Long Distance Relationship....will it work?
By shenlynn7823
@shenlynn7823 (641)
Philippines
April 2, 2012 7:40am CST
do you believe in long distance relationship? I am a single mom and after the being heartbroken I told myself not to trust any man anymore. But I really don't know...it happened suddenly...I meet this guy online ( I don't believe in online dating)..no matter how many times I told him to stop,not to take it seriously, he just won't bulge,we told each other,we will take things slowly and one day he just told me he love me & I started to develop feelings for him too even though we just meet & talking online,he love my little girl like his own,sends her things,clothes,toys and when my family was having problem financially,he offered help to my mom.He never asked me anything in return but told me to just be patient and wait for him until he can come & see me & be with each other.I told him I will but I'm scared because the fact that he is far and we haven't even meet yet and I always think that maybe he has other ladies too...but deep in my heart I know he doesn't..before he goes to work,we talk,when he comes home and before going to bed.He told me when he meet me,he doesn't go out anymore which is true and he started to eat in front of his computer from day we meet, we don't care how we look in front of each other and although I have doubts..I am also hoping and just for the record, it's been a year since we first meet online.
11 responses
@girlthing62989 (103)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
yes it will work! Me and my boyfriend met through online then we decided to meet in person and now we've been together for 3 years but were in a long distance relationship for 4 months this month because he is now in his hometown doing a business with his family but we communicate always and we make it sure that were updated about each other. communication is the best key for the success of a long distance relationship and of course TRUST!
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@06MLam (620)
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3 Apr 12
I am not sure about your case because I don't believe in online dating or meeting people that I don't know as I am always told that there are a lot of traps in the online world. However, you can try to see what happen when the guy comes to meet you but I think you still have to be careful when meeting him because you might not be able to observe a person online as clearly as in person. However, I do hope that this guy is having true love with you.
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@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 12
Hello shenlynn7823 :)
For some people long distance relationship can work for them, but the other cannot live far away from their partner/spouse..
For me, it works for me.. Me and my boyfriend in long distance relationship for about 4 years.. And I think it all depends with the communication and trust, like you do too.. Just listen to your heart.. I hope you can meet your boyfriend someday.. :)
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
i believe in long distance relationships. i actually believe it's the strongest form of relationships because you get through all the problems, misunderstandings, fights and all challenges together no matter the distance.
i am also in a long distance relationship but we met here but during that time, he was only on vacation. so i always knew it was going to be a long distance relationship. i believe in it because we have been together for almost 8 years now.
i admit there are a lot of arguments and all that but thankfully, we are able to get through it. he used to come home to me twice a year before but because he now has a stead job, he comes home once a year now.
my advice is you keep the communication constant and try to be patient but also since you haven't met yet, love yourself first and don't give all your trust and love, so that way you don't get too hurt if something happens (let's just hope nothing bad happens).
good luck to you and i wish you both happiness. 
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@khel18 (5)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
Long Distance relationship is somewhat a big risk, because you will not verify the things that he had mentioned online. But it can still work if there is trust between you and your guy and the true love between the two of you. No matter how far the distance is you will survive the relationship as long as you are both willing to work things out.
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@annierose (21571)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
I think that any kind of relationships is difficult. Long distance or not, the success of a relationship relies not on whether the couple see each other face to face or not but it depends on how the couple deals with the relationship. Based on your post, I can see that you are having a good time with your partner online. I think that it will work once there is love, respect and trust. Once there is a goal to meet in the future, I know you can both work on it.
@janechenrose (135)
• China
3 Apr 12
He support you when you in financial problem, it is good, and you said he loves your girl it sounds beautiful. Since you haven't meet face to face ,believe your feeling, but make sure whether he is single, and not cheat. Get along with each other to find whether he is truly loves your daughter ,takes her as his own and loves you.
He will express sincere before you married ,make sure you two, are so loved by each other before go to bed.Make sure he is a good man .
Man is still can be trusted after once heart broken.
Wish good news of you.
@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
yes he is single.I always see him in video cam almost everyday and he is living alone with his dogs.thank you
@dianon_ice14 (461)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
YEAH! I do. I had a long distance relationship before and the feeling is really intense. So I think it's possible.
All you need is like give and take and exert a really extra effort to make it work, because it's really hard you know. The most important thing is that you need to have TRUST with each other and as much as possible avoid things that would make your relationship fail and AVOID fighting. KEEP YOUR FATE, love will find a way.
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@jbf111967 (137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
It is always exciting to fall in love especially during the period of courtship. But a long distance love affair is very difficult for both couples, caused even though they are bonded by marriage things may go wrong, if you are far away from each other. I think for now there is nothing impossible for your relationship to grow and for you to meet each other in the future. The problem in Long Distance Love affair will only occur once your relationship has been molded, that will be the time that problem may arise.
