Arranged Marriages - Choices

i honestly hate the thought of it. even just the thought of my parents getting in between my relationship with my boyfriend makes me go nuts hehehe well it depends on the law they are under. like most women just marry whoever that is because it is what their parents want and that they think there is nothing they can do about it.

Arranged marriages are things of the past! Let it be forgotten forever. Both the man and woman must have the right... I repeat MUST HAVE THE RIGHT... to select his/her spouse for marriage. Marriage is a lifetime contract... a lifetime commitment...

Hi Gracekwenx! Girls are given the chance [sort of] to decline an alliance.I have heard narrations of her sisters rejecting grooms[my mother is more than eighty today]even in my mother's days. However, the choice is virtually made and the parents do all the groundwork before coming to the stage of the boy and girl meeting each other[it is a ritual where the boy''s folks visit the girl's place, the girl sits with them , offers them coffee, sweet and snacks and there is a mutual assessment.] Sometimes, the concerned groom and girl do not like the looks of the other and they do reject a person. I have , however , found that these days, girls exercise their option much more than what we used to do. In our days, there was the occasional phone call and snail mail exchange. Nowadays, it is chatting, telephoning and also going out together occasionally.

Yes and no. Probably depends on the place and maybe religious religious beliefs. I would also imagine that in countries where women still haven't been given any rights, they most likely don't get a choice in matter and if such is the case I doubt that they would find courting to be necessary.

I feel so much for who have to go through that, no one has the right to choose for the two involved. But they say love comes with time and if we want we can love anyone, there are couples that had been married for a long time that said it came with time so it's really about commitment. But it's really better when we first fall in love and then think about being together. Like in the movies!

Some people run away from arranged marriages so I'm assuming that counts as choices, sometimes they can meet up with each and have a interview but marriages back then were for political reasons or survival or such, still some people stick with the old ways like in Asia.

I live in England, we have a lot of women here who seem to be okay with the basic premise. Most of the time, at least here, the women have the chance to voice an opinion on the subject. Arranged and forced are two entirely different things. In forced marriages, the parents choose and the bride has no choice at all. In arranged marriages, it's not uncommon for the families to know each other and parents are usually sensitive to what they're setting their daughters up for. Aftat all, this is the guy who will father their grandchildren, and might be looking after them in their old age. Having said that, it has been in the news recently here that honor killings are on the rise in Pakistan, and this is often the killing of a young bride who doesn't bring enough dowry into the family. It's been known for generations that the Indian culture accepts the murder of girl infants and the killing of brides once the dowries have been spent. And the police look the other way.

In case of arranged marriages definitely bride will have a right to decline the marriage.But it is possible only in some cases.Most f the girls will obey their parents words.If parents like that person very much they will ask the bride to marry him and if she dislikes,then they will convince her to marries him..But in some cases brides only decide whom to marry.It will always depend upon person to person..