my daughter just tryed to lie to me again..
By laken02
@laken02 (3065)
United States
April 5, 2012 9:00pm CST
i was sitting here doing mylot and my daughter just called me.. and she ask me if i had any money , a couple of bucks for gas for her that she had court in the morning and did not have gas to get there.. i told her i did not have any .. and she did not believe me and so finally , she said ok. will you ask phillip, (my husband her step dad) and i told her no that he would not be home for another two hours and that she could ask him herself.. but i would not and i explained to her every time i ask him for money for her , it cause us to argue and we are getting along at the moment so i no i wont ask.. she said ok bye and sounded all sad.. so i said wait what time is your court date tomorrow ? and she said 9 am .. i said ok i will come by in the morning and pick you up and take you.. and get this she said no, i said why not, she said never mind, i said no why not , she said i will just walk, i knew then she was lying to me.. and had no court date and just wanted money for probably
cigarettes or something bad.. and she knows i wont buy them for her.. so she lied..
i said ok , goodbye and hung up .. the reason i know she lied is she has done that many time in the past with my mom and mom fell for it every time.. but me and my husband did not.. she fooled me a few times and then of course me and hubby would argue over it and i would find out he was right she was lying.. who wants to believe there kid will lie to them.. then have to admit to your husband you was wrong.. after that i got smart.. and anotehr thing if i had a court date tomorrow and i really had no gas and someone offered to take me.. i would say yes and be thankful.. so since my mom moved, we thought she had straightened up , some but after tonight i guess not, back to her old ways and im not going to allow it anymore. would you.. and i have begged her to get a job.. and she says she will but then has not yet.. so i will say a prayer for her tonight.. as long as she is safe im ok she is 21... lesson i learned always ask questions if it sounds fishy..
it probably is...
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8 responses
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
6 Apr 12
I think that sometimes our "kids" are still going to need help even when they are considered adults. 21 is still VERY young, she's still a BABY!! That is why she asks her mom for help. I just think that the mom does not want the daughter coming between her and her husband IMO.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
8 Apr 12
Hi laken: It's really sad when you know that your daughter is lying to you. But she is the one that is actually losing with her actions is your own daughter because not even her own mother will trust in herself. Be strong and show her that she has lost your confidence because of lying and that lying should never be an option.
ALVARO
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
6 Apr 12
21 is still pretty young...I have a couple of cousins who did very dumb things when they were younger (one on my dad's side and one on my mom's side). They took advantage of their parents, lied to their families, and one of them got into trouble with the law. Now they are in their thirties and they have both turned out fine. I think some people just take longer to mature, maybe? They had to learn everything the hard way.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
That was the kid of a new generation as long as they can lie they will lie. I have nothing to worry about my daughter who is only 14 my eldest who is here also in mylot is 21 but has her own family. I knew that my 14 yrs old girl is also lying but in other only small things and sometimes I did not confront and also not on terms of money. I have issues in lying I told them once they lied on me I will not trust her for the rest of her life. That's why my 2 daughters are aware that If I caught them lying I will not trust them anymore specially if money is involved. 
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
6 Apr 12
I feel bad for your daughter, because it sucks not to have any money. I STILL ask my parents for money and I am well over 21. To me, 21 is still just a baby, yes, she IS an adult, but I remember what I was like at 21, and I was nowhere near being responsible and independent.
I'm sure there are some people out there that either ARE 21 and have their act together, or are older but can remember back to when they WERE 21 and can say, "I had it together, even back then." Everybody is different, and some of us mature much slower than others.
I use to have to lie to my mom too, to get money. Even though I hated lying to her, it was the feeling like I HAD to lie that was the worse part. I wanted to just be able to ask her for money, even if she didn't have it, without her giving me a hard time. My friends all seemed to have close relationships with their moms, they'd go shopping together and their moms would buy them clothes and shoes and purses. It was like their moms REVELED in doing for their daughters. Me, sometimes I felt like my mom was not in my corner when it came to supporting me on certain things.
When I was younger, money was not discussed. I was given a very small allowance, but NOT taught how to budget it. By the time I was 21, I had--had a few jobs, but still did not have a CLUE about money, because I was not taught.
Hopefully your daughter will get a job soon. She just may be feeling really bummed out because she is broke, and most of us know what THAT feels like, even though some of us deal with being broke better than others deal with it.
Your daughter may just need some encouragement as opposed to always feeling like the bad guy all the time. She's only 21. Of course she has to learn that it is best for her to make her own money, hopefully she can learn gently instead of learning the hard way.
@flyerflyhi (97)
• Philippines
6 Apr 12
that's the point she's 21,, and sometime have craving behavior to do unnecessary to fulfill her wants .
