How to say no to a friend

Well hello there :) I see that your ex-best friend is making your life to be a torture, let me tell you that its a win-win situation for her because I think that you are afraid of her more than the fact that you dont want to hurt her feelings, fear is not good my opinion: If you dont want such relationship end it, it is not fair for her or for you to ignore the situation, and if you cut off the bonds long time ago as you said why did you start to talk to her at facebook? not a wise move I dont think that people change character easily and it is not wise also if we try and change a person, not healthy so best thing is to tell her the truth explain why you dont want to be friends again and dont look back, You shouldnt care about what acusations she will spread about you because it will not matter anymore if you dont want to be friends, you just want out of that relationship once and for all, You cant have it all my friend, but you have choices to make for your own benefit first, then for all the world :)

The best thing to do is be honest, even if it hurts. If she starts demeaning you or accusing you of things. Just tell her you will not be spoken to like that and either ignore, unfriend her or block her those are really your choices. You have a right to protect your self, you say she's your ex-friend, which probably means that you've simply grown apart or she hurt you in someways, which she is, she is causing you distress, cutting all ties might be the best bet, no explanation, since she will take offense to it, defriend nd block her.

You can tell her that you had to let go of the phone for awhile for financial reasons and so you don't have a contact number right now. It's a lie but it will save you from explaining anything else.

Hiiiii........you got a very tough situation there, if I were in your position I surely going to tell the truth...but wait...not directly but by putting her in the same situation like telling her a story about your friend having this situation.....like making her to feel your situation, and in the end ask the question like "what will she do if you were in the same situation".....I am not an expert but I think it work............

I would tell you to delete her off facebook and block her on emails etc if you are having problems. After 15 years of having a friend I finally got a clue that our friendship is onesided. I was always running errands for her and sending out packages etc. She lives in Canada. I live in the US. yes we have met and that made us better friends. But she would complain how much things cost in Canada and I always got what she needed. She was living on a tight budget. I thought thats what friends do. She inherited quite a bit of money recently and with the aid of her son she is now living in a luxurious style. She started "acting rich" if you know what I mean. That was like hot on cold. I just felt like she changed in an instant over money. I guess most people do. Not sure. so I just quit writing her. I blocked her from facebook, and quit answering her calls. She wrote me several days when I stopped talking to her. Finally she wrote me a final stating she knew i had blocked her from yahoo. which I didnt or I would not have recieved the mail. But I wish her happiness and joy. I just never realized how much I was used versus what I thought having a friend was. Good Luck with your situation. Its hard to make those decisions. But I have to admit since I stopped I am much happier now. I never realized til I stopped that she was treating me like a puppet on strings.

Hello jonnifc, I understand how hard it is to say NO to a person who had once been your good friend. We must never be too quick in saying YES nor take too long in saying NO. In my opinion as you would have shared every bit of your emotion whether it be towards her or any other person with that friend, likewise you should also tell her about how you feel now about your relationship with her. Tell her what makes you feel or think about her as an ex-best friend. It is possible that this interaction may bridge the differences between you both and you both may come closer to each other once again. In case you have made up your mind and do not want to reconcile with her then also let her know about it and remember you do not need to give justifications to people whom you don't care about or who are no more closer to you. It's entirely your choice whether you want to give your number to her or not. Just try to be polite to her in your refusal. Take Care!

There might be no easy way to get out of this one. I would just say no. I don't think I would offer to much of an explanation - maybe that i don't use my phone much, or maybe that my plan doesn't cover international calls, and then I would change the subject.

The only thing I could really think of that you could do is just ignore her completely and hopefully she gets the message. Or you can just be honest with her.

Well if this was an ex-best friend, I would be inclined not to feel too bad about not giving my phone number. But perhaps that is just me. Then again, there are many friends that the ties have been cut and I rarely see them. They don't even acknowledge my presence most of the time, should our paths cross at any rate. It is a cool, sometimes cordial enough existence. I would just be inclined to not feel bad about saying no. But then again, there are times where I don't feel inclined to cater to people. Some people need to learn that life is not fair and they should not be taking offense to everything. Not to take things the wrong way. It might be a tight situation for some but it just feels like a simple situation for me personally.

Hi there! If you really want to get rid of your ex-bestfriend then just ignore her message to you. I wonder if your ex-bestfriend knew what she had done to you to make you feel that way or have you confronted or talked to her about it? I think it will help both of you if you will talk about it since you said you used to be close to her before. At least she will have an idea that you don’t want her in your life and that she will leave you alone. It is hard when you are clueless with the way a friend treats you right? If she doesn’t know yet how you feel then let her know. I think that’s the best way you can do than try to avoid her when she is asking for your new number. I hope you can still work things out.

Dear friend, maybe I could possibly be the person, not the best to give you such advice. I tell you this, because my main problem in my life, is in being able to say NO to someone! Your case, however, does not seem that complex. I'd begin to write to this person, with kindness, the reasons why you, you do not feel able to maintain a friendship. This with the hope that she graciously accepts your understanding. But if, despite everything that people are pissed perhaps by sending the offensive phrases, well, at this point I leave it up to you to draw the right conclusions!

You already say it's an ex friend so why do you write in your title: how to say no to a friend? Ex friend, family, friend or stranger, no is no. You can write here in public you don't want to give your number so you can email her that too or? Why should you think about her being sensitive? You haven't seen her for long and as you said she is your ex friend. And no there is no way to prevent a disagreement (why do you care if it's an ex friend and you don't want to be closer) and why shouldn't your ex friend not to jummp into conclusions if you don't want to give your number and are too much coward to say why you refuse? You would do exactly the same or? So grab your commons sense together tell that friend you don't see her as a friend anymore and you don't want to be closer anymore and you don't see the need to give your phonenumber and go on with your life. Since it's obviously that is what you want.

Its difficult how to handle a friend that you don't want to see or be a part of her life I know been there read the book. I just let it drift, don't respond to her if you don't want to know her. Tell her straight you don't want to know maybe you both have to talk to not talk to each other anymore, I know I am confused right now...lol but I think you get the point I am trying to put across

Just be direct about it and tell her that you don't want to be bothered by her.

That's a tough situation. I think it is better for you to tell her the truth, or just simply ignore her message of asking your number.

To me, being close to her doesn’t mean with her. She having number mean she will call you over the phone but not face to face conversation. To avoid her jumping into conclusion explain your side of the story and make sure she understands how you want to go around the friendship. She will understand the ‘Nos and the Yes’.