What are the pros/cons about living with your parents?

The pic you paint is not different from the situation over here. One bedroom or studenthome is the same price as nearly renting a house yourself. Many over here rent a house or appartment together. As I understand your pros are mostly about your mother being your housekeeper for free. I think my 21 year daughter is still living here and liking it (she never wants to move out, we live like adult women together, have both our freedom). She has to give me a hand. She is living here for free, I pay for everything and I am not her housekeeper, cook, or slave. I hope your parents won't read this this I would not be flattered by what you write and kick you out. Saying your freedom is killed because your parents have to work (you don't need to study then???) is one of the most immature cons I ever heard. If I had the chance I would live on my own. I like to be alone and I would not care to be poor or have hardly to eat or have a very small room at all. I would not abuse my parents to cook and clean for me and stab them in the back by complaining my freedom is killed because they have to work. Ever asked yourself who will pay for you and your study, the roof above your head if they don't work?

The cost will be less if you live with your parents. And they can take good are of you and you don't have to worry about the eating. Of course there are some disadvantages of living with your parents. Such as you are not as free as you want. You have to go home earlier.

I used to leave my parents and live alone for one year, so I could really understand the pros and cons of living with parents. Just as you said, living with my parents means I could save a lot of money, which could be used in other fields. For my parents know my habits and flavors completely, they could take care of me very well. I don't need to worry about anything. But the cons are also very obvious. The largest cost is the lost of freedom. Different views and habits may lead to potential conflicts. My parents think that they do everything for my sake so that they often neglect my feelings.

hi, i will still choose to be with my parents,especially when i have work because when i go to work and go home from work there's food that i can eat,but of course when my parents with me i need to behave especially in having of boyfriend,of course they dont wanted to have me that.

In my opinion, it doesn't really matter that you are living with your parents, what matters is the relationship you have with them, because if you have some paranoid parents, you will find a way to live some place else. If the relationship with your folks is ok, there shouldn't be a problem living in your room and doing some small chores in the house, as part of the family.

I am 23 and still live at home with my parents. I would love to move out - not because I have any kind of problem with my parents - but because it would give me more freedom and independence. My parents don't try to stop me from going out whenever I like or anything like that but I still find it a little constricting because obviously I have to think about them and their plans when deciding what to do. I work full time but on a low wage and the cost of renting (even just a room) around here is very high. I think the main advantage, for me at least, of living at home is because it costs me less so I can save up. Once I have saved enough, I can then have driving lessons and get a car which will should give me more job options. I could then hopefully get a better paid job and therefore be able to move out. If I did start renting somewhere now, all of my money would go on rent, food and bills and so I would be not able to save any of it and don't really think I would be able to move on any further - a scary prospect when you think to the far future and retirement!

well, you have provided honest assessment of pros and cons of living with parents. as you mentioned, the top pro is of course the savings from rent and other costs of living. the top con is, as you cited, is the limitation of freedom. well, it depends on the parents' disposition with their children. but you are right that we lose independence once we live with parents because we always have to accommodate their presence.

When my ex-boyfriend and I broke up, he kept our apartment and I had nowhere to live, so I moved back to my parents' home for a few months. Aside from that I have lived on my own or with a partner for many years. In a way it was nice to live with my parents again, not because I didn't have to worry about rent and bills for a few months, but because I enjoyed spending more time with my mother. We often spent the evenings together and we talked a lot. Today I am married and my husband and I have our own home. I am happy to live in my own home, because I don't have to follow other people's rules, and my husband and I make our own decisions about everything.

after living on my own for my last two years of college, so I could finish a 5 year program in 4, I found my first job within a few miles of my parents house and my hometown. I was already engaged at the time. I paid rent to my parents, but they turned the money around and gave it back to me in YEN for when my now hubby and I left to live in Japan for a year. It was hard being back at home after making your own hours, cooking your own food, eating on your own time. I also had to live with my parents rules, so when the fiance came to stay for a weekend, he slept on a couch.

Well, your not alone in this. There are lots of people who live home with their parents. Even when they are married. And lots of cultures as well. Most commonly would be italians and chinese. I have witnessed this first hand. I currently live with my parents in their house, but I have my own apartment on the third floor. I live there with my girl friend. I have no problem with it at all. The only thing that bothers me is the fact of all the noise outside in this neighborhood.

Just stay with them for a little while. Enjoy their company while you are there with them for there will come a time that you will get married. Of course as married couples, you should separate from any of your parents in both sides. That is biblical. Your husband will be the head of the family now. Now that I am pregnant, i really miss the way how my mother take care of me. But we are miles away now. Just be happy and don't rush things. Everything will fall on the right place in God's time.

You seem to have your head screwed on well considering you're able to weigh up the pros and cons and have so far concluded that the pros for living at home outweigh the cons - a lot in your position can't do that, move out and get in over their heads and allow pride to get in the way of security and family. Me, I moved out when I was 18 years old, couldn't wait to get out. Looking back now, I wouldn't change a thing. I learned and I learned fast! It's expensive, lonely and not at all easy. It takes time for everything to fall into place, but now, almost a decade on, I'm glad I did it. Living under my parents' rule and with their unstable tempers with each other was damaging me as a person (not their fault, I don't blame them). I was the guinea pig first child and they made a few mistakes lol. I am who I am because of what I did. That said, I've advised quite a few to live it up at home while they still can. The longer you live at home these days, the more chance you have to save up your money to stand on your own two feet when you do move out!

It's true that living with ones parents has its advantages, especially when they are 'better off' eonomically, are wonderful and understanding parents, and there is enough 'non-invasive physical space' to be shared among all of you. However, if any of the conditions mentioned above deteriorates over time, the advantagous benefits of being at home with your parents will, or can become disadvantagous to you- once conflicting situations- occur. Often, these situations-if not corrected or a compromise is ot found- will lead to the detriment of the relationship among your parents household and you.

Hi, If I could turn back time and given the choice... I would loved to live with my parents a little longer. Well, you are right free rent and food would be a big PRO's and restriction of having a parent or an oldies as your housemate.... hehehe... Here in the Philippines we are really attached to our parents unfortunately before I graduated high school my parents got separated :( and I am forced to live with my aunt for 2 hell years (Sigh)... and when I reach 3rd year college that is the time I live with my friends and become housemates... Well, how I wish I could live with them more... :D... Now I am already married I wish those free food and free place unlike now I need to work for everything... hehehehe... anyway... that is just for me... :D

I live at home AGAIN but not really by choice. I have lived off and on in this house, and in others with my parents. I would much rather live out on my own as I have stress everyday. I do have a rent free place, however if I do not buy my own food then I am forced to eat very measly and unhealthy items. This causes me to have no money and so I struggle financially. I have a lot of things that I need to pay for in short term and it means from work to home and back online to earn more. The place I want is not very affordable for me right now either, and I also want it to be a place that I can live in for years and years to come with no worries or problems. I am 24 years old and am ready to leave home for good and not have to worry about the need to come back.