Flooding your anger on Facebook.
By smurfysmurf
@smurfysmurf (651)
Philippines
April 3, 2012 4:19am CST
Hi there mylotters.
I just got back on Facebook. I deactivated it few months back and got back last January...but I had this shock when I just saw this friend of mine who vent all her anger to her so called enemy. She keeps on talking bad things about her as if protecting or answering what her enemy told her...and as if she is indeed facing that person. And it's not just one post but she is flooding my home page right now with all her status updates.
We do have different approach with facebook but I don't think that is the right place to do that. She should have tell that person personally...and only few people will know other than making it to public.
It's actually a public place...and might cause some misunderstandings with other people.
Anyways, do you also do that? And do you think it is a must to put that anger on public for everyone to know? Or have you encountered that also?
Happy Mylotting everyone!!^^
_Joanna Lee_
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17 responses
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Two years ago, I was like this. I usually post some random rants on Facebook. I was kinda bit despised of myself because it all reflects at me. It shows how shallow am I.
I had learned my lesson well. One should not post any random rants about someone, unless if it's just for fun.
Remember, what we post reflects on ourselves.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
It will definitely reflect on us! I totally agree.
And I hope my friend realizes that already. I haven't seen her rant post these past few weeks already. I guess everything's OK now with her.
Have a nice day!
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
I hope she would listen.
But good thing I haven't seen some rants post these past few days from her. I guess, things are great now with her...
^^
Happy Mylotting!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
nah, i never aired my dirty laundry. i think its just not appropriate to be venting out your anger in facebook.. even things should be between lovers, i guess its just not the way it should be with people with facebook accounts. We should keep things private. People should know when to stop putting evrything online for everyone to see! its not fair with people like us... because we do not even want to hear what their angers are all about! geesh.. they should just fix these things all in their own.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
Yeah, they should definitely fix those things privately. It's not good to go beyond and share it to everybody. It is something that can still be fix privately, so why not do that, ayt?
Happy mylotting!
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
I don't do that but there where times when im emotionally dow i post some thoughts on an emotional feelings.
But other than that i don't actually post on status updates...
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
I do that sometimes as well...rather than keeping it. It just makes us feel better whenever we share something.
But with the problem I have now, I don't have any plans on sharing that in there nor with my friends. It's just so hard and I felt miserable.
I hope things will be better.
Happy Mylotting!
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
I hate that kind of attitude because they just use facebook just to spread you out in the site so people will know about bad about you..
I experience that, i don't like it and it is shame to you ,because someone accuse you,says something unwanted words ..
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
And also people would use it to spread some rumor. And it just adds up the tension. It is not good to speak out publicly like that.
@shwetat195 (628)
• India
3 Apr 12
yeah i agree, infact many update their hourly status on FB...visiting places, driving, cooking, eating and what not. I guess it has become an addiction which is good for nothing. And making your self so public is a personal choice. I would not prefer to do such actually.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Me either.
Updating what we are up to is just OK...but ranting about someone..as if conversing to that enemy is something that should never be done in a public place like that...most especially many people know us there.
Have a great day!
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Hi Pjha,
I do think a diary will really work out. I had a diary and I do keep all my emotions in there. I am a type of person that doesn't really argue that's why I will just express my feelings in there. But I stopped since I don't think I really need it now.
Anyways, a diary would be better for a non expressive like me but facebook is not a place for venting, that's for sure.
Happy mylotting.
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
4 Apr 12
This whole thing of venting out your anger on somebody in Facebook reeks of immature behavior in a person. If you want to vent out your anger on somebody, you have two options - speak to the person directly or just have a private diary where you can just rant & spill out all of your anger.
Channel your anger towards something creative & keep it away from public domain.. far, far away.. Facebook is not a platform for that.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
4 Apr 12
I have had more than my share of people venting anger towards me on Facebook. People who do that are cowards. Most of them probably would not say half the the things they say on Facebook because it takes a lot more guts to say it to a person's face. People use Facebook to vent. Times are getting worse because Facebook and such places are used to get out the anger. Some people do it to show off and try to make people see who "powerful" they are. However, those people really just look stupid and childish.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
This is indeed a childish act...and should never be followed by people. Well, good thing that there are only very few on my friend's list who do this...because if I do have a lot then I would have a lot to ignore...^^
Have a great day!
@Keola12 (820)
• United States
3 Apr 12
No. I never post personal things on facebook. Generally, if I have something to say to some one, I believe in confronting them directly, so I will not cause them any embarrassment or humiliation thru public discussion. If I were to encounter the same situation as you have with regard to a friend posting their anger on facebook, and especially if their postings take up the majority of my newsfeed, I'd drop them as Facebook friends, if I was you.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Hi Keola,
I don't think that is the best option. She doesnt really vent all her anger everyday just once in a while...so there are quiet moments as well...^^...
It's just that you have your limits of just being stuck up with all the updates that you see on your home page.
Well...the best option is just to ignore those post...
Happy Mylotting!!!
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
8 Apr 12
She is already a mother...so she needs to be mature and just do things beyond what its limits.
As what you've said, it's not her home. It might be in her home page but not actually the right place to that kind of things.
Happy Easter.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Hi Joanna
Nope I never do that. And will never do that. I feel that it will be very embarrassing not only for that person but for my self as well. If we have a problem with someone it is better to keep mum or at least talk to the person, rather than publicly announcing it to everyone.
