Talking back to grand parents

Philippines
March 25, 2012 6:36am CST
being brought up well by my parents, I've been used to being polite with the elderly even when at times they ask so many questions again and again, or question your decisions... despite all those situations/circumstances, I never forget to be polite. I would just keep quiet and listen to whatever they have to say, expecting that I would have something to learn from it. So this childhood friend of mine has been bothering me... Last week, she SMS me saying that she talked back and bad mouthed her grand parents. At the end of the message she added: "with what I've said, I wish they'd finally leave me alone" Though she didn't really relate what words she threw to her grand parents I think I can imagine it already. I know she was raised differently, but no matter, I think bad mouthing the elderly wahtever they tell you or scold you with isn't well... I don't expect everyone to agree but it's what i think... Thanks for sharing!
6 responses
GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
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4 Apr 12
I think that we should respect not just on elders, but everybody we meet unless there is any need for us to do otherwise. If somebody has never done anything wrong to us then there is no reason at all that we shouldn't be completely respectful to them. However, you don't know what has been going on in this girl's life. Just because her grandparents are elderly doesn't mean there isn't the chance that they might have done something wrong to make her act like this. Maybe she was just worked up because she didn't get her own way about something.
lowyder
@lowyder (282)
• Canada
26 Mar 12
i think being rude to grandparents shoul just be not allowed there should be a penalty for doing so and a some sort of punisihement as if you were a small child because thats all it does itn make a person small unless they were unfit parents and then unfit grndparents that would be a different story ... not sure situation depends person to person if you absoutley feel it is needed and they r calling you down or dissing you for no reason then yea talk back and defend yourselves but dnt just out the blue be like yo gma get over her or i break yo nec k lol .. ya no smarter then that but good luck with endavors .. LOW!~
lheigh
@andrey0109 (297)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
25 Mar 12
When I was a kid and my grandmother is still alive, I am always the 'sour' apple in her eyes. Always scolding me even it wasn't my fault or I never involved myself in doing something that irritated her. She always blames me for everything, of course as a kid you already put that in your mind, so I was mad but I couldn't talk back to her nor be angry in front of her coz the scenario will be worst. I admit I sometimes wish bad to her but when she passed away I was so sad and I blame myself for it. I missed her a lot even though I am never her favorite coz I know she did her best to raise us alone. Our grandparent's are sometimes strict but that doesn't mean we can just be rude to them. We have/must respect them.
shylade
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
hello there! its not really good seeing someone talking back and scolding older people. even if its not your relatives, the fact that there are age ahead of you, you need to be polite. you can say your piece with respect because one day you will grow old too and i guess you will not like it when they do it to you too. i am not judging your friend, maybe there's a situation that triggers her anger but just remind her that they are still her grand parents and they deserve some respect especially from her.
kukueye
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 12
Well, personally i prefer not to talk to grandparents and grandrelatives becauce their view are stuck in 1980s and not update, somethey they cannot leave u alone , hence u need to leave them alone and avoid them at all cost , sometime they visit house , u said hi and go out for 'business meeting' and such and if possible leave early, if u do that often, hopely they get the message and not come and visit an empty house.Haha.
cruride
@cruride (66)
• United States
25 Mar 12
Talking back to grandparents is a no go for me. I was raised not to talk back to my grandparents. With that said I also feel that there is a difference between talking back and making sure your being respected. I have seen individuals have to demand respect because they have been verbally abused or told inapprporpate things.