Are you a good friend? Are you a good listener?
@hello_kitty1981 (44)
April 5, 2012 5:20am CST
I always stop when people say something. I listen when they have problems. I set down when they talking & express their feelings.
My friends said that i'm a good listener, i always listen to their problems & also give them advise. If they want to talk. they txt me they call me. They want to meet me.
The question is who love to listen to me. Who would i call or txt or to meet if my time to look for a listener. I laugh at my self & ask why i'm always like this. when my friends need me i listen every details of their dramatic, sadness & what ever people called it "problems". When i try to call some of my friends, i ask if they could listen to me. they just ok come to my house, or i call you or ok just txt. When i starting to tell my problems. it will be reverse. is till listen to their problem, not mine... I'm just telling this not because i'm tired of them, i never tired of listen to their problems. i'm happy coz i help. thru this i could talk & someone will read. hehhee crazy i'am...
8 responses
@sweetbee08 (4)
• Philippines
15 Apr 12
They think of you more of a listener and not friend. I believe these are two f\different things. But yes, don't get tired of listening to them because who knows, one day, many people will come to you and well be there for you to listen. :)
@helloimjoe (13)
• China
6 Apr 12
i know how you feeling,i'm there too.when you have a problem or bad feelings,want to talk about it with your friends.but they don't really care about it, even make something up to tell you that she don't have time .you need to find someone who really care about you,doesn't need many friends just one ,the real one?
@janechenrose (135)
• China
6 Apr 12
Friends, are they truely your good friends ,only need you finds you, when you need ,they forget , do not bother too much ,never put these so small things trouble you ,there are so many kinds of people, listen is small thing, to finds more friend in wider circle, who you meet later may be your true friend .
friends? prize? will friends for prize ignore friendship? Will friends think you are better, then always in heart, jealousy.
I donot know, in my mind prize, score is no important ,your friends will put love first, if she is hard prepare test and not call you. only because we need test to get good score ,to succeed, then can live all of us better lifes.
Maybe there are mis understanding. Don't bother these things.
@awesomekid (67)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
Being a good friend is being able to be a burden bearer to a friend who is sad or downhearted. It's good that you are that way to your friends. Just continue being that way because life always has its way of repaying you for the kindness you show to others. As for me, I think I am a good listener too to my friends. In fact, there are moments when I don't even say anything to a friend who comes to me for comfort. A hug or a smile of assurance is enough to make my friend feel that I am there for her no matter what.
@ayush9507 (40)
• India
6 Apr 12
might be listening the others elligence art is good thing so just not listening your friends not good always listen what the second person want to tell and than respond according what they said
@Extourmed (191)
• Bulgaria
6 Apr 12
Hi hello_kitty1981, I am at the exact same situation. I listen everyone's problems and help them getting threw them, giving them advices and all that and just be there for him. But when I need them to listen to my problems and tell me their advices they're just not there. That's pretty bad situation,but I can tell you what. I stopped expressing my feelings to them, but I can tell you what, I have one really true friend who's my best friends since we were 12 years old, so if I have problem i tell it to him and not anyone else. And whatever happened he always listen and help me threw my problem. So I can tell you that if someone doesn't listen to your problems and don't care about it - he's not your true friend. Good luck :)
@lekhya (819)
• India
5 Apr 12
Hello kitty,
When U can't find a person to listen to your problems or share your feelings.....
"DON'T WORRY"
At that time,there is one person who will always help you and be with you besides listening to your problems.He is the creator.No listener in the entire universe can overtake him or at least reach him.Spare some time to talk to him singly and let him now ur problems and sorrows.
@pjha1975 (214)
• India
5 Apr 12
Well, listening to problems cannot be one - sided. If you listen to their problems & provide solutions, they should also do the same. I guess you probably don't have a very close friend - someone you can just go to & talk to.
But, I would say, don't get discouraged. If it makes you feel good that you are listening to their problems & resolving their issues, then you should go ahead but you should also be choosy about whose problems you listen to. I know it sounds harsh. But, there is true humanity in people who take the time away from their daily schedule to sit with you & give you time so that you can tell them your problems. These are your true & close friends. You know the saying - "A friend in need is a friend indeed"...
