what would you do if youre ex got out of jail?

If you don't feel safe living there, I don't think that you should. You have a right to live without worrying if you're going to run into your ex or his family. I wouldn't stay, if I were in your situation.

I would hate to have to move if I like where I am at but living scared all the time is probably not worth it. If I was confident the police were good at keeping people safe and the restraining order would keep him away then okay. But if I would be scared every day or worried then I would move to a safer place where I did not always have to watch my back. Thats not a fun way to live! I hope you will find the best way for you.

I wouldn't. If you run now you will be running for your whole life. What I would do in your situation is since you see his family often, I would make it clear that I wanted nothing to do with him and do not wish to have any contact. I wouldn't speak negatively of him, just make my wishes clear. If the family member still seems to be determined to try and establish contact, then I would disassociate myself with them. As far as the ex is concerned, I would become very close friends with the law in the area. I would make it clear that I didn't want any contact from him, and if he persisted I would file harassment charges. The point of what I am saying is; if there is a good reason for you to live where you are now, and he isn't the reason why you are there in the first place, you have every right to stay put where you are. And you don't have to feel haunted just because you are in the same regional vicinity as he is.

Obviously you don't feel safe around that area. You need to be in a place where you feel save and move away from that county. Too many people have been killed when their ex's have been released from jail and the abuser entered the person's home and tortured them before killing them. I don't like frightening you, but you need to be safe and need to get away from his family and him. MOVE as soon as possible!!! You need to not only feel safe but also you need to be safe.