I remember someone I know, who vent all her anger in facebook too. She was jealous with some girl because she believes she is flirting with her boyfriend. She even talk bad with her boyfriend's friends when they tried to keep her calm.
Nope I never do that. And will never do that. I feel that it will be very embarrassing not only for that person but for my self as well. If we have a problem with someone it is better to keep mum or at least talk to the person, rather than publicly announcing it to everyone.
I remember someone I know, who vent all her anger in facebook too. She was jealous with some girl because she believes she is flirting with her boyfriend. She even talk bad with her boyfriend's friends when they tried to keep her calm.1 person likes this
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Hi enelym...
My experience is similar with yours, the other person is also thinking that she's been flirting with the boyfriend...so she is kinda explaining things...which we all know that it could be done privately as well.
There are really people who couldn't really control themselves and just vent everything in that social networking site.
Might just remain zip and live a harmonious life...^^
Have a great day!!!
@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
3 Apr 12
I have never done this and I would never do it in future also. If I have something to sort out with someone I would not do it in front of everyone or in a public and social media site like facebook. I would talk to that person in private. Doing something like this in public is just going to increase problems for everyone and it is just not right to do it this way.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
It will certainly create trouble with everyone most especially with our friends.like we have this personality that just couldn't control our emotions.
I'd rather have a silent life and if ever I have angered someone...then if I have guts, I will face that person and if I don't then I would stay quiet.
Have a nice day!!!
@Lisona (177)
•
4 Apr 12
you do realize you can delete unwanted flooding of wall posts? :0) Its attention seeking to be honest, I would never anger my views out on my friends to see it all its just really immature and silly childish behaviour. If I have a problem to sort out its usually to that persons face and not for the whole face book community to see. Just delete the wall posts you don't want to have on your wall simple.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
Hi Lisona,
I actually deactivated my facebook for almost a month and just activated it today. I looked up to my friend's page and it seems she is OK already since I did not see her rants...
Well, I will do that and just delete those if I see those behaviors from my facebook friends.
Happy Mylotting!
@jbf111967 (137)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Such scandalous attitude is unprofessional, although their are people who have that kind of attitude. Facebook is a public social media, it is not only your friend who could see your post but millions of Facebook user.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Hi there Jbf,
I agree. And I am wondering now if my friend actually is in public setting right now where everyone can just see her post. I hope it isn't in public mode...but still it do create such misunderstandings towards her other friends...like me.
She should just learn to change this kind of habit. It's isn't good and normal.
Anyways, have a good day!
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Mine is totally different. I tend to read some updates most especially for important links from the amazing people I like. Though, I don't use it for such updates just what my friend is doing. ^^
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Somehow people should not go overboard in terms of using Social Media as their portal of releasing tension in their lives.
It’s also important to consider that Social Media is open source information that one could disseminate to a large number of audience and putting such personal contents over your life is not appropriate to do so.
There should be a leap between reality and internet life, because as observed, people are hook by the hype of social media wherein they are posting contents over such site that are way personal and should be taken in a personal resolution rather than posting it publicly on such social media.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi there Heay,
I definitely agree with you on that. We should definitely separate reality from internet life...and we couldn't just let people know about what's going on. We should definitely be responsible enough to know what's to put and what's not to put in there.
But, we are not all the same. There are immature people who just let everything out and just post everything out without thinking on what people might think.
Still, that friend of mine is still posting something on her wall...which is annoying..
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
True, people have different personalities and different take in terms of their usage of social media. although we can't help them to stop, it's best to correct them in a manner that they won't get offended.
Thanks for your response.
@lakantar (1573)
• Greece
3 Apr 12
Well I don't agree with people doing it like this. That's why social networks have the chat option. If they hate someone they can just send him a message or even better they can tell him all they want in person. But I have to say that it is less annoying than when people constantly send you invites to silly applications ;)
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
I don't get much application actually compared to few years back. And I actually just ignore it.. But with status updates...you can see it. And until now, she hasn't stop...I think everyone was stuck up with her since they stopped commenting.
Well, it's not good. It's a public area...and most people can read it especially our friends.
Happy Mylotting!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Apr 12
The thing with facebook is that it has become a breather for some people. Some people find comfort in airing out their deepest emotions on FB, some simply want to grab attention. It's just sad that some people don't realize that announcing their lives on Fb is just similar to spilling your guts in front of a live audience and you on the podium. The only difference is that, in FB, the hands are doing the work of the mouth.
It seems like some people are braver online than they ever are in real life.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
There are actually a lot of brave people online. And as what I see...they tend to brag a lot of things in that said social networking site. Though, I do think there is something wrong with just updating...but we have our limits...and people should set their own limits.
Have a great day!
@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
3 Apr 12
Usually not. I try to keep my status updates so that all my friends there can see them, and as not all my facebook friends are close friends of mine, I stay away from sudden outbursts against people. I might object to the weather or life in general, but I usually also stay away from politics and never mention my job.
So most of my updates are pretty boring for those who want to pry :-)
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
I used to post (few years back) about my disappointments but I haven't come to a point where I post something like this as if I am talking to that certain person.
I do post a lot but not lately...and I think my updates are quite boring as well...^^
Have a good day!
