.... And you ask "WHY"?!
By Rocketj1
@rocketj1 (6955)
United States
March 30, 2012 7:55am CST
I DO NOT understand some people. A fellow mylotter has posted about having been physically abused recently by her husband. She really wants to know what to do about her situation. What really surprised me about the comments on her post were that several people actually wanted to know WHY he hit her! Huh?! What an absolutely ridiculous question!! There is NO reason for someone to be abused. Period.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
30 Mar 12
I agree that NO one has the right to abuse a person physically or verbally. I will say this if a man or woman hits another and the other person strikes back they deserve what they get. I know this one woman that doesn't live far from us that when she gets mad she hits or scratches or verbally hits her hubby. One time he slapped her back and she was surprised. Men get abused just like women. If you get abused even just once report it get it on record at the police station. There are places to go. Just get out and get help before it is to late.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Mar 12
I can not understand why many women suffer such a thing.
Violence is horrible nshto the best you can do to complain and also this is not a temporary period to allow a man to hit you once, it can be repeated forever.
just to avoid these situations and do not live longer with this person.
nice day ~!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
30 Mar 12
I am guessing for a very simplistic view!
That view being; YOU must have done something to get this reaction! Always thinking the victim incited this behaviour...a narrow minded assessment, as for some odd reason the perpetrator was "inspired" somehow to violence! Those of us, whom have walked in the real world..KNOW this is NOT so! NOTHING should induce a violent action....and then there are those in the world that love gory details!
Been there, had it done to me...a dark place I escaped, never to re-visit..EVER!
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
31 Mar 12
Ladies...Thank you! Where the BIGGEST part of that problem is; YOU actually begin to believe...YOU deserve what is happening to you...and ESCAPING that mind-set is the hardest part! It's like an addiction...when one sinks deeply into these doldrums...it becomes VERY HARD to believe there is anything ELSE!
Thank goodness, for memories, as they keep you sensitive to your surroundings!
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Hi ya, hows you? All well I hope xx
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Mar 12
I just so agree with you. No reason at all. It just makes me sick to think of it yet it is so widespread all over the world.Women with low self esteem are the most prone to abuse and it some warped way they think that they deserve the punishment. It s just so awful.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Mar 12
If I recalI correctly, I didn't ask her why he abused her. I simply asked her if this was the first time that he had hit her. The reason that I asked this question was because of the fact that I do think that everyone does deserve a second chance. There is not one single person among the mylot community that has never done something that they regret.
My husband has hit me one time in the ten years that we have been together, but I didn't feel the need to leave because I love him and it was an isolated incident. Now, I can honestly tell you that if he ever puts his hands on me again, I will be gone.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
31 Mar 12
Oh, I am so sorry that I misunderstood you. You are correct, we can only give advise but ultimately she is the one to decide what to do.
I guess that I am hoping that those who asked the question were really wondering "what reason did he give for hitting you" rather than "what did you do to deserve it"? Because if they meant the latter, I'm appalled!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Mar 12
I'm sorry if that is what you thought that I meant. I guess what I was trying to say was that not everyone asked why he hit her.
The fact of the matter is that the reason doesn't matter, this lady was looking for advice and I offered my advice to her. Ultimately, the decision that she makes is her own decision and there is really nothing that you or I could do to change the decision that she makes.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Mar 12
hi rocket what clods those mylotter were. why is stupid. surely they know women are not for hitting.there is never any excuse for a husband to hit his wife,none not ever.Why were they not telling her how to get to a battered woman's shelter and get help.I cannot fathom any one here asking such a silly question as most here are thoughtful kind people.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
31 Mar 12
Morning, MsHatley..
I must say, reliving those days...Some of US, do not have enough of US left, mentally and physically---to climb out of that deep, dark HOLE! You can talk to us, listen to us...until you are blue in the face! But, unless you take us by the hand, and show us the light--we cannot get there, ourselves! We are morally, emotionally and physically busted! We started out with low self-esteem, and what was left...stripped away!
It's like an innate sense...ABUSERS always find victims, they are able to sniff out us, with low self-esteem...KNOW how to prey on us..and Voila, another victim! It is a pattern..with both!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Have I seen this post? maybe not. Either way she needs to get out, and it's nobody's business why she was being abused. It took guts for her to post that, and now people are ridiculing it by asking why she was hit?
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
31 Mar 12
My answer to you is that we have many people of different cultures here and in some of these the abuse of a wife or child is accepted. Understand that I do not condone this is anyway. Surly human beings should have developed beyone the need for physical or mental abuse of each other. But in reality we haven't .
@maezee (41988)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Why one commits an act of violence is ... insane. That's just them ignoring the fact that he ABUSED her to begin with - HELLO! There is NO excuse whatsoever that that man could come up with to justify being a wife-beater. No way! As far as what she should do...Leave him! Once he starts I don't believe he will be able to stop. He needs anger management help or SOMETHING.
Anyway, that's crazy. Maybe it's a culture thing...But I'm pretty sure violence of any kind is WRONG unless it's in self defense.
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@gellmichell (11)
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31 Mar 12
yes,you are right,whatever happens,that man abused his wife that is absolutely not right. i look down upon that man who hit woman.
@AmericanNotes (82)
• United States
30 Mar 12
Maybe she should leave her Husband, No need to stay in an abusive relationship
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