He noticed me!
By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
March 27, 2012 5:05am CST
He's 7 years my senior. He's tall, dark and handsome. He was my childhood crush but he used to ignore me a lot. He only spoke to me when he needed something and he never noticed me as a woman even when I was growing up and becoming one.
Last weekend, I was taking a walk with my husband, son and my sister's children when we passed by this tall guy talking to a friend of his. Suddenly I heard soembody calling me so I turned my back and it was him. He noticed me and the children but he didn't notice my husband. This guy who used to ignore me was talking to me and treating me like a woman, a very attractive woman. Since he was an old friend and my husband knows him too, I didn't ignore him but gave him a casual smile, chat a bit and told him we had to leave.
I was nearing our house when a car stopped next to me and there he was again, talking to me and staring at me unbelieving that the kid he used to ignore has now grown into a woman. He's too late though because I'm married and I'm not interested in him anymore.
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15 responses
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Thats how it always works out, doesn't it? I mean, you were there I am sure at one point trying to get his attention, he did not bother. Now he sees you all grin up and now wants to bother. But like you said, it is too late.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
It really felt good and I'm still laughing my heart out!
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@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
30 Mar 12
awwwwww i love stories like this! fantastic!
i hope he goes home and cries into his pillow about what he missed out on! haha :)
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@chicksdigscars (5483)
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11 Apr 12
hahaha his loss! should have snapped you up when he had the chance. silly man!
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar 12
Hi toni!
You are right that now he is too late (the guy in question) and he has missed the bus. It is of no use if he now tries to be in touch be with you or tries to make contact with you.
You have your own family and you need to look after your kid and hubby.
Let him feel (or even repent) whatever he thinks about you at this stage.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
He's already married too and there's no way i would have married him if he had noticed me before.
Yeah he can think whatever he likes and keep it to himself. 
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
27 Mar 12
Some people never see anything until it's too late for them to have it. I had an ex contact me on facebook. Now I am friendly with several of my exes but this one was a total jerk. He told lies about me and when my brother called him out on it he ran. Ran to live in another state with his other parent! My brother is rough but seriously not that scary this dude was just a coward. Anyway he contacted me, sent a note saying how he missed me and heard how I had kids blah blah. Did I want to go out for coffee?
I ignored him, my husband (who I knew when all this had happened as we where good friends for years before dating) called my brother hysterical laughing about it. Bro didn't take it well and I am sure I will not hear from him again. The thing was he only contacted me because I had the "Family he always dreamed of with me" (yeah that's the line he put in the note!). I have what he doesn't and I beleive he just wanted to ruin it for me. Not that I let him.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
He still got the looks but gone was the youth. He was thinner than before. But physical appearance no longer attracts me. It's what's inside that gets me closer to people and i realized he was not someone i would have loved to end up getting married with.
He was thinner than before. But physical appearance no longer attracts me. It's what's inside that gets me closer to people and i realized he was not someone i would have loved to end up getting married with.@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Apr 12
That is always what we realize Toni, whenever we already have our own partners in life and are happily married. 
I guess, if we are not happily married, it would be a different story. Right?
I guess, if we are not happily married, it would be a different story. Right?
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
27 Mar 12
That;s right, too bad for him. He doesn't know what he lost thats for sure. I have been there, done that too in ways. Don't give him the time of day if he tries anything, it won't happen. If he does try anything, who knows he could dump you afterward like a hot potato. Never give in to people such as this. They will wreck your life, let him drool if he wants to. You have the last laugh. Thats how it should be in this case. 
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@sourabharoy1992 (730)
• India
27 Mar 12
Yea you are surely right friend. I agree with you. He can be dump her. And I don't think he notice her beacause he fall in love to her. He has any other reason.
Otherwise if he realise he fall in love to her that it is really to late.
Nice to meet you. Hope to see you again. Have a nice day.
@Uziflee (17)
• United States
28 Mar 12
I highly commend you on the Way you handle yourself and the Situation, you were polite and firm in your Message to him. And there is nothing wrong with a Girl getting a little Ego Boost.
The Guy obviously is still a Jerk, since he showed very little Respect for you and your Family when he pulled up in his Car after leering at you.
GOOD WOMAN!!
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Thanks. I'm not a rude person and I don't know how to flirt with anybody offline hahhaha! Thanks.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
it is his loss then especially if he is still single now and unmarried! @toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
He's married. But the way he acted, it seems he's not in a happy marriage!
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Oh i love this discussion, the words just so clear to read,i always admire the way you write toni! And hey I miss you..how have you been? i really want to add you on facebook to know you more, is that possible? hahaha
And that was a very cute encounter! How did your husband react on it?With the guy treated you that way? Well, good thing you don't feel anything now..
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
Hi Clare, he's not someone i would marry. My husband didn't have to react. He thought that guy and i were friends for a long time even before he came into my life. He knew him too as we all live in the same hometown.
Nobody could add me in facebook but i could do that. Just pm me your facebook id or email address and i'll add you.
Miss you too.
@sourabharoy1992 (730)
• India
27 Mar 12
Hello friend,
nothing to say anything about this matter. But I want to suggest you be alert and try to refuse him.
Reason he was your chilshood crush you already say that so you will must fall in love of him. And he can break your peaceful marriage life and your husband who loves you so much. So focus on your daily life not on him.
Nice to meet you friend. Hope to meet you again. Have a nice day.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
Well I'm not someone who would drool over a guy. That was only a crush that never developed into love.
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
27 Mar 12
Yeah it's almost like sweet revenge to have the object of your PAST affection take a look years later and say "wow I let her go", sweet revenge indeed 
Well ain't nothing with HIM looking, pining, and wondering "WHAT IF" you know,he could do,feel and think how he wants, so long as your end is clear and by that I mean you're over him, committed to your husband and child and the life you're building, everything's fine.
Hmmm you must've really grown into a beautiful woman, keep it up 
Well ain't nothing with HIM looking, pining, and wondering "WHAT IF" you know,he could do,feel and think how he wants, so long as your end is clear and by that I mean you're over him, committed to your husband and child and the life you're building, everything's fine.
Hmmm you must've really grown into a beautiful woman, keep it up 1 person likes this
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
27 Mar 12
It's not the physical appearance i think. I still look the same when i was in my teens. I think it's the confidence that i exude that make people notice me more now than before.
And indeed it was such a sweet revenge!
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
28 Mar 12
Oh the love that it was. Once upon a time in the heart of such a wonderful and beautiful woman, resides a special feeling for a tall, dark, and handsome. Now, it has come alive, but it's sad to belong to someone else, when your dream man comes rushing, calling your name and noticing you. I know that things have changed, but I also know, based on experience, that somehow, somewhere, there is that little spark of love that sprang out from the heart. Anyway, may you enjoy your family. Never mind that tall, dark, and handsome guy. Is he available?@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
That was a childhood crush that never developed into love. He's someone I would never think of marrying.
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
28 Mar 12
They always seem to notice you when its far too late to snag you....
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
27 Mar 12
Its never late than ever. Though there is something on your mind still for him. As he was your crush.
