Being comfortable with your own skin

Yes sometimes we pretend to be a different person just to be liked by a lot of people. I think this is just a coping mechanism of humans. It is natural and innate for us to desire people to like us. So we tend to try to know what that person or group wants in a person, and adapt those qualities when we are with that person or group. I think it is okay for people to do that but they should not forget who they really are. Happy mylotting.

Upon reading the subject I thought that it was a simple question of whether I like the color of your skin or not. I had the impression that the issue was whether you are comfortable with the color of your skin. However, when I read further I realized that the real question was whether I am comfortable with who I am. Well, I have my awkward moments but in general I'd like to think I'm pretty comfortable with myself. Being who I am is what defines me. I am unique. Nonetheless, just like normal human beings there are times when I wished I was taller, cuter, or fairer. But those are just passing moments. When I really think about it, I love being who I am. Pretending to be someone who I am not just doesn't work for me. I am pretty straightforward. If someone doesn't like me, then I'll just accept it. If someone likes for who I am, then I think that's very flattering. If people will me because I pretended to be someone else them I have gained nothing. However, if people will like me for being the real me, then God bless them. They are true friends indeed and I will treasure those people.

Well, sometimes I think there are people here who wished I would and act like everything is always OK, as in my real life as well, but personally I find myself learning more from what I am experiencing and going thru to where life becomes better because of them. Yes, I may get tired and frustrated with people who may not always understand but I know in time I become a much better person because of them.

I feel uncomfortable in my skin nearly every day. I have a lot of allergies and eczema already for over 40 years. I know there are people who avoid to be with me. My skin seldom looks great. It can be swollen, full of rinkles, very dry and thornes, infected etc etc. I never know how I look like when I wake up. No matter how much meds I take (or not). The great thing about getting older is you don't care about others anymore. You just care about yourself and not being in pain whole time. You don't look in the mirror that frequently (I seldom do, even comb my hair with closed eyes). Later on you find out that beauty is inside, that if you smile the whole world smiles at you and that also other people see you different from the way you see yourself. Many even don't see it if you look badly again. Perhaps they are used to it or don't care, but that doesn't matter since they won't make you feel more worse either by making remarks about the way you look.

In my case, it depends on the situation. I show my real self to my friends and to my relatives. That's why I feel most comfortable when I am at home. I think we all wear masks depending on the roles we play. When I am at work, I show my teacher face and I act the way a teacher should act. When I in my MA class, act like how a student should act.

I think we should never pretend to be someone we are not. We should be comfortable in our own skin and be comfortable with our own selves. By pretending to be someone else we'll only get fake friends and relations as these people do not know the real you and see something else. Also, you are not lying to others but also to yourself by pretending to be someone else and you cannot live like this for very long. It will become burdensome and too much to handle in the long run...