Do you have friends that brag? Brag to the point that its almost unbelieveable?
By Michelle
@infatuatedbby (94914)
United States
March 31, 2012 2:22pm CST
I have never really had a problem with my friends because they're all honest and mature enough to not brag but I met a new "acquaintance" and I don't know much about her but she sure does like to brag. She brags to the point that you know it's not even possible. One day, she will brag about having so much money, the other day she will brag about her pass how she has "had" so many cars/houses but the key word is "HAD".
What would you do? Would you still be friends with this acquaintance? Most of the conversation with deals with bragging and she must "BRAG" higher.
I see it as if someone has to brag then they really have nothing - Do you agree? Disagree? What would you do if you were in my position.
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16 responses
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
Some people brag because it's true and they want everybody to know about it.But the sad part is some brag just to pretend that its true maybe because they want to fit in the crowd.Well if I know someone who brags about what he/she has and knew all along that it was not true then I will have to keep quiet why?It's not me who is fooled by her/his bragging its her/his self actually.And that's really shameful because I know that its not true.We have to know that whenever we tell lies it's not the people around us that is being fooled but its ourselves as well. :) So we shouldn't brag things that we don't really have and we don't really had done because it will surely backfire at us at the end.If that person who is bragging is a close friend of mine I can talk to her/him in private and remind him/her of the things he/she bragged and remind him/her again that it's not true and that do not do it the next time we have gatherings with friends.It's up to her/him if she will adhere with my advise. :)
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I have confronted her and said what she is saying is untrue then she brags more saying it is and she can prove it but I don't see anything prove nor do I really care just be yourself.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
I too dont have friends that brag. My friends would only brag if they have done something good in awhile. Anyways whether she is telling the truth or not if you cant stand the person then do not force yourself to be her friend. Sometimes personalities do clash and it is hard if we force it. It would not make a very good friendship.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Thanks for the input. I do not hang out with her often once in a while since I can't bear to.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
31 Mar 12
All through my school years I can remember friends who bragged about different things, Often you could see what was true and what wasn't. so of often the bragging was just fantasy about things the braggers only wished was true.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Yeah often braggers wish it was true - I can see that.
@whatrow (792)
• United States
31 Mar 12
A person who "brags" constantly is a very insecure person who is trying to make her life better by making up things about herself. Her real life is probably the opposite of what she is trying to project. I would understand her problem in my relations with her and simply accept her as she is.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Thanks for your input. I would rather accept her the way she is than to brag about someone she isn't though.
@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
1 Apr 12
I have a friend who brags about how boys were crazy over her
and what they do just to get her attention and about how much her
friends like her but it's unbelievable because she's not really
attractive. She always brags how people act when they're around her
but when she's in our place, people around her don't act that way
and she's not even noticeable. When she talks, it's all about her
and she doesn't let us other girls to talk.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
Which reminds me I know of a girl who does that too!! Omg, it is very annoying. What do you do to cope with it? Ignore?
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@butterscotsh (1012)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
The last time I talked to her, of course she brags about herself again,
then I was just shrugging and yawning because she's the only one talking
(we're four girls there!), and all her stories are repeated and not believable
anymore so I get really sleepy and I just yawn at her face.
I never nod to her stories anymore, even though I'm listening, I'm not
believing. It's good that we did not meet again anymore. She left to work
out of town so we don't see other anymore. I'm so thankful for it.
@GokuKid (55)
•
31 Mar 12
Oh yes, I have that one friend who ALWAYS brags, he's usually bragging about his art and how people praise it, Like I don't mind him saying, look at this, and thats that, but if he keeps going "LOOK HOW GOOD IT IS" it really gets on my nerves and I just cannot take it.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
1 Apr 12
I have met people like that
but they're not my friends anymore. sometimes new chat friends or a friend's friend
some of them do possess or achieve whatever it is they brag about
but what pisses me off is when someone else possesses or achieves more, they will bully this person or refuse to admit the other person is better
I have no problem praising them for what they have or achieved but I don't like it that they can't do the same to other people
@blademaiden (734)
• Romania
1 Apr 12
It seems to be that you don't have too many things in common with this person. Any conversation you have with her bores you because she keeps talking about the same things everytime you meet. Maybe she can't get over the fact that she lost all those things and that's why she talks about it with every occasion. Have you tried talking about something else with her?
