When people take advantage of you..

well, there are instances when i felt that i had been taken advantage of by some people who befriended and took my trust into gainful opportunity for them. mostly they were about money. i would often pay for my friends, in the hope that next time they would also do the same for me. but every time, they expect that i would pay for them. it was just so unfair.

I hate people who take advantage of others. It is really not good. I am not such a person who takes advantage of others. I also don't like anyone taking advantage of me.. We should stay away from such people.....

'Friend indeed!’ When I was in college I would go back home with a classmate and friend of mine. We used to have a cup of lovely grape juice in a fruit stall in the bus stop.The cost was just one rupee and twenty five paise. I offered to pay the first day but she immediately insisted that we would go dutch.I told her it did not matter and that we could always adjust on another day when she could buy me .She flatly refused and insisted that the transaction be straight and over the very same day.She also said that she might not be able to do it all the time. I abided by her wish but this incident has always been with me.At that moment I found it a bit odd but we were from different financial backgrounds and so I kept quiet.I could also understand her. I appreciate her stance and also feel that what she said was right.This would never give rise to any misunderstanding especially if something is on a regular basis. Actually it is very easy in any relationship if we just offer to share the expenses or pay for one's own especially if two friends are going out to a place or any such thing regularly. I feel that this ‘friend’ is indeed an exploiter and your friend ought not go out with her in future.This can be put down to the cost of learning and not clarifying straight right in the beginning.Treating a guest is a different issue [I am sure you would have understood my meaning exactly and not thought that we would grudge entertaining friends]

Hello Kiran, I think you friend learned a good lesson. I don’t know how people can act like this. I am a person prefer to refuse the offers politely. If I accept any offer then surely I will wait for an opportunity pay back the same. I remember, one of my friends, who worked with us temporary when our Centre organized a seminar. After a while she visited our office just to meet us and she invited me to shop some thing near by place. I went with her and she purchased some cloths. At the time of leaving, she offered one set of cloths to me which she purchased for me, I didn’t know that,. I politely refused to take her gift as I know that she may or may not visit our office again as she is doing some other works. I think I have done a great job, she never gets a chance to visit us again, but she used to send mails mentioning about her marriage and other busy schedule. She is telling in mails she is eagerly waiting to meet me again but I can understand the situations of people. She is a wonderful friend for sure.

Yeah it is very awful when others take advantage of us. So many people do things like that. It can be very frustrating. That is sad that that has happened. And that the other woman hasn't called back. That has happened to me a few times in regard to a small business I was doing. When customers would order something at times I would still give them their products and let them pay me later if they didn't have all the money then. There were a few occasions where they didn't pay me back. And one lady who I considered my friend still owes me a decent amount of money for some products and it has been almost two years. So I have decided that even those that I would consider myself close to I have to watch out and be careful as they can still try to take advantage of me.

I'm sorry but the someone that you know ALLOWED themselves to be taken advantage of, I just had to say that. From the moment I had to buy movie tickets, then tacos and what not alarm bells would've been rining in my head,because to begin with this person is just an accquaintance, not a friend, so the question must have been asked "why am I doing this for this person who isn't my friend?" As for the "friend" that was the lowest of lows, but I don't even fret when people like that do those kinds of things to people and THINK that they've gotten away with it. Call it karma or fate GOD doesn't like ugly and what goes around comes around, sometimes twofold. In the early part of my life, yes I've had people taken proper advantage of me, but then over the years I've learned how to speak up for myself, so it doesn't happen anymore. One time someone who I thought was a friend asked me to make a purchase for them and told me I'd get back the money when they got paid, that very day when I went to collect my $300.00, they gave me an excuse that they weren't yet paid and I would have to come back another day, when I went back, it was another set of excuses and dodging of phone calls. To this day I've never gotten my $300.00, but I leave them in the hands of GOD. But hopefully the someone you know, will take this as a valuable lesson and not get suckered like that again.

There was a job that I once worked where people started to capitalize on my genrosity, and my excessive strength. I worked in a grocery store, and where I worked at, I was different than everyone there because I was so big, and so strong. I played American football, and lift heavy weights which helped me get so big and strong in the first place. When I first started, my co-workers were a little intimidated by me because I did things by myself that they would have two or three people to do. I didn't mind helping people, especially when I was receiving a lot of compliments because I made what was difficult for them easy. Because I kept lifting heavy weights, and heavy stuff, I was still growing. It helped moving bigger things, but after a while, I was having these big jobs handed to me, which wasn't a big deal at first, but then they were forced on to me without anyone else even trying to do the work. When other people did do some of the projects, they usually have two, three, or four people, but when it was left to me, I had no one. It was me and my muscles. I took this up with management only to learn that they were part of this scheme as well, even influencing part of it. There were a couple of times I could not show up for work because I had tests to take, and there were a lot of things to be done at work. Because I wasn't there, the rest of the people would have to actually work to do it. I was wrong. By the time I went back to work, not only was none of it done, but it doubled up. I ended up doing all of it, in frustration. And it started to show, since other people, the ones who weren't trying to exploit me, got behind me as I continued to confront the management about this. Mind you, making the strongest person in the store angry is not the best thing to do, and I am a 350 pound guy who lifts weights. The management realized I had limits when I called off for exhaustion, and found out how much stuff I was actually doing by myself when they need several people to do it. They learned to appreciate what they had, and stopped taking advantage of me like that. I still do the heavy lifting, but only because it is my choice not being forced to do it.

That is a rip-off if I have ever heard of one. I have had a lot of people 'borrow' money, sincerely promising to return it, and do the avoiding act. The good news is that it can be done only once. Once bitten, twice shy. Right? With my experience, I think you friend should call the other friend and invite her over to another movie. Only, go Dutch this time. This other friend doesn't need to know this till she comes to the bash. Your friend may not get her money back, she will certainly get her money's worth, every time the other friend dips her hand into her purse.

Its not their fault, its your fault that you give them chance to do that with you again and again.

I have had this for years. I deleted many people out of my life and I still do if they abuse me. I changed my attitude.. I don't treat other people the way I want them to treat me anymore. I treat others the way they treat me. So if they stab my back I stab theirs. It's the only way to get respect but also to attract the right people. Those who care about me as well, who are there for me if I need them as well, who don't have lousy excuses, break my stuff, steal my money, etc.

I have lots of friends who always take advantage from me. I realize that. But most of the time, I think, it is ok to pay some food for them. Even they never do the same thing, it is on for me. And the result, God always bless me :-)

People like that really suck. I hope the believe in Karma, because what goes around comes around. I have been there myself where I was always the one paying for everything, and my dates or friends where the cheapo. I guess you learn with each interaction, who is your friend and who isn't.

It’s very bad taking advantage of someone especially when money is involved in today’s economic issues. You should tell your friend that she does not have a friend in that other girl. I would be very annoyed if someone took advantage of me.

My grand daughter's mother, use to take advantage of me, all the time by having me to baby site my grand daughter, and then she stay gone, all the time, out partying all the time, and I never knew where to find her, so I put a stop to it all, now when I want to see my grand daughter, I go by her house, to see her, I stop keeping her.

Well i can understand ur problem...these situations u know they get worse as u get in deep into it... Anyways .. It seems u live in India.... Even i do... Please dont mind asking me a question...I am not making fun of u but "Where are TACOS available in India.." I really want to know for the sake of knowledge...I would again remind u that i am not creating HUMOR...just for the sake of General_Knowledge... Well i had Buritoes and Tacos on my trip to Los Angeles..After that i did not..so i really want to know...

Ah that really really sux! But those experiences are not a total lose, for we get to know who are our friends.