He demands for a new phone when he was given a second hand one

@Aja103654 (5646)
Philippines
April 8, 2012 7:14am CST
Imagine a grandma who have three grown up sons. They are 40 plus and they have their own families. This story is about my uncle. Yesterday, my younger sister bought a new phone. Her old cell phone was a little glitchy but it works fine over all. That old phone was given to our younger cousin. Now, this cousin's father who is our uncle came to our house today. Our grandma is the main bread winner of the family and she is 72 already, with arthritis. My uncle, shamelessly showed himself and muttered to himself. My grandma was so pissed because my uncle would not say what his problem was. She called him a brain less fool. He complained about the phone our cousin received because he expected a new one. He returned the old phone to us, ungrateful to even receive it. My grandma is very frustrated with him. He went out of our house and banged our gate, what a shameless and rude person. I believe my uncle is a very foolish man, who doesn't really work. he's a lazy old fool who depends on his old mother to work and provide money for him. He's got a family for Pete's sake, why can't he mature and man up? Isn't he ashamed of himself? What do you think of this situation. Do you think he was being reasonable? How do you think he should be treated? How can annoying family members like him be tolerated or managed? Do you know someone who is like him? How did you treat that person?
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@marguicha (223297)
• Chile
8 Apr 12
I know several people like that in my country. It´s a generation of children who were given too much always (maybe because it was hard for their parents to make ends meed when they were young). So they expect to be helped and fed even when they grow up. As long as your grandma gives your uncle another phone after the slammed the door, he will continue to behave as a seven year old. I´m sorry to say, but it´s not your uncle´s fault but your grandma´s.
@marguicha (223297)
• Chile
11 Apr 12
No matter what your grandma did, he´s old enough to work for a new phone, if he wants one. And to tend for his family too.
• India
22 Jul 12
A grown up man who refuses to become responsible even when he has people to be responsible for can be really annoying; especially if they are a close relative. Most of the time, it is the relatives that are closest to him that enable him to continue in his irresponsible ways by taking up his responsibilities. For such people, tough love is the only solution.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
how does tough love work on this kind of person?
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Well... since I don't know the family situation - does each family live independently? From what you say here - that the grandma is the bread winner of the family, it seems like everyone else still depends on her. That is weird, in my society. Here, when you grow up, you leave your parents and move away, usually BEFORE you get married and start your own family. When you DO start your own family, it is customary to take care of YOUR OWN FAMILY and not go running to your parents or other relatives OR take them in at your house either. My feeling here is that your uncle should be a man and NOT ask his mother for a PHONE, or ask YOU for a phone, or ask anybody for a phone. If the jerk wants a phone, he can buy his own and pay for his own service, just like every other self respecting independent ADULT does in this day and age. I think you should all cut him off, immediately. Stop talking to him. NEVER buy or give him anything. He will figure it out or suffer, why should you or your grandma have to deal with him?
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
I know. My two other uncles never finished school so they don't have a good job or they don't have a job at all. my father is sick so he stopped working. at his age, it's also hard to find a job. so, being the eldest grandchild, i want to work hard but i won't be as kind as my grandmother.
8 Apr 12
No offense but I think he was acting like a complete and utter a-hole... A woman at 72 should not be the bread winner, the family kind of sound like they are taking advantage of her. Shes well past her time to just sit and relax and let the family take care of her. I wouldn't say hes foolish if hes taking advantage of her kind hard working nature, id say hes maybe been spoiled at some stage by her and he now just expects everything handed to him on a silver platter. If it was me id never give him anything now and let him struggle on his own. No need to be ungrateful just because no one rushed to buy his son/daughter a brand new cell phone. If they want one that bad they can get it themselves. He wasn't reasonable in the slightest as for how he can be tolerated I couldn't do that. I would tell him exactly how he acted
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
10 Apr 12
well, my father bought a new cellphone today for my cousin. I think that wasn't a wise decision, but we did it for my cousin not for my stupid uncle.