Are you forcing your kid to have honor or recognition?

My son is in the honor roll and I'm happy for that. I didn't force him to achieve that. It was her Nanny who wanted him to aim higher. Forcing my kid to have a recognition won't do good. Because if they thought that they're good enough, They'll be too complacent with their self.

In the future, when I'm gonna have children, I will never force them to be an achiever or an honor or to be one of the top in class. I will support and inspire him/her to have good grades. Just good and passing grades will be enough for me. U\If he/she will get low grades, I will tutor him/her. I will help him/her instead of being disappointed or angry. I will not pressure him/her. I will just help him to achieve better grades.

Well, I think that children should have dreams, I think that children should have goals, and I think that they should want to achieve something greater, but should they be forced to win something all of the time? No because children aren't perfect, and for the children that are perfect, well, you have to wonder? A child that is perfect, and doesn't make mistakes or rarely ever makes mistakes could get bored or they could think that life comes easily. They could also end up resenting people and wishing that they were able to be children for once in their lives. I, personally, wouldn't put too much pressure on a child to have honor and recognition simply because you wouldn't want them to lose their childhood and end up resenting or hating you later on in life.

I am not forcing them that, we just want them to go to school and learn and have fun. i guess some parents not really forcing their children but just challenging them so they learn to be competitive. We do challenge our kids but not forcing them, we just want them to feel how it is like to achieve and when they cannot they also feel how to fail and how to get back again and stand up and move on, in that way they get stronger and be better persons.

When my daughter was in Grade 1 , i am always tutoring her in her studies and yet she didn't have an honor. On her 2nd grade, she doesn't want to be tutored anymore, so i left her to herself, and i was amazed she got the second honor. From then on, i didn't tutor her anymore. She seldom even asks me on her assignments , and then she got the first honor on the next years and graduated salutatorian on grade 6 and got a scholarship at Philippine Science for high school She graduated cumlaude at UP Manila for her BSBA BioChem and now she's a full scholar at St. Luke's for her medical studies. She's at top 4 of the whole first year. We didn't pressure her in getting honor at school, we merely keep telling her that her course would be our latest legacy to her.

First of all if my kid has honor or awards in school I would be proud of my kid... well I think that is one of the significance of it, to be a proud parent and that reflects how you raise your child. Second, the word force is something that we should not use to our kids or to anyone, you should not pressure anyone to do something they do not want... right? Maybe, the perfect word for that is persuade them or give them a goal and give them prize in working hard and for a Job well done. If you would ask me if my kid can or cannot get into the honor list, it doesn't matter as long as she study hard and eventually finish her studies. I guess the point here is that we need to put a little pressure on our kids since we are still molding them to be a great person, we can compare this to a clay that we need to put pressure to mold it to became something useful or became our art but not too much because it could also deform it and it will be useless and when the clay is already dry and hard even if we put more pressure we will not be able to mold it anymore... :D

A certain amount of authority is necessary for getting children to learn. Awards and recognition come their way if their performance is good and is a real reward to them and to the parents. Over a period of time this "forcing" gets the child to do the study, encouraged by the awards that serve as an incentive. That is good as far as getting the child to do what is expected of it. In fact like getting children to eat right, which they always resist, but as they grow and understand, they comply. What is wrong is that when parents try to realize their ambition through their children. That is unfair. Then the children feel unreasonable amount of pressure and an emotional breakdown is bound to follow. Not good for anyone.

hi, of course not,parents should not force their child to have a honor or recognition from the school because it will not result to good,i always tell to my nephew and niece to try their best to achieve but not forcing their self.

I will not care much about honors but I will be concerned if his performance in school is not good or below average. Parents should not force their children to study but they should guide them on the right way to study and provide the necessary tools for studying.

My children do not have to be forced to study. They do it voluntarily without me asking them to. They are very competitive and active in school. They get good grades and honors. There are some parents though who want their children to excel and I cannot certainly blame them since they want the best for their children but not to the point of giving punishments if the kids get low grades. We are not well off in life and we have to make many sacrifices just to allow the kids to continue going to school. My responsibility is to see to it that they are provided with what they need in school. My children know that the only way to improve the status in life is having a good education.

if i will send my daughter in school i will never force him to have an honor after the year of her study, instead i will congratulate for her achievement.,yah its true that forcing to ones child in reading or having an honor,awards is a big pressure to her. There is also psychological effect to her.That if she/he cannot meet your criteria then it will become a stress for him/her so never force them,therefore, give them gifts every time they can achieve goals especially end of school year.