long distance relationship, can you handle it?

I'm in an LDR for 9 months now. It's hard. It takes a lot of trust, patience and sacrifice. I am no expert at this because this is my first time. We text everyday. We have a 12-hour difference so it's very limiting. I do hope that we survive this.

I tried, 2 times, 1st time it failed, cause the guy got scared of it, second time I just had feelings for other guy, so I had to let him go. However, I'm in a LDR again now, its been almost 4months and to put it shortly, ITS NOT EASY! our love gets to the point where we fight a lot, just cause of his jealousy and sometimes just us missing each other messes with our feelings and we doubt them. Hwever, so far we are happy, there's been times 2 months in when we'd fight and really wanted to call it quits, but it was stronger than us, we were lost without each other being mad only for a day, we both cried already, so love prevailed, so all I can say to all of you in same situation out there, keep strong, you can do it, its not so much about handling it as its about power of feelings. however, there is one little thing in our relationship that I wish it could improve, he's kind of a guy that doesnt ask a lot when we talk online, it's like I have to keep our conversations going and sometimes I feel sad, cause he says he wants to know more about me, but at the same time he never asks, so original poster whats your advice to that? :]

Nope, I dont' think I could do it! I would need someone's physical presence. Unless the situation was temporary, I just couldn't stand being away from someone for that long!

I'm a kind of person that always giving advice to my friends on how to handle a long distance relationship but honestly i cannot apply those advice to my self because i feel that i'm missing a lot about my partner if he is far from me. I always want to be with him but i know in the future we need to be apart for a while because of work. I want to work in a place which is far from our home where i can earn good income.

Hello friend, No i can't handle this. It is not easy. Have a nice day.

It nice hearing that you and your partner built a stronger relationship despite the long distance you have. I wish I was not afraid of long distance relationship and tried if it will work out for me. There was this person whom I like and also liked me but since we're also oceans apart, I did not agree to have relationship with him.

My boyfriend recently left for the Middle East to work. I would say that before he left, I have been very sad. In fact, on the day he left, I swore I have never been that lonely before in my life until that day. I felt like my heart would break. But I found that each day without him both sucks the life out of me but also makes me stronger and more independent. I would love for us to have a steady communication but our means technologically do not allow it, plus the time zone issue is also, well, an issue. I am just glad that we both give each other some room to breathe, and that we allow each other to grow as individuals wherever we are. Right now I could say that we're balanced. We understand each other, and we don't smother each other by always demanding the other to chat or call or communicate.

It depends on how long will we be apart. If it's just 6 months, I can do it! If it's one year, I still can! If it's for 2 years, I will think about it. The only way is to constant communication. That's a must!