One night stand and after a month she tells your you are now a father.

I would take following steps: 1) get a pregnancy test to make sure she is pregnant. 2)Find out if she had slept with anyone else I would not propose marriage just on a one night stand, people who do do not realise that marriage under that reason will not work marriage should be because you love someone not because you made a mistake. The man could accept responsibility and so support the woman and the baby that way by providing money for them.

Whether the child is conceived in a long-term relationship or a one-night stand, it took two people to create it... therefore, two people need to be prepared to support it. Disappear? How is that remotely right? A one-night stand isn't a relationship so proposing, as already commented, seems premature and not really a smart move. If there is a relationship to be built, of course a proposal could happen a little farther down the line, who knows? But to get engaged because of the pregnancy is not sensible. Both parties need to take responsibility for their actions and, together, make a decision regarding what will happen going forward.

Disappear? Too bad the females cant just disappear. The thing to do is wait til baby is born then get fatertinty test to make sure the male is the father. If he is then he needs to support the child and be in the childs life.

I don't think man should propose for marriage in this case.After all you may not know each other well and not even a love had bind them. I know there were situation like marrying someone without having love in between.But one night stand and getting pregnant is just too narrow reason for a marriage proposal.Once its proven the pregnancy is real and belongs to him then rather support the baby and go with their own lives.

that would be bad for the boy and even worse for the girl. marriage is never the answer for this. i hate the thought that parents would force their children to get married after getting the girlfriend pregnant. what is important is the father supports the child.

Well, if I am a man, I will not do a one stand without wearing a rubber. If this situation happened, I think marrying a person you hardly know and love is not a good idea just for the sake of the baby. I think you have to wait until the baby is born and you have to make sure that it is your baby. And if it is, you can just start supporting the baby.

Doing a disappearing act isn't being responsible so I wouldn't recommend it. I think you should invest the money and do a DNA test once the baby is born. This will either clear you of being the father or make you financially responsible for the baby's life until he/she is 18. Am not really all for having an abortion. There are so many people who would love to adopt a baby and I feel it would deny that someone or couple to enjoy a new baby in the family. Getting married might set you up for a total disaster since you probably don't know if you are compatible with the mother. Good luck with your situation.

Hello bulastika, that is one reason i don't really want to have one of those night stands. of course, you can always use protection just to be sure. not using protection can eventually lead a result from that one night stand or simply having their disease like HIV or AIDS. I think i can give a little amount of support or disappear, this is reality and i can say not every one is capable of stepping up.

I've never imagined such a terrible picture for I never think about having a one night stand. Even if I do, I will not do it without indispensable contraception. Suppose that I face this situation, I don't think that marriage is the proper way to solve the problem if there's no love between the woman and me. If I marry her, both of us will be hurt by the marriage. Of course taking the responsiblity is necessary if I make sure that she is really pregnant.

I firmly believe that we should take responsibility in our actions. Both the girl and guy should be held responsible as they both knew the risks on having unsafe one-night stands. If there acts resulted to an unwanted pregnancy, then, I truly believe that the guy have the moral and financial responsibility on the baby. He should not consider it as something he has to suffer, rather he should start to grow up and deal with it because it can be the most fulfilling thing he could have in his life. One more thing- I believed the both of them should support the child no matter how it is conceived. The innocent child truly deserves the support from both sides, and not just one.

Well, I am a girl but if I were in the shoe of a guy in that situation, I would probably feel like a very cold water was poured to me and the coldness running from my head to my feet. I mean what? I am now a father? It was just a one night stand. I barely know the woman. Is it really mine? How foolish? What will happen to my future? Will I be able to support the child? More or less the same question you posted. Hehehe but I can say I will be in a very bad situation. I would probably support for the child. I think that is the responsible thing to do for an irresponsible act. No matter how many times you point a finger to whom to blame , it happened already. I will not propose marriage because I know it is not an assurance to building a good strong family especially if I barely know the girl. Maybe if I get to know her better and thinks she will be a great girl to spend the rest of my life together with our child. And I would not disappear because it is the most irresponsible thing to do.How can you just walk away from your child, what will you say to him/her when he/she finds you one day? That is scary, just like in movies :P.I say this scenario, reminds us that no matter how good we will about it, we should always think of the consequences of our actions. We can run, we can hide but it will come and haunt us down.

so one thing lead to another and you ended up having s3x on the first date.ok.. I suppose that you didnt use any protection but why didnt you? we dont take protection only to avoid pregnancys but to avoid other unpleasant situations too like some serious diseases, didnt this ever come to your mind? Anyway now what is done is done, I suppose that you didnt catch anything bad but something else caught you by surprise! you are going to be a dad now :) and that is great! congratulations! of course you are going to support your child it is your responsibility good luck

NO, you don't propose marriage, and NO, you don't disappear, but you DO have to support the child financially, that is your OBLIGATION. YOU made this child, so you have to support it. Of course one has to have a DNA test done to make sure that the baby is really yours, once the DNA confirms that you are the father, you should support that child!

i believe that pregnancy should not be the reason to get married. marriage is a lifetime commitment. how can you commit to a person your whole life if you don't know her. if you marry her and the right person will come, you will be miserable. it will also be unfair to the child to marry his or her mother without feeling any love. the best thing to do is to give financial support to the child. in that way you can still be a good father.

A: I don't sleep with ANYONE I am not married to. B: If somehow this impossible thing happens, I would likely just give her money.

Hahahah! This reminds me of the video of a band named Heart. The title of the song was, "All i Wanna Do is Make Love to You!"

the best thing to do about that is to give a temporary support to the woman..but never propose a marriage because she's pregnant..just a support for her pregnancy..and make her understand that when the baby is delivered, the baby must undergo dna testing..it's a win-win solution..because it's really hard to trust someone about that whom you just met and had a one night stand..who knows he had so many one night stands..

I had a one night stand and I was pretty concious to meet my doctor to make sure I wasn't effected by any means to become a mother.

Well first of all I hope that never happened to anyone, but if it happened to me the least I can do is to support it financially. Life can give you all kinds of surprise and we should wear our responsibilities. The human life is very big deal so I would give a try with that woman maybe we can turn out to be soul mates who knew ? I can't not give the love and the cares to this child that my parents gave to me. That would just be unfair. So if you ask me, we all should take care of our actions and hold a responsibilities for it :) !