Having to deal with being a third wheel?
By xemorth
@xemorth (70)
Australia
April 2, 2012 11:11pm CST
Have you ever faced the problem in which you were the third wheel? I was in that predicament 2 years ago, and haha, it really wasn't fun. I felt horrible, and pretty much put myself down a lot. How did you deal with it? I'm fine with one on one conversations, but I noticed that even to this day, as soon as one of my friends more dominant friends join into the conversation, I sort of back off.
2 responses
@sierranicole24 (71)
• United States
3 Apr 12
I had a friend who was the third wheel with me and my boyfriend all the time... She dealt with it by trying to be the center of attention. We would all be talking about something and all of the sudden the conversation would somehow change to being about her and her problems or ideas. When I was the third wheel, which happened a lot before I met my boyfriend, I would generally just stay in the background and be quiet unless they talked to me. I always felt like when I contributed to their conversations they would be like why are you talking or you don't understand. The worst thing would be when inside jokes are involved. That pisses me off.
@xemorth (70)
• Australia
5 Apr 12
^ Everything you said I was just like nodding along, haha. It also especially sucks when they've been through something you haven't and just go "oh, never mind". I don't know, I know that I'm equally close to everyone in my current group and I used to be able to talk to everyone fine... But then I had a meltdown one day after one of my problems became too bad and they backed off because they've never seen me sad or quiet. They talked to each other a lot on that day, and I just sat there feeling depressed even though they asked numerous times, "oh what's wrong?". Idk, I feel as though once two people have got a conversation going its hard to join in
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Apr 12
Being the talkative type, I barely feel the awkwardness of being the third wheel. If it does happen though, I usually just stay quiet. But you see, in everyone, there is always something to talk about. It may take time though in some cases for me to know where and when my input is needed but nonetheless, I manage to handle situations where I am the third wheel.
There are situations though that I have been embarrassed for saying something wrong and was corrected for it. I know I should have just kept my mouth shut. But you see I could not help it sometimes. I always have something to say!
