Do you ever....
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (167015)
Boise, Idaho
April 3, 2012 3:39pm CST
wish you had a family member you don't have? Like just now as I was watching The Waltons with all the kids and the older brother being there for all of them at some point or other. I sometimes wish I had had a brother or sister. I had a step brother for seven years but he left and I have never heard from him. It would be so nice to have someone like this that I could talk to from time to time. I have my BFF but she is one of those that will tell you what you want to hear. She's great don't get me wrong and I am thankful to have her. Do you ever wish you had a sibling you don't have? Or maybe grandparents that were still alive? Or aunts and uncles? Do you?
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Apr 12
hi celtic, you bet I wish. I wish I had my maternal grandparents here. First I got to say I only know my maternal grandma. She lived with us from the time I was 4 to the time I was 25 and her time here on earth was up and God called her to Heaven. She was and is my personal hero to this very day. She was the one who gave me a home and did everything to give me a happy safe childhood. She was a devout Catholic who took me to church from a very early age. She was amazing in making things from scratch. Make do or do without...... she was and is my personal guiding light so to say.
When she passed away I stood at the open grave, as the last one of the family members, all alone, realizing that I dont really have a home any more. Now its 25 years later, and sometimes I wonder how I managed to survive for half of my life already without her here.
I have never seen my grandpa in person as he was missing in WW II long before I was born but I heard a lot about him so its as if I knew him personally too. It would be fun to have him here and get to know him even better.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Apr 12
I am glad to hear that you had a good relationship with your maternal grandmother. I did too. SHe was everything to me. Too bad you didn't know your grandpa. TIme spent with him will always be remembered as a great time in my life. I hope that you have some pictures and maybe some stories to remember them.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
You should go get it. I have one of my grandpa holding me when I was about five or six.
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Apr 12
I have a pic of my Grandma, she would have turned 113 yesterday so I remembered her especially and when we went out for dinner to the neighbours I said to hubby thats really a bday dinner in honor of Grandma.
But I dont have a pic of Grandpa. Its still at my deceased mothers place and no one gives it to me
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
7 Apr 12
I would love for my grandparents to still be alive. As you know, I was very close to them. I do miss the relationship I had with my cousin when I was young. I loved her like a sister. She was my cousin, sister,and bff. We could not be separated when we were little and teens. I have missed her forever.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
What happened to her. I had two cousins and we were very close when young but now we are estranged. I wonder how they are.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Jul 12
It's funny(for lack of another work) how these things go sometimes. And life doesn't give repeats.
@mysiraylon (1102)
• United States
4 Apr 12
yes I do wish those things in my life, but then on a second thought, that options are being a consequences of such, as we cannot have all in life. pretty sad that it is a nature we must accept.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Apr 12
I think you can change things if you want to badly enough. Takes work but it could happen.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
4 Apr 12
i love the waltons! what a great show and what a great family to grow up in! i am an only child and would have loved to have siblings. i am sure not many like their siblings much until they become adults. i can see this in our two daughters. one is 15 nd the other one is almost 19. they used to play well when they were little, hit a rough patch when my older daughter was around 14, 15 and now the get along really well.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
I am an only child also. I always seemed to congregate to the people with large families though. My BFF has two sisters and four brothers. Glad the girls get along.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
18 Apr 12
Goodness yes. I miss my grandparents almost everyday. I used to wish I had a sister that was very close to my age, but looking back, it was a good thing I didn't..LOL..I was a bit selfish with my grandfather when I was little.
I miss my cousin terribly. We were very close in age and like bff and sisters.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Apr 12
I had two cousins I was real close with when I was young. THen there was a family disagreement and I don't communicate with them anymore. My maternal grandparents were very good to me.
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
18 Jul 12
Yes I would really like to have a sibling. Siblings are the best people to confide in most of the difficulty we go through. Siblings are there when you need them and will actually rise above any obstacle to assist you in any problems you might be going through. Your siblings are the only people available to offer you any kind of assistant you may need
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 12
Yes, they are good to confide in. You are so right about siblings. Thanks for you input.
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
4 Apr 12
I miss my younger sister, she passed away about thirteen years ago. She and I were close friends. I have an older half sister, but she is not someone I can trust or lean on. I have a younger brother that sort of takes the role of anchor in the family. He lives in a different state, and works two jobs but he is kind of the rock for the rest of us.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Apr 12
Sorry to hear about your younger sister. Good to have an anchor in the family. When my uncle was alive he was our anchor. Now all there is is my daughter and her two kids and me.
@smacksman (6053)
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4 Apr 12
I always think how sad it is when China brought in the law that restricts a couple to only have one chid.