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
31 Mar 12
Well to me it is like this, If they are bragging then they feel as if that is all they have to offer, or they are feeling down in the life. It could also be that they do have all this stuff and feel more "upper" then you are in life. Either way I would maybe kind of keep contact at a minimal and ignore her when she does brag.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
31 Mar 12
She brags 99% of the time I talk to her so I try to avoid. 1% of the time is not bragging.
@karubod (603)
• India
2 Apr 12
I think it's good to just share and tell about our experiences to others but it should be moderate and not to an extent that other people get annoyed, bored or jealous.I think for these people who brag friends who listen to them are just a source of entertainment to feel good and boost their ego. I think the people who listen to them and entertain them should be blamed, it's as good as bragging itself. Personally i take care not to brag much and naturally people who brag are not attracted to me cause i will least entertain them ;).
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
2 Apr 12
Well I do know people who tend to rather brag. To call them friends...well perhaps a couple of them have a little bit of a ego. Then again, I would be lying to say that if I did not have my moments a lot of the times. But they are mere moments, on the other hand, some people tend to brag a lot for every single success that rather goes right.
Granted, some accomplishments are great to have, but there are just times where people take their bragging right over the time and continue to brag and brag and to the point where they have passed bragging and just rubbing it right in the face of the people that don't have those things, do not have those successes, to the point where it is nearly appalling.
@maishaybrown (276)
• United States
31 Mar 12
I think that this friend could maybe envy you in some fashion. If it is obvious that she is lying, maybe you should bringing it up one day and address the fact all this stuff that you use to have where is it now? And be friendly about it and ask, well what do you plan to do in order to regain that lifestyle.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
31 Mar 12
I have pointed her out that she is lying and she clearly is in anger that she is telling the truth. And then when I say she's lying, she brags MORE. Lol.... I try to avoid her as much as possible.
@elementah (106)
• United States
31 Mar 12
Well, I don't really care when friends brag. Even if they brag to the point of where it's unbelievable. I think it's just some kind of self esteem thing, lol. But if they did it all the time, then I would be really annoyed. The type of bragging that I can NOT put up with though, is the kind that degrades yourself while they're making themselves seem better. Like one time, I complimented my friend on her legs. And I guess it had some effect on her because a while later, she said "Wow. I'm a lot shorter than you but I have longer legs than you. That's kind of weird, isn't it?". I just brushed it off the first time, but she kept saying it and it really made be angry. I avoid complimenting her now. She was pretty much saying that my legs were really short and at another point, "ugly". And I partly agree with you, a friend would brag about winning a competition if it's their first or something, but if they always win them, then they won't feel the need to brag.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
1 Apr 12
I don't care either but there is an extent. I wouldn't mind if it's once in a while but she brags 99% of the time while 1% of the time she's an alright person. I try not to bring anything up for her to think she'd need to brag. She likes to be on top of people even though I am not even bragging about anything.
Example:
She: What did you do yesterday?
Me: I went to the mall.
She: What did you get?
Me: Just clothes and a purse
She: OH speaking about purse, I bought a 3G purse.
Me: Oh, I bought a $30 purse from Ross.............................
@aghiuta (525)
• Canada
1 Apr 12
It all depends, if you have fun with this person,and you do somethings together(besides her bragging and you listening) and you feel that is no effort to put up with this,then go on.If it bugs you and it is no fun, then drop her as a friend,It looks to me that you have good friends.I am all for the "live and let live " motto,but life is short and I try to enjoy every minute!
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 12
i've met someone like that in the past... i actually feel sorry for the person i've met, because i think maybe at some point in her past, she really have all that things, but somehow they all gone by the time i met her. So the way she said it more like she misses all those things rather than actually brag about it.