Cyber bullying: What is really being done about it?

United States
April 4, 2012 8:15pm CST
Recently my friend has been a victim to cyber bullying. A few people have been harassing her on facebook, twitter, and through text messaging. Rumors are being started about her and there is no stopping them. They have also been sending nasty messages to her calling her fat, a loser, a ho, etc. She is already shy and self conscious so none of this is helping. On facebook and twitter she can simply report them and block them. But does that really take away the pain that it is causing her? People need to think about how their actions are affecting other people. She's brought it up to her counselor and they say they really can't do anything without proof. So should she let them hurt her further for proof or just let it go? What do you think she should do?
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10 responses
• India
11 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this. cyber bullying is not a good thing, surely the person whoever do this must give up their activities and think about the pain of the victim. They don't get any benefits by bullying other persons. They are deserved for the punishment and we can report them using the cyber crime act
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
5 Apr 12
I guess it depends on how strong she feels about stopping it and how well she can handle it. If she feels as if it will hurt her more or deeply then it is probably just best to let it go, but she might regret that later. I think it is awful that people would treat other people like that and I am very sorry that your friend is having to endure that. I honestly hopes she gets those people in real trouble and perhaps they will learn that you don't treat people that way.
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
I have been a victim of cyber bullying myself.I was lucky enough that I have friends who knew me that well and didn't leave my side during those days.I might suggest to gather proofs of cyber bullying does your friend have a print screen of every message on facebook, tweets on twitter?If she happen to have a print screen of those she can report it to authorities or to the social networking site itself.All she have to do is to print those copies and or attach it to her complaint on facebook and twitter to warn the developers of that site that person mentioned in the attachment is using facebook and or twitter for bullying your friend.Tell your friend to fight back and that is the proper way.If your friend have pictures of them the better because she can also attach it to the complaint itself.don't be afraid there are ways to stop them and to make them pay for every pain and shame they caused your friend.just be there for your friend . :)
@06MLam (620)
5 Apr 12
We should treat cyber bullying the same as bullying as there have been cases that people have committed suiside because of it. I think those who cyber bully others should reflect on what they have done as they are not considerate and they should think about how they will feel if they are treated in such a way. The one who is bullied should seek for help from professionals like social workers so as to find out the appropriate ways to deal with the issue.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
hi there, that happened to my sister too and it hurt me seeing her reactions and how she felt helpless. there is no cyber bullying bill here in our country yet so what we did is we reported it to Twitter and what they did was block the user that was harassing her. then they replied to my sister saying that if the same person does that to her, report and they will trace the IP address. there was also another one that has been doing the same to her, we filed a libel case and violence against women cases against him. yeah this time a male, actually gay. some people really have nothing good to do. they destroy lives and don't care about other people. i believe it will come back to them a hundred folds. your friend also needs support. they feel like they are their lowest point in life i hope all these will stop and those people are caught and pt to prison.
• United States
5 Apr 12
Being a recent victim of cyber bullying myself, I would say that she should 'disappear' from the technology world for a while. This forum is actually my 'new start' after being harrassed on another medical forum which resulted in bad rumors being started about me for various reasons. When it happened, I literally deleted my carbon footprint off of everything. I deactivated FB, didn't text, didn't twitter, didn't message, didn't return calls. Eventually, people moved on...it has been about a month. It is hard, she should continue to see her counselor as it is hard on the self esteem to be so humilated publically.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
5 Apr 12
First question, how old is she? Secondly....report them, block them from facebook, email, phone, etc. Do not listen to it, read it, or put up with it! And it is obviously them who have the problem....if they have to do that or say those things to make themselves look or feel better.......yeah, they have the real issues not her. If it continues, print off any conversations they send, and take it to the police, file a harassment charge on them. And if need be, slap a restraining order on them. Other than that, she needs to IGNORE them!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
5 Apr 12
I think the best she can do is ignore these people, block them or report them. Yes damage has been done, but further damage can still be prevented. In time she will learn to just shrug this hurtful period off in her life, that is if, she does not see or read the statuses or posts of these people anymore. Once I also landed in an argument with a close friend. Although no cyber bullying happened, the fact that I keep seeing her on FB homepage still bothers me. It reminds me of our conflict. I did not unfriend her though because I know it was a petty argument and we're still friends but to keep me from hating seeing her face everytime im online, I unsubscribed from her. Meaning, I could not see her posts. It's like she's invisible to me. And I found that in time, I've learned to feel less disturbed.
• Mexico
5 Apr 12
Hi sierra nicole: Considering your friend's personality I think she should try to make it stop and not go any further. Maybe she should try to make her Twitter and Facebook accounts as private as she can and keep all her personal information out from the sight of these nasty people. ALVARO
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
I don't know Ive never had this experience before and knowing myself being a vengeful person i will find a way to get proof and so that i can bust this guys, well i think the counselor should at least try to talk to the alleged people at least in a sense he or she did something right, id get friends with a hacker and get even, but that is me and sometimes i'm inappropriate, i dislike bullies, it makes me wanna bully them.