Fact or Fad: Pregnancy out of marriage
By eljayo
@eljayo (1105)
Philippines
April 3, 2012 8:00pm CST
Hi guys! JUst look at the people around you,your friends acquiantaces,relatives,family. You can really notice no doubt that pregnancies out of marriage are increasing. This is a fact.Nearly 40% of births are out of wedlock.Half of these come from teenagers.This is really disturbing.Most of these relationship failed after two years or so.As years past by social analyst notice that it is continuously increasing.So its the digits are fact, if it is becoming rampant than are people considering it as a fab?Like a fashion or trend that should be followed.I guess before it was a disgrace to have a pregnancy out of wedlock. In conservative countries they a man and a woman will be forced to marry to conceal the disgrace, this is still evident until now. Who will suffer the most when marriage does not work, the child will be the most affected and they do not think about it.Lucky for those whose relationship have continiously flourish despite of the unplanned pregnancy and marriage adn only a few have this luck.I have a lot of friends that haev the same situation.It is because of the aggressive behavior of people and teens nowadays. A lot of influences are present such as internet and even out of social pressure.I think it has become both a fact and a fad, sad to say. What is your opinion about this?
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8 responses
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
You are right, there are now more teens that are getting pregnant. Lucky for those who are not left by their boyfriends and take the responsibility of being father to their kids. Sometimes, not only influences like internet and social pressure became the reason for early pregnancy. Parents have also a major role in this issue.
As you mentioned, that only few succeeded the relationship. I think it will depends on the couple on how they are going to continue. My sister got pregnant at the age of 19 but her boyfriend doesn't left her. They got married and now they are living together happily for almost 5 years.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Hi! You are right too. The parents take a great part in their children's lives.Lucky for your sister she came across with a good guy with good intentions.It will really depend on both of the parties.Soem amture once they know that they haev new responsibilities as a parent but others are not ready yet and evade their responsibility.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Yeah, good for my sister that he wasn't left by her husband when they knew that she was pregnant.
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Yes very true,in these days,that kind of thing is no more respect,pregnant first,last marriage or even no marriage..
That's really bad,the more curse,problems will face because of people made it,sin and sin.
So very shame ,and it is like the boy no more respect t a woman ..I am hoping that some young will not get into that situation.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
Hi! You are right. The end does not justify the means.You are responsible for your own actions and think about the consequences that may happen if you indulge in that activity and that is what they missed to think. They think its ok since almost everyone is doing it.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
I don't think this could be considered a fad. Fad is a term used for actions or things that we are willing to follow. I doubt those girls wanted to be pregnant in the first place. I think it's not a fad, it is a lack of guidance that lead to these things happening.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Hi! The fact that both of them know that doing such thing can result to pregnancy and yet continue to do it is their responsibilty. But becasue they are more focus on pleasure than the consequences adn most of them think that anyway almost everybody is doing it makes it a bit of a fad. But I guess its more of a fact and the disturbing fact that they are increasing in number.Its a lot of guidance, your right and lack of self control as well.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
This is a fact. I can humbly say, I am one of those people who belong into this category. Got pregnant at the age of 16 and a mother at age of 22. I can't undo my past. It already happened. What I can say is that it is better to be a single mom rather than to be in a marriage where it is suffocating.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
Hi! I am happy that you are responsible with your actions and did not evade the responsibilty.Yes we can't undo our past, but we cans till do soemthing frot eh future by not repeating teh same mistake and learning from it and teaching our children the right thing to do.Good luck to your parenting.:)
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
18 Jul 12
The society has become completely rotten. I feel so bad about the same. Young girls drop out of school on premature pregnancies. Parents have also failed since earlier, in the years education began at home. These children born out of wedlock suffer a great deal but this is overlooked. Those people seen to suffer are the parents who at this time of the child’s life are actually apart.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
4 Apr 12
hi there,
i think it can be both. because some are also influences of friends or social media and some also have their own reasons.
i also wanted a baby already hehehe but i know i am not ready and stable yet. my boyfriend and i plan to get married first then work harder and when we are ready, then maybe that's the good time to start a family.
children need guidance especially now, they need more attention. but i also hope they also look out for their own future.
@olivia52779 (66)
• United States
5 Apr 12
There is no doubt that pregnancies outside of marriage are more common than ever before. It is really not seen as a disgrace anymore, it is just a fact. Although there are more birth control options than ever before, there are more babies out of wedlock. I think it is because of two main reasons.
One, people are choosing to get married, if they do at all, later on life than ever before. People seem to focus more on careers and don't want to be tied down in a marriage to one person. People seem to be more interested in playing the field and dating people until they get bored and move onto another person. Most people don't wait long to have relations anymore, so the more times they have relations, the more chance that a baby is created.
Two, many people seem to think that babies solve problems in relationships or give them love that they do not currently have in their life. They think that they feel sad and lonely and that if they have a baby, that will all change. Some people also think that adding a baby to a relationship that is in a downward spiral will revitalize it. These myths are both untrue, but many people do not realize it until it is too late.
