my facebook

I have heard of this happening with some of my friends. My husband and I don't really have this problem because we talk about things if there is ever a misconception. Plus my friends are pretty good about not posting anything that could hurt our relationship. My biggest issue was having people from my past look me up. These were people that I didn't want to have anything to do with. My ex husband was one of the people who constantly was looking at my facebook page. That scared me more than anything. I quickly learned how to block people from ever seeing me on Facebook, and how to set my privacy. If you have people posting things that are hurting your relationship, I would talk to them about it. Sometimes people post things and don't realize that is could be misinterpeted. Just let them know that you would appreciate it if they would watch what they post on your newsfeed. I've actually defriended people because they wanted to air out all kinds of personal laundry for the whole world to see.

In psychology we talked about the theory that there is more than one cause for an issue, the apparent problem, and the real problem were two such factors. Facebook to me, and also in that theory, is an apparent problem, much like the phone can be a problem if one perceives that it's used to much, or a TV, a computer, radio, pretty much anything can be an apparent problem. In reality those items are just the tangible focus of blame. The real problem in the above examples could be attention, or lack thereof. All of those items can distract a person, and in turn detract their attention from another. As far as postings on Facebook, we have control of that, not Facebook. FB cannot post our specific location on it's own, we have to provide that information. FB only has posts of information that we decided to place there. If FB is double-edged, it's only that it can be used as a place to post positive information, or negative information, but the user decides that, not Facebook.