Falling in love with a man who has family

Well I'm no expert on relationships but if you feel like his feelings are not mutual maybe you should really consider your situation very carefully because you said he has children too that's a lot to take on even if he does have the same feelings for you accepting and raising children from his previous relationship is a really big deal because there feelings have to be considerd also I must say that your situation sounds similar to a close friends and it didn't turn out well, for my friend, all I can say is do some soul searching and really examine things closely because if you already feel doubts or concerns you should listen to your intuition or inner voice because your first thought is usually the right one, but no matter what do what you feel is right for you.

Married men should be off limits. Even if the man came on to you, you should not get involved with him. He has a family and his children could be very hurt if they found out. If he is seeing you than how do you know that he doesn't have other women on his agenda? He will continue to stay with his wife and where does that leave you? You can find someone who is not taken. That type of relationship will only cause you pain.

The reason this is so painful for you is because you know how very wrong this situation is. You are right, he does not lover you, he is using you. Walk away and I assure you, you will feel so very much better. Continuing this is wrong and not just for you...you are allowing him to cheat on his wife by being there for him. Do the right thing, do it for yourself and do it for his family. No doubt he will cheat with someone else but don't let it be you.

Hello Shalla, It sad while reading your post.The fact that I can't imagine what's gonna be the ending of you and him.Once in our we feel in love with someone we feel and wish we can spend the rest of with but the saddest part is that its the wrong person we felt inlove with. Maybe try to ignore how you feel about him, once and for all he has a family and that would hurt them badly when situation gets worse.Try to put yourself into his wife situation when you know your husband has another woman does it hurt? And you're not yet sure about his feelings towards you, he might just playing a fool out of you or even he loves you still the situation is unclear. Try to find someone whose free and without any responsibility and that could ease your worries and fear. Take care and happy mylotting!

You are going to far...That guy has his own family, it is not easy but you have to stop your love because it is a wrong love, it is not nice when you are the third person in his family even though who said love first. In here, we don't judge who is right who is wrong in this relationship but Do you know how does his wife feel when she know the real? do you know how his kid feel when they know that their daddy has another woman? and do you hope his family broken later? Do you want to be his wife later? You know finally he and you wont have good ending also, so that give up your love right now, as soon as possible. Delete all his information related as phone number, emails,...You try to meet your friends frequently, keep be busy with your work and you wont have much time to think of him. See, there are many guys out there waiting to date you, why do you still keep yourself in a bad situation? Hope you can get out of this situation soon. Best wish for you.

Dear Shalla, Please dont break his and hsi family life. He already has a family means you know has has a wife or may be children and deffinately he loves them also. And i believe he just make a fun of you he doesn't like you. He only cheated with you and why you wanna being with him just grow up shalla just go outside and find your right match so many mans waiting for you. You should change your attitude, vision. If you still love him you just spoil your and they life who lived with him. Okay so just chill and ignore him. Regards Rocky

I've been in this stage too because the girl I love already has a family. Based on my experience, you need to let him go. You will just end up destroying a family and worse, is the children they have who will grow without a father. Just focus on other things first and forget him. I know its hard but it's the best thing to do.

With time any situation gets dilated and this will happen in your case as well. You need to stay away and for some time it may upset you but trust me after a while you will get used to it. You should move on and look for someone who is right for you.

If you care for his family, then you will make things right. It's not easy to let go, but it is the best thing you can do. Tell your partner what you feel about the situation. Even if he says that he loves you, it is not right because he still have his own family. Just think of it, if you put your position to his wife, and the same thing happen to you, it hurts most.

