the other hand, if you don't know eachother that well, you don't completely trust eachother and you don't actually trust him with your life... and if you don't even know whether or not he'll come back or if he's playing you for a fool, then there is a significant communication and/or trust gap which could leave you in a huge, huge level of uncertainty and confusion for the next two years. I should also mention, since I haven't seen it suggested, that in some cases, if you love someone that much, you will actually go abroad *with* them. I know someone who came here to study for a few years and his girlfriend came with him, and they went home a perfectly happy couple afterwards. Personally, if someone I loved was going to work abroad, I would probably keep in contact and visit them regularly, if I wasn't going with them.

2 years is a long time to wait and long distance relationships almost always fails. Anything can happen between now and then, maybe your partner will meet someone, or maybe you will meet someone. However, if you really know and trust your partner, time and distance won't matter.

it's depend on mentellty . if my love will go away from me even 5 years and it's true i would definately wait for it.i just believe in one love.

Hello my friend! It is so sad, i think we should think carefully to decide to wait him/her for two years. if your relation is strong, you can wait. But it is difficult to guess something occur. Be happy my friend.

I think if the there's already a commitment between you two that you both are lover not just close friends then of course I will wait for him. If you think he is the right guy for you, if you really trust him, love him and you think he is worth waiting then two years are small price for love and happiness. But If deep down in your heart you don't think he is the right person for you then you should think twice because you don't want waste your time for somebody who doesn't deserve it.

The good thing about being in love is that we surely believe everything. We are happy to wait and doesn't consider too long because we are in love. The days are just but a fleeting moment. Only the breeze of love that we feel continues to give us hope that our dearly beloved will one day come. Two yeas is just but a short time. When your lover loves you more than money, he will come back to you to be with you for the rest of your life. However, when he insist on another two years, or when you get married, he will go back, then it's time to reconsider your options. You don't like to be married with someone who will not be on your side to share the love that you dream of.

I would definitely say hell no .

Yes, my dear asliah if i am really in love and my partner asks me to wait for some years i will wait for her, but to win in these situations you must be a true lover, normally nowadays people are mistaken by considering attraction as love where as attraction is just like a timely lure or lust but a true love can become the reason of your living. thanx