just found out

Congratulations to you on the news that you are pregnant. I suggest you include your 4 year old and your 5 year old. They might like to help you choose a name for him or her. I had a 12 year old son from my marriage. I said I have something to tell you. He imagined I was going to say here is my new dog. I told him I was pregnant and he was very surprised. That was my disabled son and we didn't know he was disabled until 36 weeks pregnancy. I went on to have my daughter two years after that. I love each of my children equally and so will you. I think that you should say you are having another baby for them. You could have guess the day he or she will be born using a sheet of the particular month. Good luck.

I haven't experienced this yet as I only have one son at the moment. But I would always ask my friends their experience when they have their second or third child and some of them told me that they try to make their child excited with the additional babyin the family, they don't say that's it's new as the child would think the baby would be a replacement for them. They also try to manage their time well so they won't neglect the older children. Congratulations to you. Don't worry too much I'm sure the kids would love their sibling.

I understand what you are saying.. but you should only focus on one thing and that's enticing them to accept the new baby without having any differences in their mind. Explaining them that the new baby is coming only for them.. so that they can play with someone who is their own. And I am sure once they are used to playing with the new baby, they would definitely like and own him as their own brother/sister. By the way, many congratulations and take care.. :) :)

As long as you include them, I don't think they will feel jealous of the baby. Make them understand this is a happy moment. I was worried about my husbands son being jealous of the baby when we had our son, because he didn't live with his father and the baby would. In all actuality he loves his little brother, and his now little sister, and can not wait to come see them when its time for his visitations. We let him buy a present for each new baby when the baby was born. We let him in on the decision making, he helped us decorate the nursery each time. Never had a problem with jealousy!

Congrats! I had 3 children when I met my husband and went on to have 5 more with him. I never had any issues with major jealousy and can't think of anything really that I did to prevent that, I just involved the kids in each pregnancy.