how would you value your immediate family?
By mysiraylon
@mysiraylon (1102)
United States
March 31, 2012 10:05am CST
You originally been one great loving son or daughter in the family then as you grow up few years later you then happen to meet other person outside your home, conflicts of interests now started to bring you hard time deciding who will be your priorities, persons you met recently or folks you were being raised from?
2 responses
@egram09 (78)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
I think that conflicts of interests won't occur between parties if only we had the time to introduce one to another very well. You need not to choose instead, you should know how to balance your time, resources, and even your chance of being with them, for you to determine what is really your priority. Another thing you could do is to push them closer with each other for them to get to know well, and for you not to worry about the conflicts that will arise between them.
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
31 Mar 12
maybe that can be of help, but there instances that a person will tend to hangout more often with friends nowadays and their attention been shift so rapidly.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
31 Mar 12
Perhaps in those instances there has been some inharmonious feelings within the family which make the person change as soon as they found someone else outside whom they can pay attention to.
Otherwise, the person would certainly do their best to bring both parties together as the first responder said.
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
3 Apr 12
that is really true sishy7... and on some point it cannot be avoided, and time is passing-by without us knowing it and then we are surprise that "silence" within the family starts to grow like cancer.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
31 Mar 12
My first priority is me. If I am sick or unhappy everything will tumble down. My second priority are my kids because they depend on me. My 3rd priority are my animals because I am responsible for them as well and they will always depend on me.
My 4th responsibility are my friends etc, people who are close to me and are really there for me. Since my husband and I am not living together (he lives in the other part of the world) and he is an adult he can take care of himself, just like I have to take care of myself and my kids. But if I am over there I will try to take care of his dad too,
After that other family might come (not in my case anymore since I don't have other family).
Over here it's normal to start your own life at the age of about 17-18 years old. You are not responsible for your parents or other family anymore as soon as you have a job. So it all depends on how close you are if you visit each other, keep living together or help out each other. We are raised to leave the home, to be an adult who can take care of him/herself. That is the way it should be and how it works in our family.
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
3 Apr 12
ahuh...!!! so you are saying that you're centered to yourself huh?
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
3 Apr 12
ah ok... I see, that will work and it really make sense hmmm. :)
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