Do you mind it when people invite themselves over?

I have a daily schedule that I follow and someone dropping in without announcement is the last thing I cherish. I am a people's person but would certainly like to be informed well in advance if anyone wants to visit me.

It depends who it is. There are a few people who are always welcome. They are my close friends, and they know that my home can be a little messy sometimes if they show up unexpected. I know them very well, and it doesn't really bother me if my home isn't perfect when they visit me. When other people visit me I would like to know that they are coming. They don't have to call days or hours in advance, but I need a few minutes to get rid of the worst mess I usually get happy when I can an unexpected phonecall from a friend who asks if she can come for a visit, but in most cases I don't like it when people don't call and just show up totally unexpected.

I am exactly the same, I hate to admit since I have had my computer I am very lazy when it comes to a few house work chores so I like plenty of time plus I like to buy refreshments and things that I don't normally have in the house as I eat them so I like to have nice fresh things to serve up..

I would always like to know if people are going to call in because I work at home. I don't have any set hours and can quite easily be working in the evening time or at weekends. It is difficult to get back into my routine, once it had been disturbed,. I think most of my friends and family have got the measure of the way I am now and tend to stay away unless something is arranged. _Derek

For the most part, if it's family and friends, it really isn't a huge deal. It doesn't really bother me. I do sometimes prefer if they called first, but I won't be completely upset if they don't.

hi yes i hate it because sometimes you have to spend some hours at your own home by yourself enjoy the relaxation and the nice house, but when they come suddenly to your house and interupt this oh, its not nice really i like people to tell me before they come, i usually have plans for all the day and hate it when i have to change it for any reason, even with family, i like to do what i want to do, whithout anytone to change dayss

not really as i just enjoy the company. the people that come over also tend to not where out there welcome so it works out. most of them usually call ahead of time anyway when i think about it.

No, that's just something I don't like at all and I don't think it's very nice for someone to just visit you when they feel like as I believe that everyone is entitled to their own privacy even from friends. That's another point as you mention, I like to make sure that my place is tidy before having anyone over. It's quite embarrassing when someone comes over just like that and you are unprepared. You cannot just say no you cannot come in at this time, well you could, but I would find that a very difficult thing to say. I much prefer it if someone gives me a call in advance first and then I have the choice of either say yes or no; chances are I will agree if they have been upfront with me and have made the effort of actually giving me the call. I for one wouldn't dream of going around someone's place unannounced. Andrew

Hi Dominique25, No i don,t mind at all friends and family can drop in at any time. Your wellcome too.

No, honestly, I don't like it. I rarely even invite people in. This is my home, and at age 55, the only place I can just be "me" without needing to be on display for anyone else. I can do what I want here. It doesn't even bother me having very few friends, because many past friendships have been very emotionally draining. I'd rather chat with people on the internet any day - I can be in my pajamas if I wish, and don't need to worry about dressing up, or being without make up.

My friends always text or call before showing up, even if they do it at the last minute! Even though my house is open for friends, I also want to put everything in order before someone visits me. So they make a quick call in advance to give me time to prepare the house. If they invite themselves over then they should expect my home to be a bit messy..

same with me, i get very unhappy every time any of my husband friend come over without calling or email us first. But i then tell them to call a head if they want to come over, i told them we might have plan to leave out. since then they like call first before coming even though sometimes they call on the way to visit.

I like to get my house well prepared before people who are invited by me start coming in.That way I ensure not to show me and our family in poor light.If your house is not neat and clean or in order,people would have a poor impression about you.Thus it is always better that you ensure that your house is properly in order and prepared to greet the guests.

I absolutely hate when people drop by unannounced. It's rude. People should have the common courtesy to ask before they just show up at your door. Quite frankly I find it kinda stupid to show up without asking first. What happens if when you arrive they are on their way out or they simply aren't home. You just wasted all that gas driving over there. Sending a little heads up will save you from wasting your time. I personally like to look good when I have guests. I hate when people show up and I'm in my pjs and my hair's a mess. I also like having my home look nice and possibly have snacks available. I like making plans so you can have the best experience possible. Now I'm not saying I hate surprises. It's just respectful to ask before you come over. Also you have no idea whether they already have guests over. Also I personally hate telling people to go home so I end up letting them in.

I actually find it rude when family or friends just appear out of nowhere for a surprise visit. It's not because the house isn't in order, but I feel embarrassed if they come and the house is a bit messy which is usually the case when it's just me and my mom at home. Also, I want people telling me in advance that they will be coming over so that I can shop and prepare a nice meal. People usually say not to bother, but it's still important for me to have something for them to eat and it's something that I prepared especially for their visit. My mom passed away last year and I am alone in the house right now. Most of my relatives are now living in the US, so it is a slim chance that there will be surprise visits. Friends and family now tell me in advance if they will come because they know that I work and might not be at home.

I would much rather them ask if we can get together that day so I know to expect them and know to tidy up. Most of my friends would careless how it really looks in the house, but I'd still want to tidy if I could. Of course here there is no way to tidy.

You are quite like me. I also do not like company. :) I am inclined to be a loner and only invite very few people over. :) So that feeling of distance is there with others, and I am not comfortable if they see my house in disorder. :)

Hi, Yes,Sometimes I do Mind Them. Even I Like people to let me know well in advance Before.

I think we are the same, i also hate when visitors come unexpectedly. I always said that they should tell me ahead of time so i can prepare. You see, i have to keep the house tidy and everything in place because when visitors come we could not avoid that some of the things will be missed up. Other than that, i have to plan what food to prepare and i have to go to the grocery. I don't have a household helper so i have to plan on how i can minimize the housekeeping after they left. So for me, it is always good that visitors inform me few days before they come to visit.

I don't care who you are, you better not stop by for a visit without a phone call. There are many times where I am busy, doing something and I'm not going to be inclined to drop everything to entertain visitors. Or just not in the mood to really deal with people. Yet there are some people who have a very bad habit of just pulling off with a surprise visit. I'm half inclined to not answer the door, and pretend that I'm not home, because I don't need to let me know that they can get away with. Of course, when you're outside and people walk up, not caring if you're doing yard work or whatever, just like you can drop everything in your life, just so you can have a nice chit-chat. Well it is just common courtesy to call but common courtesy is not all that common.