40 and still single.

hi there, how old are you now? maybe this is the time that you look for a job too. hhehehe. i have been wanting the same too but i just want to be stable and okay with everything first. i want to be a Mrs. already

I really don't think it should matter at all. The only concern should be to have a happy child that you loved, raised, took care of, and provided all life has to offer. Age shouldn't matter as long as you can provide these essentials. If you do all this, your child will be happy to have you attend their graduation regardless of your age. Love is love. You can't just make this happen...the timing must be right and when you find the right companion for life, all will fall into place.

So, you're now 40 years old? Have you found the right one for you? The one who you'll spend the rest of your life with? It's better to pick the right one first before jumping into the conclusion of getting married. It's hard to get married to a person you'll soon hate and wished to end up your relationship. How about the promise you'll both serve in front of the Lord? Better think first if she's the right one. But then, yes, you have to have financial freedom first before marrying someone. It's really hard to have a family that you are not prepared to give them good life.

Remember that you are living for you sake. So you can take the decisions for you life but make sure that it do not hurt people a lot. So I think there is still time to start a family If you wish to start now.

if you are in a hurry, i can find a job and find someone to marry at same time. if you find someone, you can't just marry him right away. you still have to know that person well and it takes time. and you can use that time to saving up for your future family. because raising a family isn't that easy.

IF I were you, don't raise a family you can't afford. Unless you're marrying someone rich. Lol. At 40, I'd suggest you get a dog to get you busy. You can train em to do stuff and they're not high maintenance. You don't have to put them to college. But you know, you do whatever makes you happy. =)

bulastika get that job first then mingle and find the mate you have beenf looking for, and let nature take its course. lot of women marry and have children in their forties.if you love each other, and love your babies and provide for your family together there should be no problme of when he or she graduates. I did not marry til 33 but glad i did and had 33 great years of marriage.. nothing wrong with being in your sixties if you have to be and see your child or children graduate as long as you had a great family life and all are happy./

Getting into marriage is certainly one decision only you can make. You don't have to go into it if it's not for you because you might regret it especially if you marry the wrong person.

In my humble opinion there is nothing wrong with having a baby at age 40 or even 45 but there is definitely a problem if you do not have a job. Babies are not little dolls that do not need to eat and drink and be clothed. Babies need all kinds of care and when they get ill even more so, then medicines and doctors visits will also cost a lot. They need to be educated - high costs for that alone - they need proper after school care if you are working, etc.. It isn't possible to raise a child properly on unemployment..its not fair to the baby or to you for that matter.

Just be grateful. God has plan for you. :)

dont e think like that having a family is awesum thing god give us life to live and enjoy and if we do not do this than we are failled in god exam and waste his trust so try to go for marry and live anice life

I think for now. The best thing you can do is to love yourself and everything will follow. Take away all the worries in your heart with prayers. I am still single right now and I am 27 years old. I haven't got into serious relationship. But I am praying for one and forever. Everybody needs somebody and I believe God will make a way for that two person to become one in Christ.

I don't think it matters how old are you. You should chase your dream no matter what. For a start maybe you should start dating from the online or going more often at bars or something. We all deserve to be happy and you should chase your dream and the fact that you don't have a family and you still thinking of how you should afford a good life for your future family definitely means that you'll be a good mother. Don't give up on having a family if you want it. That's my advice :) ! Take care !

I think it would be ok to have a baby in your 40's, but I DO think it all depends on HOW WELL you take care of yourself, and what you know your energy level to be. At age 55, an aunt of mine adopted an infant. My aunt was slim, trim, in-shape, looked like she was actually 35 instead of 55 because she took REALLY good care of herself, not to mention good genes. As a matter of fact, she had a step-son that was 30 years YOUNGER than her, the step-son played in a jazz band. One day my aunt went to a club where the step-son's band was playing, just for a nice outing, and to enjoy the music. The step-son had a WIFE, who was also in the audience, who had never met my aunt (the step-mother). When the step-son was finished playing a set, he went over to talk to his step-mom (my aunt). The WIFE had a fit and accused him of having a girlfriend and CHEATING on her. Not a pretty scene. The step-son explained to his wife, "That's not my girlfriend, that's my MOTHER." My aunt was VERY physically active, and a very hard worker. She ate well, grew a lot of vegetables and did a lot of "canning" of her own food. She also did a lot of swimming, a lot of camping and fishing, lots of dancing. She also kept an immaculate house. NEVER dirty. Adopting an infant when she was 55 was like a walk in the park for her. Worked out fine. Another lady I know who is 44 years old now, gave birth to a daughter 4 years ago. This 44 year old mother is in good shape, jogs every morning, goes to school to further her education, and is very active. She takes care of her daughter no problem. I know some 65 year olds that look VERY good for their age. It is 2012, and there is so much out there that one can do to have a very high quality of life. If you take care of yourself, you can look GREAT at 65, and be a very vital and vibrant person.

I never think too much about age it's just a number, it's what deep inside and views matter most. Remember, we become what we think everyday, if you think you're old, even if you are only 30 then you will really get older than your age. There are 70 years old I know that still look very young. It's a matter on how you carry yourself and how you view life in general.

Go for it! Motherhood is great no matter how old you are. Your children will love you no matter what.

Don't worry friend, Bruce Willis is older than you and he just had another baby... I think i agree with you about not having a baby if you can't afford to give a good life., but you can have a wife if she's on the same boat as you about not having kids.

Your situation could always change maybe you could get a rearly well paid job or even better meet a single millionaire who wants to start a family fingers crossed.

Well, to be honest I think some other things in your life have to fall into place before you're ready for a baby. A good spouse (who is already working) is needed first! and then maybe after that a decent job for you. I had a friend who never wanted children but finally married and had her first child at age 41. It was the best thing she ever did. I can't tell you how important her daughter is to her. Unfortunately, she ended up divorcing her husband so the daughter has born the brunt of that and that has been very sad to see. I would say that if you can find a man who could be a good father and would be good to you and wants to have children with you, go for it! It will be the best decision you ever made.

age doesnt matter thats it.!