He made a big mistake...
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 4, 2012 9:41pm CST
This is continued about the homeless guy we took in. So my husband originally gave him until Friday to find another place to stay. Until tonight. He came home from work drunk as anything and asked my husband if he wanted to buy pain medicine from him!!
That was it. My husband told him to get his stuff and leave! We have 3 kids and thats how he acts in our house?!? Rude, absolutely rude and careless...
I will forgive in time but right now I am furious, I'm not gonna lie. The most frustrating part guys is he was sober the ENTIRE time he was here until tonight. I have truly learned you cannot change anyone or their habits unless they want to change. We thought he wanted to change, it was all a big fat lie! He is gone and I am grateful for getting him out of the woods at least for a while.
Ugh, your take MyLotters...
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18 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 12
The thing is Runite, not all of them are. It is hard to tell the difference between them sometimes.
My husband, daughter and I were homeless at one point because my husband lost his job and we were in a place with no family to turn to. We never thought it would happen to us. But it did.
A couple took us in and helped sooo much and thats when we decided to help others who are in need like we were helped.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Apr 12
Change the locks on your doors! You did try but you are so correct. A person only changes when they Want to change.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Apr 12
It is sad. You tried. It shows how goodhearted you are.
@GardenGerty (161897)
• United States
5 Apr 12
You did the right thing in trying to help him and you did the right thing by telling him to leave. You cannot change someone else, they have to want to change and change themselves from the inside out. I would not have let him continue there either. I just would worry that he would get mad and come back and try to do something to you guys. Please be watchful.
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@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 12
Yeah, we did the best we could for him. Our best was not enough but that happens sometimes.
We thought he wanted to change but now I think the only reason he was not drinking here is because first he didnt have the money and second because he didnt wanna be on the street again.
We will be very careful, I dont really think hes that stupid but if he is my hubby will be here to take care of it.
@SomeCowgirl (32190)
• United States
6 Apr 12
If that is where he has to go maybe he'll straighten up and clean up to keep his job and find himself another place to live. Some people can't break habits that well. I do hope that he can break his, and especially the pain med thing!
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@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Apr 12
I hope he does straighten his life out. I dont wish anything bad on him. When he was sober he really was a nice normal guy.
When I saw his true colors I was shocked and felt very foolish. I hope he gets off this stuff. I pray for him too.
@toniganzon (72549)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
You gave him a chance and he blew it. You did what you could and you were kind in doing that. I don't blame your husband for kicking him out as he truly deserved that. I wouldn't want that kind of person in my house as well.
Yeah sometimes no matter what we do to help others change, it seems to be futile when they themselves don't want to.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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6 Apr 12
I'm glad you got this person out of your house! what a rude and horrible person to do something like that when you were trying to help him!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
5 Apr 12
Well my opinion is you tried to help this guy and he was not appreciative enough to move forward. So you did the right thing in kicking him out, especially when you have children living there too. I just hope this doesn't prevent you from trying to help another, because there are homeless out there who just need a break so they can move on.
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
We did. We tried so ha to help him but unfortunately he did not appreciate or want our help.
We will never stop helping because thats just how we are. We both love to help anyone that needs it.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
Hello LMB, with what's happening to the world now, more poor are on the rise, it's rare to have a homeless that has a capacity to change, but old habits never die. it was such a good thing at first that your hubby was trying to be kind to a fellow man but unfortunately, this had happened and they are abusing your kindness. at least you learned a lesson for taking strangers into the house
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Apr 12
It is really sad but true that there are more and more people that are homeless.
We definitely did try to help him but he didnt want our help. He did take advantage but not everyone is like that. And he was not a stranger my husband knew him...
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
5 Apr 12
Money does do strange things to people, doesn't? Lack of it spurs the effort to make it, plenty of it gets one to splurge on nonsense.
You did good when you took him in, now it looks like you did him good when you kicked him out. Being out again on streets may sober him up real fast. Let us hope he will then have enough sense to behave as expected.
