See the goodness instead of weakness and fault of others....
By ardoy0731
@ardoy0731 (7308)
Philippines
April 1, 2012 8:19pm CST
Life is indeed so wonderful and unexplainable.We live and evolve in different kinds of people everyday.People from all over the places that we already know,unexpected to see and met.People who are different with each other,with different thoughts,views,opinions,characteristics,traits and other factors in their personalities.
Somehow and in some point in our lives,we became judgmental without noticing it in certain point in our lives.We don't intend to be mean but other people take it the wrong way.We sometimes see the weakness and faults of other people before we see their strength and goodness.We do blame and judge them through the faults that they made and weakness that they have rather than boosting and appreciate the goodness that they made.We sometimes condemn and notice them for their mistakes than acknowledging good things that they made.Recognized by failures but take for granted their success.
Indeed, everyone is entitled with their own opinions and have their own mind but we have to be more aware, careful and considerate in things to do and words to say.Some could take it constructively, some could take it for granted but some could accept it in the other way around. Let us live with the goodness and happiness of each others rather than living with through the faults and weakness of others.
Life is too short as they say,so better see the goodness rather than counting the mistakes of others.
Have great day ahead to all of us...
8 responses
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
You are right, sometimes it will only takes one mistake for a person to be judged. They will not consider how great you are in the past Just a single mistake will break you and make you fall.
People, including myself, sometimes can see immediately the mistakes, even a minor one, of others without acknowledging the good achievements.
In my case, whenever someone judged me on my weakness or mistakes, I just keep in this quotation, "Failure of a person doesn't mean he/she is a failure. It only means, he/she doesn't succeeded yet."
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
That is a nice quotation, thanks to that.
All of us do such thing like this in some point in our life but as long as we took an effort to change this kind of attitude would be great.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
3 Apr 12
Life would seem to be much easier if we just saw how great things can be, the goodness, the greatness, the great qualities of others. Sadly however, many people tend to look at life in a rather negative way. They do not look at the goodness of others, but rather find themselves taking a nice look right at all of the flaws, even if they have to dig for the flaws.
Really I think that for many, they take a look at each and every other one of the flaws, magnify them, blow them up, and just expand right on them, for the entire world to see. People tend to have flaws, that much is true, but by focusing on them, you are just rather living quite the miserable existence and it is extremely frustrating. Life can be great, if we choose to make it so and focus on the goodness in others. There are positive things with everything.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Be positive and just live life with the great things that we have.I know that mistakes and failures would always be there but we should just leave them behind and try to make it better for us to have a positive outlook in life.
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
2 Apr 12
In fact, to find and realize virtue from vice is the real aim of positive vision! It is our positive vision only that determines the value of our lives significantly! I have seen that by praising a weaker person makes the person more energetic to complete a task smoothly. So I am always in the same opinion with you about the positive side of people's lives! Thanks for the nice topic!!
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Welcome and thanks too.
We should boost each others on the mistakes we commit and weakness that we have so that we could improve it for the better.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
2 Apr 12
i know that there are both good and bad sides to people. it's also a person's choice to view both good and bad sides of people. neither can be ignored though. i am not saying to focus of the negative aspects of people. i am only saying that you can't help but notice what people put out first. it's up the the beholder see beyond that. that's where it takes some creativity and imagination, as well as understanding and compassion. sometimes i must admit that i don't have those qualities when it comes to being patient with people's shortcomings. this was a great post though. i reminded me to challenge myself not to simply focus on whatever negative that i behold in a person. thanks for the post.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Thanks too.I was encouraged to wrote this post when I heard a homily in a mass which is quite related to this topic.I just want to share my observations on the people around me who actually act things like this.
I do hope that people should be more open minded rather than being so judgmental and selfish to others.
@sanofer (525)
• India
2 Apr 12
some people suppress themselves by always thinking about their weakness and because of that they fail to notice about the best things they have in them. we should learn the art to fight our weakness and encouraging our-self is the best method to overcome failures.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Some people self pity by their faults and weakness so better help them on that instead of bringing them down.Helping is each other should be implemented rather than pulling them down.
@olivia52779 (66)
• United States
2 Apr 12
Some people are always negative and that is really too bad. It is hard to want to be around those types of people. They just bring your mood down and are depressing. It is good to always see the good in others, rather than just the negative. Almost everyone has some good traits, it is important to find those and focus on them rather than shortfalls. A lot of times what you see may not be what everyone else sees or what that person sees. Your opinion is not everything. It is important to be open-minded and to show empathy and respect towards others, all the time.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Negative could be turn into positive if we help them towards it.Respect is a must and should be implement for us to have better world to live in.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Indeed that we are different to each others.We could see other people mistakes but have to help them constructively correcting those mistakes for the better instead of condemning them on their faults.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
Crazy right? Why would people often take for granted all the good things other people did to them or the good things they receive and reacts to every bad thing they see, they experience. It has become a natural phenomenon, we see it everywhere. Funny how it takes a many good things or a big one for you to be recognized but only one mistake to be an outcast. There are only few people left who forgives and forgets. Well, that's life! :)
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
If it is a natural phenomenon it must be changed for us to live a better life.