stepmother = rude and cruel. is it true?

Not all the time a stepmother is cruel. It depends on the person. But I guess, if the children is really close...the stepmother would always turn out to be the antagonist because she will be replacing the biological mom. But it'll be unfair if we would tag all stepmom's as cruel.

In some cases this is true, but in others it is not. It depends on the person. When I was younger, my mother married a man with four kids (she had two). He treated my sister and me terribly, and my mother treated his kids just as bad. Neither one of them cared about their stepchildren. They were married for five years; the worst five years of my life. Because of this experience, I thought all stepparents were cruel and hateful. My fiance, on the other hand, had a wonderful stepmother. She married his father when he was only nine years old. His mother had abandoned he and his sisters. When his dad married his stepmother, who had one child of her own, she took them in and raised them as her own. Their birth mother tries to come around and emotionally abuse the kids still (they're all grown), but they don't really want anything to do with her. They claim their stepmother as their mom. She was there for everything for all of them. And her daughter views her stepfather (my fiance's father) as her dad. Now I have one child and my fiance has two children. We're bringing two families together and we'll both be stepparents to each other kids. He treats my baby girl as his own. In fact, he's the only father she's ever known. And I absolutely love his little girls. I know that, in our case, it won't be a case of the cruel stepparents. We'll have a happy blended family. I know I'll love and care for his girls just as much as I love and care for my own daughter. And I can't wait until we can have a child together to bring our little family even closer.

In most cases, it is yes. On the one hand, stepmothers always pay more attention and love to their own kids, while can't use their hearts to treat their stepchildren; on the other hand, people tend to think stepmother won't treat her stepkid with heart, therefore, sometimes, even with a not so bad stepmother, others always be critic to her. Therefore, it is really hard to win praise from others.

I really beleive that it depends on the siuation and the people in volved. There may be many instances where thisi s true, but there may be otheri nstances where people may perceive their step mothers to be cruel because they didnt get soemthing they wanted. I think the situation has to be looked at from many different angles.

Sorry to say but I have seen so many step moms....noone is good...They dont behave nicely with their step children and the behavior becomes worse when they have their own children..

in my opinion, stepmother is not always rude and cruel, because is a process for step mother to adapted with step children sometimes step mother will consider the stepchild as their mother, i think if they stepmother consider their stepchild same as her own child, maybe they step sister/brother will jealous, i think depends of their own. it just need to process to adaptation.

Personally I think it would depend on the person and what really matters most to them. Many times someone will be like this if the children have been taught not to respect another woman as their mom, or just because the husband tends to spend more time worrying about the kids instead of you, etc. Most of the time I think most women are Welcome to join in with more kids, and be there nuturing for them. Just the few that are rough like this helps give all Step Moms or Dads for that sake bad names.

It's depend on different women. However, as me, almost stepmother is not good with their step children. It's sad. Maybe because they must stand too much pressure!

For some, the statement might be true. But I do believe that a person will be rude only if someone does the same thing to her. So, if you're a good step son/daughter, might as well your step mom will be good also. Sometimes, we just easily believed in things that we learned from teleseryes or movies.

It is not always true as i have a friend who has a step mother and she loves him like her own child.Yes we have heard many times that they do not care about their step child but in my friends case it is the other way.So i would say it is not true everytime as i have experienced it and the step mothers do care about their child.

nope.i myslef is a young stepmom..naturally people will think that they(we) are cruel just like the fairy tales..but i may say that not most of them are like that..as for me,my stepdaughter and i are like friends..she told me a lot of things thats happening in her life.may it be her love life,studies,or friends she seeks advice to me..though sometimes i got mad at her for being too lazy,i think its just natural,even biological mothers get mad and scold their children..i care for my stepdaughter or should i say one of my friend and i love her also..:)

To every rule there will always be an exemption. Let's just put it that way. :)