The Respect is Gone
By cearn25
@cearn25 (3456)
Philippines
March 29, 2012 6:33am CST
To tell honestly, I do have high respect to people whom I think worthy to be respected. No matter if you are rich or poor, friend or relative, if I think they are deserving to be respected, I will give it especially those people who really showed to me honesty, modesty and also respect.
Now, I am taking my life with the way I wanted it to be. I just wonder how people could judge me easily in everything I do. I didn't expect that I would hear harsh things and would presume it will happen to me. I couldn't take it anymore. What they say about me are already too much. They would say I will not be successful and I will not be able to graduate.
I find it rude. They are not helping for me to be successful. I don't want to take it seriously because it will just ruin my plans. I prefer not to mind what they are saying about it. Things has already change.
Have you also meet this kind of people? How do you handle them?
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10 responses
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I avoid them and get them out of my life. I find positive people wherever I go. I suggest you do the same.
People who are negative are often going no where themselves. So they try to drag other people down. Or if they are going somewhere, they want to be superior to others and they can't be if you outdo them.
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@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
You are right my friend. those people who only bring negative impact to my life should be avoided because they will not do any good if I would still mingle with them. It hurts though that I we have to go up to this point. Why do they do this to me yet I didn't do anything bad to them?
That is also what I have observed to them. They are not anymore those people whom I used to know. So bad.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Mar 12
When you hang out with positive people, the negative ones will become a faded memory.
When they start loosing friends, maybe they'll grow up.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
In the first place my friend, I don't really hang out with those negative people whom I consider. They didn't even know the whole of me. But thanks, you are right with what you have said. I mingle those positive people and I call them my true friends. They keep the energy alive. I just love those people who are true to me no matter what.
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
Hello cearn, yes I also experienced that one too. Sometimes, it will be your family themselves who will be judging you.
My only advice is that you prove to them that they are wrong with what they are trying to say about you. Just do your best in whatever you do.
I assumed you are still studying based on your discussion. So, in this case, you should really study well and make a goal like giving your best in every subject to aim for a higher grade. I am sure in the end they will feel guilty about what they said about you.
Also, in everything you do, never forget to put GOD in the center of your heart as He will really help you in your journey.
You take good care and GOD bless.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
You are right. These people who try to down me are actually my relatives. Some are neighbors or people in my place whom I don't really know. I wonder they know much about me yet I only know little about them. Weird.
Yes, I am still studying. For the mean time, this is the best thing I can do, to continue my studies and do well in school. I will really prove to them that they are wrong.
Thank you very much for the very kind and encouraging words. God bless you too.
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@banta78 (4326)
• India
29 Mar 12
Honesty and modesty are good moral values. It is nice to possess them and respect people who too have them.
But it is also true that many people don't have them and don't respect people with good morals too. But it their choice.
I think you should ignore people with bad qualities. They are not worth your time and energy. Focus on people with good qualities. Have faith in your self. Also, it does not really matter what people say. What really matters is what you believe in and practice in your life.
Have a good day my friend. Cheers! God Bless you :)
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
It is so nice to read those wonderful pieces of advice from people here in myLot. Anyhow, people are different. There are those good and bad people. But I think people originally are good. It is just that they are driven by some forces which made them to what they are now.
I would like to deal with them in the right way. I won't let them just destroy my future. Sometimes I just couldn't think of what they are saying. I can't believe it.
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@angelgee14 (462)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
This reminds me about networkers,networking motivators.They always say, "stay away from negative thinkers, they will only discourage you all the time.Which is true, we can never hear any positive or encouragement from negative thinker.