As I said before, you never expected anything from him when you took him in, let the memories stop there.
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
I couldnt have said it better myself.
Yeah its funny how things work out. I hope it straightens him out a little bit but nothing would surprise me.
No we did not expect anything but respect and we did not even get that...
@shenlynn7823 (640)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
hi there loving,
I know it is bad that I also wish he would leave yet I am grateful that finally your family is free of his presence that is not only annoying but also full of ungratefulness. God Bless your whole family and always take care
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
He is gone. He disrespected our home and family. We do not tolerate those things.
He was very ungrateful, but we will still help others.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
5 Apr 12
hi there,
i haven't seen your first discussion about this yet. but reading this made me worry of your safety in the house. so what happens now? is he out of the house already? i hope he is because you can never tell how they are going to act again. it is a shame to be acting like that at other people's home, especially when they are taking you in because they want to help you.
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
He is gone and he doesnt have keys or anything.
Yeah he took advantage of our kindness thats for sure.
He should have had more respect for us and our home...
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
It was very rude and we definitely did try, but failed I suppose...
Thank you, we try hard to be good people. Sometimes theres only so much you can do...
@scarl3t (89)
• Greece
5 Apr 12
You shouldnt take people you dont know in your house, these are hard times all the world is going through, people are more agressive, more selfish, more evil, people dont ever change
This person is homeless for a reason that got him there by his own actions and that is for sure, if he wanted to change he'd try at least to show some appreciation to your kindness for taking him in and helped him, and not taking advantage of the situation to continue to be such rude as you said, first of all and most important this person is a sick person, an addict to drinking so he will propably never feel appreciation for your goodness because alcool will never let him appreciate anything in his life, you already gave him motivation but I think he needs something more that even you and your kindness cannot provide for him. so you did right to let him go
If you want to help some homeless, give them food, buy them food, clothes and sent them, but your home do not share with anyone you dont know especially if you have small children, dont trust anyone stranger near your children, you can help other ways, I know I may sound selfish and racist or something like that, but I am not, I help other people my own way that I dont feel threatened, I dont invite them to my home
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Apr 12
My husband did know him. He worked for my husband a couple years ago. We would never have a stranger in our home with our kids. We are parents first and foremost and we love our children more than anything.
He did take advantage of our kindness, thats true. And he didnt want to change so we could not help him.
Like I already said he was not a stranger. Were not stupid people...
@Hatley (163773)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Apr 12
hi lovingmybabies oh my thats horrible that he did that after you guys took him in and were so good to hime,to treat you like that.
that is plain disgusting and wanting to sell pain pills to your husband. this you just do not need and especially not around your
children.your hearts were in the right place but this jerk's was not. good your husband kicked him out.I would have been angry too believe me.Good for your husband as that the last straw
for you.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
5 Apr 12
At least now both of you have come to know what sort of a person he really is.He has revealed his true colors.Its good that you got rid of him.There is only one thing that worries me. Now that he has gone he may try to take revenge on you by targettig your children.I have known such things to happen in my country frequently where someone has kidnapped and even killed somebody`s children in order to take revenge for something done to that person.God forbid anything like that to happen to you people.I pray to God nothing like that happens to you`all.
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 12
We definitely do know how he is.
I am glad he is gone.
I doubt hes that stupid to do anything like that. My hubby does not play when it comes to me or the kids.
Plus we keep our doors locked at all times and the guy does not have a key.
God will protect us too so I am not worried about that.
@celticeagle (170665)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 12
People should act better when staying in someones home. He is so selfish and self absorbed it is horrible. Drunks are such fun anyway. NOT!! I am sorry to hear you had to put up with that. Glad he left without too much of a disturbance.
@LovingMyBabies (85285)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Apr 12
I agree, he should have had more respect for our home.
Yeah he is not fun when hes drunk but he was staying sober for so long we didnt think we needed to worry about it...
I am glad he left too although I feel bad even saying that...