A good way to reduce a population explosion but then how sad not to have brothers or sisters or aunts, uncles and cousins.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
SOmetimes I almost wish they would do that here. So many people and none of the kids seem to be growing up with any regard for other people.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
4 Apr 12
I have a brother who is 10 years younger to me and is settled in Canada with his wife and only daughter.I am single and completely disabled and wheelchairbound permanently.I did not marry nor did i ever wish to but i do wish i had a sister.I have a few cousins who do keep in touch and call me up once in a while,but its not the same..I love my niece very much as i saw her since she was a baby.However she is grown up and studying for her Masters degree in Scotland.However big she grows she will always be a little baby to me and i do miss her very much.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
Atleast you have family. I envy your neice being in Scotland. I have always wanted to visit Ireland and Scotland. Maybe someday. You must be very proud of her.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
3 Apr 12
I sometimes wonder if it would be cool to have a brother, older or younger. I feel like siblings have such a great influence on who you are, and become. And I only have 2 sisters. It would be interesting to have a brother. Also, I never got to meet 3 out of 4 of my grandparents. Only met one. It would be nice if I could have gotten the chance to meet these grandparents that passed before I was born!
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Apr 12
I think siblings do add to ones character. I was brought up by my maternal grandparents. I knew my paternals ones too but they passed early on.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
4 Apr 12
I still have relatives of whom I have a bond. Although, frankly, does not elapse good relations with them, I'm happy to have the good fortune that they are still alive. This in my opinion is the main thing. I do not give much importance to the fact that among us there are small disputes, all the time, you can make it right. Since I know some of my friends who are not lucky enough to have most of their loved ones still alive, this causes me, a disappointment for them. I conclude this review by saying that those who still have parents, siblings, grandparents, all modes must be content. This is because those who do not have it anymore, suffers deeply missed them.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
And this is where memories come in. I have some great memories with my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and counsins. It was a special time in my life and they were special also. I am glad I had them.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
awww my friends are like that, like those that are only child in the family. but so far, i haven't felt that because i have 5 siblings hehehe yeah we are six children in the family.
i actually don't enjoy it because most of the time they fight. it stresses me out and i don't get out of bed and i just stay here on the computer because i never want to hear them yelling and fighting.
what i would always wish is i was already working and be with my boyfriend already in the states. because i don't find happiness here, except of my nephews and nieces. but i need to look for a job here first. i just hope i find one very soon so i can afford to move out.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
THere comes a times in everyone's life when they are ready to move out and get away from the family. I think it is normal. And with alot of kids fighting it must make it even worse. I was an only child and always seemed to have friends with big families because I missed having it. Eveyone is different.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
3 Apr 12
Sometimes, I do wish that I have an older brother to pamper me. Hehehe! It is not easy to be the eldest, because you get all the responsibility and the expectations are higher. But I am still happy with my family, the thought will only cross my mind if I felt like i am bombarded with things to do and I wanted none of those:p Having a responsible older brother would be great but I've heard they can be over protective. We just have to be contented with what we have and make the most of it. But I do think it is human nature to desire for the things we do not have, we have not experience.
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Apr 12
My older step brother sure didn't 'pamper' me. It is human nature. You are right.
@Lisona (177)
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4 Apr 12
I have 2 brothers one older one younger and to be honest we don't see much of each other nowadays as we are all busy. we catch up when we can. Its different when your growing up with them as they are there 24/7. I think we all take family for granted sometimes and you don't realize how much until they are not with us. Its sad but its life :0)
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@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
It is surely sad and how life is now days. I hope you have some good memories. That is what really counts. I do take our families and friends for granted. My BFF has moved away and I sure wish she was close again. I feel like I took her for granted while she was here.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
3 Apr 12
Yes I wish all of those things from time to time. I only have one brother, he is 4 years younger than me and quite the opposite with most things. I think due to my parents marrying as opposites he took after my mom and me after dad. They don't get along half the time wither and neither does my brother and I. It is mostly due to his and his personality. He is a type that thinks he knows everything and will get into moods where he will be moody and not nice to me. I avoid him as much as I can for that reason and he probably just thinks it's just for no reason at all. I always say I wish I had a sister and that she was more like both of us so she could understand both sides. I would like one sibling to be there to talk to more and to help one another more, when it seems like I'm the one who has to put up with my brother's faults and me always helping him out all the time. I miss my grandparents and other relatives.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Apr 12
My step brother was sort of a know it all too. Being older I think he thought he had the right. I wish we both had our grandparents. If yours were as lovely as mine were I am sure they are missed.