Avoid and ignore them, they will never help you. Give yourself a good challenge and prove to them they are totally wrong and let them eat their words (aw,I hope I didn't sound too harsh here) :)
@angelgee14 (462)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Great, some people are happy with other's downfall, I find those kind sick minded ones.However, do not throw them any bad words, still show them kindness that will make them annoyed once they feel you are never affected. Reverse psychology works a lot for negative thinkers.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
True. I am doing that kind of technique my friend. In fact, I don't fight back the way they doing to me though what they are doing are already beyond the limits. I still want to be strong for myself. I am good to them like for example when we meet, I greet them and smile at them. I just want to think positive in spite of the situation. I will keep doing good until they stop. I think that is the best way.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
You are lucky you have networking motivators who serves as your counselor. Thanks for sharing to me what they have shared to you. I will do help me a lot as I face those negative thinkers and those people who doesn't believe in me. I will prove to them that they have a wrong presumption about me.
More power!
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@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
12 Apr 12
it is easier to see people who are negative and wants you to fail than people who want you to succeed , same people who will never praise you in your face when you succeed will talk at your back when you fail ,stop caring about what people say
@AmericanNotes (82)
• United States
29 Mar 12
Your Being judged 24hours a day 7days a week, It's the truth! What you choose to hide from others is a lie& will eventualy come out
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I try to avoid people who cause trouble, but sometimes, I will admit, it is unavoidable. You just never know when someone will come along and do something that you don't like, but you have to deal with them anyway no matter how hard you try to get away from them.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
They are everywhere. It could be in our workplace, neighborhood or in the school. They just pop out when they feel insecurities to themselves and when they think they are threaten by our presence. It is the reality. We can't avoid them. But we must not lose hope. They have weakness too and that weakness is our win.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Apr 12
WHy let such things bother u? Let those words be a form of encouragement, motivation for u to do even better and graduate with good grades 
People are always free to judge and we can't stop them. The only way to prevent it from spreading the wrong direction is to prove them wrong By getting upset, frustrated or angry, only allows them to be happy, achieving their sole purpose of not being able to graduate. Look at things in an optimistic way ^^
People are always free to judge and we can't stop them. The only way to prevent it from spreading the wrong direction is to prove them wrong By getting upset, frustrated or angry, only allows them to be happy, achieving their sole purpose of not being able to graduate. Look at things in an optimistic way ^^ @cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Why does it bother me? It is because I can't believe those people whom I trusted so much would eventually the first persons who would want to bring me down. Anyway, I have realized that I shouldn't be really be bothered about it and I should get on with my life. It is a challenge for me. I treat it as their own way of viewing my life. It is just that they viewed it wrongly. I have to correct it by proving to them what I believe is right.
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@bobben012 (35)
• Germany
29 Mar 12
The best answer is beeing successful . If you are satisfied with your life it doesn´t matter what other people say . Focus on important thinks like school or the profession you wanna work at . There are allways folks which try to bring somebody down .
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
You are right to the maximum level my friend. Though I am not yet a successful person in terms of what I have achieved in life, I am very much contented or satisfied by the way of life I have right now. The only problem I have today are those people who keep on trying to put me down by saying annoying things and presume like they are somebody-who-knows-it-all. I still think optimistic despite of it and hoping that they will realize soon what they are doing and stop drawing their attention at me. Why don't they focus on their own lives instead of me?
@maryeliz02 (1)
• United States
29 Mar 12
I can tell you that I have been thru this. I was told that I would have a house full of children and that my life would not amount to much. I had the mind to tell them a few things about them that wasn't nice; but they were my elders and I wasn't raised that way; but what I did do was prove them wrong; I applied myself and had nothing more to do with them other than speak and keep it moving,You know how you're raised with those old saying from your parents my parents saying was RESPECT WILL GET YOU WHERE MONEY WON'T, so know matter how tempting it is to blast these people just hear and don't hear and keep it moving;don't burn bridges you might have to cross again; you never know where that helping hand is going to come from.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Thank you for sharing to me your experience my friend. What you did was right, you have to really prove them wrong and show to them what is true. Another thing, I have learned a lot from you especially about the saying. I definitely agree with that saying. Money can't buy everything.
Have a good day and more power!
