Help me with this please?

I think the best thing to do is not to interfere with their problem. Although it hurts so much to see or hear your friend is in pain because of doubts that her boyfriend is having an affair and to find out her suspicions were right, you should let her find out herself. This is just my opinion but it still depends upon you if you'd like to tell her.

I just remembered one thing, when I was in school (around at the age of 10-12) years old, while coming back from school to home, a dog was following me and it was about to bite me. Suddently I took a stone and throw to the dog and it got hit to the dog and the owner of the dog were around and was angry to me and he questioned why did you throw the stone to the dog, he didn't do anything to you? I replied him that I could't wait until the dog bite me and before he bite, I need to react or do something to keep away the dog. Similarly, here also, you, the girls should AWARE that the presence of a boy can lead to physical relations and at any cost, she should avoud it. But once everything happend and crave for help is not a top of the current centry girls. Your friend may be about the age of 18 and I presume that she is matured and can foresee the consequences of such matters. Let her experience the bitterness if she lost anything and advice her to forget everything and try to get a new life, if she can.

Stay out of it!!! You are just hearing it from both females of the triangle. The male will make his choice. Hopfully!!! And stop fooling around. He needs to be with one or he other. The female he does not choose needs to accept his choice and should consider herself lucky. Believe me there are better fish in the sea. The female he chooses probably should not consider herself the winner because as soon as he tires of her her will probably do the same to her. He seems to be a guy that does not like his privates to get dry.

Though it is not an ordinary matter and quite common these days, when it comes to ourown issue, it has too much relevance. See, if we look around, many people have this kind of behaviour and life pattern. Suppose he is 22 and in his life so far time he must have accompanied with many girls and he might have met the girl friend a within a few months or within an year time. His past life with some other girl is quite circumstantial and your fiend also got in his eyes and he is simply taking chances with as many girls as he can. This is the simple logic that he is trying to enjoy different girls and trying to hide it from others. Like any other person, he also want to keep safe and don't like to disclose the earlier affier with anyone. I am sure that this is the basic background and now she has to look for her stand whether to continue the relationship or not. Unfortunately, 99% of the girls would be willing to go for any kind of relationship with any boy before finding about his whereabouts. If a girl want a boy as just a friend, she SHOULD NOT go for any physical relationships with a boy before the marriage. If it happens, the boys are simply taking advantage of such girls and if already happend anything like this, let her to enjoy the past and forget about what already happend. I am sure that this boy is just a cheat and if he can, he will try for more girls as much he and this is the trend of the society, whom we will blame? Here you (the girls) should be much more alerted NOT to get cheaged by the woolfs around. If lost, just simply cry and curse, it won't make any changes on such boys and he will simply laugh at you.

Hi Shenlynn, Wow! what a story. I understand your dilemma. If you really want to find out the truth, I mean if you want to know if your hunch is true. You just have to be blunt, somehow, whether you like it or not, you are already involved in this mess. Ask your friend if she is seeing the guy your other friend is living in with. It will be best to do this face to face and see how she reacts to it. Maybe you can shed some light to her, that someone is hurting and it's never cool to hook up with someone who is already taken. You have to be firm with where you stand.

Wow! I think your friends partner is really cheating on her especially that he change his attitude towards her or he change the things that he usually do before. And about your other friend, I think there is bit possibility that your instinct is right. I hope it is not your friends partner that your other friend is seeing with.

Well in such occasions I think your friend might need to open up and say what she thinks off. I mean at least she will not be torturing herself. Unfortunately though it sounds like cheating...

Just like to told your friend #1, give them the benefit of the doubt. Its better I think if you stay out of it. Let the three people involved handle it because after all, they are all adults now. I just hope they we are not dealing with the same guy here, just be a friend I guess to the person who really needs a friend right now. whatever happens, just be there for her.

Hello Shenlynn... Things happen for a reason... maybe the partner of you first friend is seeing another girl that makes him feel better and your other friend is also seeing another guy that maker her feel better also... they could be or could not be connected but lets not jump into conclusions... what is confirmed now is both of them is seeing another person aside from there current partner... what I could advice to you at this moment is to stay calm and don't get into conclusions because this might cause a big trouble if you make too much assumption... Maybe you could advice your first friend to confront his partner about the status of there relationship, because according to your story the guy seems to be showing the signs already... Guys being gentlemen doesn't want to do the first move in this kind of situation maybe he is waiting for your friend to approach him and confront him... and for your second friend I think she is doing the right move by leaving her partner. As I have mentioned things happen for a reason... and this happen because maybe they will meet better partners in the future... who knows... hope it helps even a bit... :D

I would tell the your friend about this and help her to understand. Its going to be hard and she might suspect him but inreality there is like no proof, so i don't sugest confronting the man yet... i would try to catch him in the act or try setting him up to cheat. Find a girl that is attractive and he does not know, have her meet him some where and flirt with him and see if he bits which he will if she is attractive and basically throwing herself at him then just have him text or call this new mistress while your friend is right there and now you have proof to confront the cheater with. if you confront him with no proof it will be nothing but a game of ring around the rosie with agruments. she tell him she doesn't want him cheating and he will say i'm not cheating and she will say i know you are and he will say i swear there is know one else and she will say your cheating tell who and why? and he will say im not cheating. you get the point. ultimately if she accuses him with no proof its saying she doesn't trust him, and if he is not cheating this will cause tons of turmoil in the relationship. now you might well your setting him up to fail if you try to set him up with some attractive female. No, if he loves your friend he will not cheat on her because he would take her feelings into consideration before he cheats. there fore if an attractive woman throw herself at him and he doesn't take the bait then i would say he is a good man and isn't cheating. ps. you might say he didn't take the bait that time but he could another time. i would argue that a cheater is a cheater, they will cheat when they get the chance to cheat. you are providing them with a chance to cheat. and being that i set up my last girlfiend because i suspected her of cheating and she took the bait, i feel it was a successfull. i provided a cheater with a chance to cheat with a partner that was worth it for her, and i had my buddy bring her back to his place where i was sitting waiting for them to come back from what she called a girls night out, the problem was she was the only girl and he was the only guy. needless to say she was shocked to see me at the house of the guy she just went out with and that was my proof and the end of the relationship. it hurt but i'm glad that i caught her then and not 3 years down the road with kids or a marriage.