Hi, here is my advise... point of view... True love will never let their love one take the wrong path, it will always do and choose the right way even though it hurts... because love is not selfish to the one its love. I think what you feel right now is not love; and what he feels about you is not love also. Because if he loves you he will never take a courage to just get near you because he will never allow himself to lead you in a wrong way. If a man loves a girl he will think first and assess himself a thousand times if he is able to lead her in the right way before he gets near her. So I don't think that's love. Don't be tortured to that emotions learn how to managed and control it. Base your love to commitment... don't base on what you feel or to the comfort can give of his being near you... feelings and emotions can vary... but love in its true form will never vary and will never go beyond border to the point it can destroy someone. Wait and Prepare yourself for the Prince that God only made for you. Settle for the best. Aren't you excited for the Prince that is also preparing to meet you?

i know that one of the hard things to control is the heart, like the feelings. but please, i hope you stop this because the man has a family. and you are not just going to break the family but also the children's future. we are hurt from time to time but i know we can heal as the time goes by. but the children's happiness and future and outlook in life will be changed forever. just slap your face 100x so you can come to your senses hehehehe just kidding!!!

Does this man have a wife and children? Is he divorced and have children that he cares for? I wonder what exactly is the situation? Anyway, if he is still married you couldn't possibly have a good relationship because most men will stay with their wife and you will be left heart broken. If he is divorced and has kids , a relationship could work, you have to like kids and perhaps try to make friends with them. If you all get along it could work out. There are many couples with kids from previous relationships that have a good marriage because they make a effort to get alone with each other. I wish you luck, my lot, friend!

hi shalla, Actually i would really commented on your discussion that you should breaked up that man which you are in relationship b'coz this is not a right way to go with your love. Just one time you should think about his wife whos has a family with him. If you were she so, how do you feel if your love is in relationship with other.So, just forget him and enjoy life with someone who cares for you. If i were you i would not do this.

you should avoid that man and try to look for the right one.maybe he is in love with you too but the problem is, he is a family man already. i know you can find the right guy in time.

You need to walk away. It won't be easy but you need to end the relationship. So often the men in this situation say they are going to leave their wife and it just doesn't happen. You will be so hurt in the end. You also need to take into consideration the wife and kids. It would really hurt them if they found out about your relationship with the husband and their dad. Rarely does a situation work out well when one person in the relationship is married. It would be easier to go now then to get even more involved and hurt worse later. I've never dealt with this kind of situation personally since I've been married a long time. Good luck and hope things work out.

This is an problem that has happened so many times throughout history. It all depends on how much you want to be with this man, but you already know that there is no happiness in it the way it is. As a therapist, I have seen the unhappiness this can cause so many times and I don't really need to give advice to the person - as a therapist I do not anyway, as my job is just to support a person to make the best decisions for herself (or himself). A woman (or man) in such a situation knows what they need to do and that is in 99% of cases, to end the affair. They just need to strength and commitment to do it. There will be pain to follow because they have fallen in love with the wrong person, but that pain has an end unlike the pain of continuing with the relationship. I wish you strength to make the decision what you know it right for you.. _Derek

There are many nice men in the world. It is not wise to love a man who has a family already. It hurts everybody. Supposed that you were married and you would also feel hurt if someone else had an affair with your husband. I suggest you leave him. After all, this pain will not last forever. You will find the peace at last. You deserve to have someone better, a man who totally belongs to you. I love China

There are many nice men in the world. It is not wise to love a man who has a family already. It hurts everybody. Supposed that you were married and you would also feel hurt if someone else had an affair with your husband. I suggest you leave him. After all, this pain will not last forever. You will find the peace at last. You deserve to have someone better, a man who totally belongs to you. I love China

hi there shalla, Of course you can help it! the thing is you tried to suppress what you should do about this feeling because you feel afraid of being heartbroken. Well just then,you have think of the major problem that would arise once you indulge yourself in these situation like having a relationship with him.And you said you're not even sure of what he feels about you? When you doubt,it means you are not really in love,you just find comfort in him. In order to help yourself,think of his family especially the kids,try to figure or picture yourself in their shoes and you will know what you have to do...so as early as now....stop it...and stop torturing yourself.

hey you are in control of this, he ought to not take advantage of your situation and make you feel this way. Its easy for us to sit and tell you whats right and whats wrong, but girl you are the one with all the choices here not him. You sound like a strong free willed woman so I reckon one day you will realize this guy is playing you. As we say in the UK this guy is having his cake and eating it...meaning he is happy to play you both his wife and you. I bet there are more gorgeous guys out just waiting to date you, go have fun instead of making your life a misery right now. Good luck sweetie :0)