How to survive from a long distance relationship?

Philippines
March 28, 2012 3:40am CST
Hi Guys, please give some ideas and suggestions about what to do so that my relationship with my boyfriend will work or last since we are in a long distance relationship. he is my boyfriend for 3 years on October this year and I want to know if he is really honest and faithful to me as he is always saying. Your opinions and comments are very much welcome and appreciated. Thanks friends :-)
5 responses
• Slovenia
2 Apr 12
hello there, girlthing. first I have to say, congratulations. 3 years for a LDR is a very long time, so if you ask me I would say you are doing very good! however, may I ask you why you started to doubt him now after all this time? is it he acts differently or something? and my advice to you is to make it last is do what you've been doing for the past 3 years, i dont know what you guys do, but probably chat daily, see each other on cam, share emails, text eachother, play online games maybe? however, those are usually things LDR people do, I know, cause I'm in one right now as well and its my 3rd ldr. So far its only about 4 months, but alright. I also meant to ask you if in all this time you ever had a chance to meet with him in person too? as with my boyfriend this plays a huge significance.
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
hi ap0calyptic! we've just been in a ldr for 3 months only because last December were still working in the same place but on January 2012 he resigned from his work and he went back to his hometown that is why we are in a ldr now but actually the distance is not really that far and we always see each other every month from the time he came back to their place, He come to my place once or twice a month and sometimes its me who visit him in their place. We communicate always as in everyday through phone and internet. But there are times that I can't control myself from thinking if he is being honest when he say that his just in their house and doing nothing aside from talking with me over the phone, I don't know if he is telling the truth and I don't know if he hangs out with friends or go somewhere because his not telling em about it. that is my concern! :(
• United States
28 Mar 12
Long distance relationships are hard. They take a lot of work, and take a lot out of both people. My fiance is in the navy and deployed. He's been gone since November. And before that he was only home for two weeks. Our entire [romantic] relationship has been long distance. I would have never taken on a long distance relationship with anyone, but we were friends for ten years and I knew we could make it work. The most difficult part is not being able to call him whenever I want. Since he's on a ship, I have to wait for his calls, which could be days or weeks apart. We skype when we can, talk on the phone as much as possible, and email each other daily. I believe that in a long distance relationship, communication is extremely important. If you don't keep in contact, there's no way to make it work. If I go a week without any contact with my fiance, I begin feeling lonely (even more than I already do). Trusting someone who is far away can be hard, but you have to have faith in that person. If you don't have faith, you don't have anything. Good luck!
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hi Joannamarie. Thank you for sharing this wonderful thoughts of you and also your own story of having a long distance relationship. This really helps a lot and now I can say, whatever happen, I will always hold on. Goodluck also to you and your fiance. Best wishes!
@lakantar (1573)
• Greece
28 Mar 12
Well first of all trust is the main thing you both need. If you don't trust someone it's better for both to leave it. Then I think skype is a nice program :P At least it helps us :)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hi Lakantar. We haven't tried skype yet. But someday, may be i'll try that. Thanks for the suggestion :-)
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
For me long distance relationship is really hard to survive for a couple but i think the only way to make it is just always trust your partner what ever he tell you. Just always think that he is not doing something wrong that will hurt you. Also keep in touch to him. Always call him and if he is busy just try to understand your partner. Even he is far from you make a way to make him feel that you really love him.
• India
28 Mar 12
Hi! Girlthing. First of all if both of you love each other truly from the core of your heart and feeling alone all the time and thing that the person to whom I love will become mine for whole life. Then I am sure no one can thing about other girl or boy. Long distance relationship can survive the only requirement is to be a true lover and do faith on each other. Green hint: The more you will define the more you will get to know about ur relationship. Enjoy the life.
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Thank you Believe_Bio for sharing your thoughts. I really love my boyfriend and I am very much willing to do everything in order for our long distance relationship to survive. Have a Great Day!