Abuse and Discipline

Like so many things people have taken it too far. Laws put in effect to stop real abuse have become a loop hole for bad behaviour and excuses not to do what needs to be done. No one needs to beat a child into a coma but a spanking isn't going to kill anyone. Yes it is the reason so many kids are bad. They have no respect and no one teaches them. Now some even feel that saying no will "hurt a child's confidence" or what ever and it's pure Bull dookie. If you do not teach them what no means do not be surprised when they rape and kill for fun thinking it's ok.

There are many ways to discipline a child without having to hit. But sometimes, parents just can't help it. I have been hit a couple of times as a kid, but my parents made sure I understood why it happened. They made sure I learned from my mistake and would never do it again. The older I become, the lesser the physical disciplinary actions. Parents and children need to communicate. The problem with today's society is that parents are quick with their hands and only speak to their kids when they are angry and shouting but never commending their kids for a good job done. I am not totally sold out to the idea of NEVER hitting a child. Sometimes kids should feel pain - but not to the point of seriously getting hurt though. But on top of it, kids must be made to understand the reason for the punishment. There has to be a balance between punishment and reward.

Its unfair that good parents who try doing a good job with their children can no longer discipline without getting in trouble. It does affect parenting in a negative way. Abusing a child is completely different than disciplining them. Now a days people are saying they are one in the same and its not. I would never abuse my children but they get a swat on the butt if their doing something that could endanger themselves or someone else. Am I a bad mother for that? I don't think so, I am trying to keep them safe. There are most definitely kids that are abused out there, I know that and they should be helped but parents that are just taking care of their children should not be punished for it...