Divorce....hold your horses!

I do believe that some people still marry for the long term, but far too many people marry "for the moment", and those relationships have a higher chance of ending in divorce. Sure there are the traditional reasons that you mention, and those do account for divorce for certain, but I feel far too many people take the commitment too lightly. I think they enter the marriage believing that it is just another evolutionary step, and one that can be undone relatively easily.

i agree in totality. Marriages are short lived these days probably because of "ego". the couples sometimes behaves as if its child's play to get married and to get divorced or as if it a daily soup for everyone's pleasure. I guess the importance of life , respecting others is lost in today's stressful life and immaterial things have taken place for no good reason.

Marriage is so hard. It's definitely not as easy as people want to believe it is. I do agree that marriages should not end so swiftly and one should try to work things out, but well that's not how it goes anymore. I myself am divorced, I wish I wasn't, but then again I know that maybe it's for the best.

I definitely would want to get married and make it last. That is why it is also important for me to really get to know my partner until such time that I can say for sure that he is the one. Getting to know each other takes a lifetime. It doesnt end when you get married. Nobody enters marriage perfect, and able to perfectly accept the flaws of the partner or at least learn to deal with it.

i agree with you. people right now are very self centered and sometimes even if they already entered a relationship they still sometimes feel that their partner needs to do a lot for them but not for the other person. sometimes one of the major factor of divorce is both partners only got married just to get married. do you know what i mean? its like just because of their family pushing them to settle down or maybe being in the love cloud for sometimes then all of the sudden they don't want to be together anymore for the petty and simple reasons. i hope that couples who are getting married better think a million times before settling down since it will not only affect them but their children in the future and their family as well. and yes people should stop thinking about ME when they get married because it will be US from the time they took their vow in front of God and their family.

True that! Duh! I hate to say this but my parents are considering getting their marriage annulled. Yes, annulled! There's no divorce here in Philippines, only annulment! 20 years of marriage get wasted because they just don't understand each other anymore. Its too much for us; their children, seeing our parents always having arguments early in the morning and every night before sleeping. Worst is that seeing our family getting broken slowly! Why can't they just sit down and talk things over right?

I agree with you for the most part. A lot of people get into marriage without wanting to do the worry. They think things will always be smooth sailing and when they hit a bump in the road, give up altogether. That's a terrible outlook and I believe in work and communication first before divorce. However, I have seen firsthand how damaging staying in a marriage filled with arguing, verbal abuse, shouting, anger and basically a lack of love can be. There's no point in staying together if you know your partner isn't willing to put in work, or if things haven't changed for years. That's even more damaging, especially if there are children involved, so I agree with people seeking divorce for these and other reasons such as abuse and infidelity. Sometimes, there are some things we aren't able to get over. In those cases, it's really best to move on as amicably as possible.

I agree with you, I did a discussion on this not long ago. My husband and I definitely married to be together forever. We have been through being homeless, living in a tent, we lived in our car, we had to live in motel rooms, go hungry, we have been through a miscarriage, family not liking the other one, we are always struggling financially, and he got hurt at work recently, had surgery and is now on workers comp. We have 3 beautiful children together and they are our worlds. We have been married this month for 8 years. We are more in love than ever. Nothing will tear us apart. Our faith in the Lord also keeps our mariage strong. If your going into your marriage thinking you could just get a divorce if you want to, DO NOT GET MARRIED!! People get married and think its not that serious. My vows are extremely important to me! I have fought for my marriage and always will.