Unwelcome
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
March 29, 2012 7:55pm CST
Good morning to all!
I just want to share about how I feel right now about my "FRIENDS" who don't like me. I am new in this town and I had to enroll my daughter at one of the schools here. I made friends at school and most of them are "SEA MEN WIVES". They were OK at first coz I am a very friendly type of person and I am very easy to be with anybody. They invited me to a lot of parties and activities. And after few months, I noticed that they started staying away from me. I can feel that there was something wrong but I just ignored them and stayed friendly, until I kept on hearing about them gossiping about these two mothers who used to be their friends and left the school and transferred to another school. They talked bad about them like those mothers are conceited and feeling pretty and stuff like that. LOL So, I knew right away that they are just jealous! I happened to know those mothers who they always gossip about, and they are not bad as what I heard from the mothers at school. They were very nice and pretty! LOL
And now, every time there was a party and activities, they like taking pictures, and there was a one group picture and I was in it, this one other mother deleted the photo and asked why I am so photogenic! LOL They were like kids you know! LOL I can see on their face frowning and I even caught one mother whispering when the teachers or other people always giving me compliments on what I wear. LOL
So anyhow, I don't wanna rant too much. I just felt unwelcome and I am sad about it. I don't know why people get jealous. One mother posted our photos from yesterday's activities on Facebook, and they were putting some comments on the photos like "PRETTY GIRLS", except for the picture I was included. LOL If they don't like me, they should just tell me and I hate it when I heard that they gossip about me. I know that I am not welcome coz it surprises me that one mother asked me yesterday if what school I am going to transfer my daughter. So, I think it means I should need to transfer my daughter! LOL
So, any of you here had a situation like mine? How do you handle these kind of situation?
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7 responses
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
First, it was funny reading your messages with a lot of LOL's on the side. It's very cute.
Anyway, your situation is VERY COMMON. Obviously there are lot's of people out there who are just contented with their lives making other people's life miserable. MOST of the time they are the one who are miserable because they are ugly and just insecure about you.
Well, just ignore them and STAY BEAUTIFUL, ELEGANT and HAPPY
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Thanks dianon! Hahahahhaha I know!!! The reason why I kept on adding "LOL" because it made me laugh thinking about those people coz they were old enough to act like a child.. hahhahaha Yes, I am ignoring them now and I posted a saying on Facebook related on this discussion, and those mothers asked me who I was referring to.. GUILTY? lol
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
YEAH! Go girl... The best thing to annoy a person is to ignore them. It really works.. hahaha =) lol.... TRUSTED and PROVEN
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@khorrycarlos (72)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Well, in this world, there are a lot of those who pretended to be our friend at first and later on we find out that they became wolves. My advice is just be what you are. You are beautiful and nice so they envy you. These people I guess do not have jobs and are not busy people so all they do is gossip. Just do what you do and live life happily. Stay away from them because they are not really your friends. If you keep on staying with them maybe you will also be included in their "Karma". You will never know when will it happen. So stay away. Find new friends. Those who are nice and transparent. Those who can be happy when you are happy.
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@khorrycarlos (72)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Believe in your husband. He is the one who loves you the most. He will always protect you.
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
31 Mar 12
everyone says to stay away from them and they are right. this is because they seem like they are jealous of you. you seem to be a pretty person, this might make them a bit nervous. you know chicks, we have to haze each other. but then again, i said the word, "chicks"...as in chicken heads. real grown up women don't have time for petty antics like that.
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@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
I hate those kind either!
So far, I just befriended with the nicest mother's of my daughter's classmates at school. But I knew some issues regarding the parents that was raised in a meeting that I've been attended at school and it's quite very childlike to engage in a "fight" for a mother like them *sigh!
I also felt those unwelcome feeling in some group of mother's in the higher level, I just stay away with them and sticked to those friendly mother's. Sometimes, I opted to be alone.
In your case, the monster moms *LOL befriended you at first then, when they felt that your beauty will shine the most... they were threatened *ouch!
You shouldn't expect them to personally tell you that they don't like you. Of course, they know that it's not being good to tell it (wow they still have modesty *LOL). Just read between the lines.
Yes, you should stay away with them either. Who cares! There's still friendly mother to look forward too I guess.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Mar 12
Oh yes many times and it's hard. Personally I don't care about others or being alone but it's harder for your kid(s). At certain point (as I pulled back more and more) a friend said: you have to take your legal place. If you don't show yourself it will only get worse! So I did and everything changed. Now, if I think they don't like me or my kid I go over and confront them with it (I ask) no matter if there are others around or not or it's in the middle of the school.
Take your place, show yourself, be proud on who and what you are. They all don't need to be your friend but they can be polite and respect you.
You will see you will make new friends, real ones.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
Yes, I want to do that but I am a kind of person who is prank and don't want to confront, but right now I am ready to tell them what and how I feel. From now on, I am not afraid to loose them coz they are not worth to be my friends and I still have many other group of friends outside the school.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Mar 12
this is a very sad situation.
imagine how you feel and that's not nice.
being ignored is always something nemorlano and does not speak well for them.
but you just have to find a new company and start and you stay away from them and they feel like you.
I do not know what else to say it is difficult but there is always a way out.
nice day and success.
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