what would you do if this happened to you?
By laken02
@laken02 (3065)
United States
April 8, 2012 1:21pm CST
i call my aunt at least once a week to check on her she is my dad's sister and we are close.. one day we were talking on the phone and she told me a stroy i did not know... she told me why that her and her brother (my uncle)'s wife dont really get along.. she said that one summer they came in to visit.. there is only 3 kids left in that family her , her brother , and her sister, so tehy try to stay in touch after losing my dad and there other brother.. so she said that when they came to visit , she cooked lunch for everyone and they had breakfast type foods for lunch and they all sat down to eat.. and she noticed a look on her sister in laws face and noticed she was not eating and she ask her if she was ok and she said as a matter of fact no im not.. yu under cooked my bacon.. and need to go back and recook it and get it done.. i dont eat raw bacon.. and well that hit my aunt the wrong way and they ended up leaving mad at each other.. if someone told you that would you be offended and think they were rude.. or would you aploagize and recook it to save a fight.. i would probably try to keep the peace.. how about you..
your thoughts
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12 responses
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
8 Apr 12
If he said that in that tone, then I would just invite her to cook it herself. She could nuke it herself. She doesn't need to make a scene about it.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
i agree totaly, she was being rude but in her eyes she did not see it that way, i have to say i can get along with her and i do love her, but she is a difficult person to get to know and sometimes be around, but she does live in another state as well and they dont come in very often maybe once a year if that.. but she is very religious and i needed her help one time i will never forget i called her and she prayed with me on the phone and it helped me alot.. and that is why i would not get mad at her.. she means well.. just kinda different.. in her own way..
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I think it was a very nonsense argument. The argument and the fight just originated from the bacon not cooked properly. They should just forget that tiny argument and move on. Peace everyone!
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
yes why cant we all get along in good peace and harmony, why do we have to let little things creep in our lives and try and destroy us , i think it is the devil trying to get in our houses , he likes us to argue and it make him happy, but i am no longer gong to allow that to happen in my life, i want to be happy and get along with eveyone and not care about the little things that dont amount to a heal of beans in the end.. be happy and stay positve and be kind to all..
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
21 Apr 12
Yeah. It's not the person's fault.
It's the devil's fault.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
i tto would have said here let me fix you some more and tryed to be nice, but both aunts were dealing with stress and both not in great helath, so im not sure if they got over it or not i never bring it up again, but i know he is the only broter she has left and i would like to see them get closer.. and be family again
they had already had issues over religious beliefs so.. i dont know..
@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Apr 12
WHen someone cooks me a meal I either help and make sure mine is more done or I keep my mouth shut and eat around the raw bacon. I don't like raw bacon either so that is what I would do and how I would handle it. I would certainly not apologize and if she said that to me I would ignore her. If she didn't help cook then she has no right to say anything.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
you are right she should have just gotten up and put it back in mocrowave or skilet and reheated it or at least been nice about it, but they dont have to worry becsuae she dont come in very often and so they dont see eahc other often either
and her husband my uncle is the only living brothet left of the family my dad's side so i would just have ignored her if it were me.. and lwt it go but that me. and my new attitude to be happy no matter who says waht and not fight or argue any more its not worth it in the end..
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Apr 12
Everyone is different. That is what makes the world a interesting place to live. I heard of a documentary you might want to watch out for. It is called 'Happy'.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Apr 12
It would depend on the relationship that I have with the person that was complaining. If I had a good relationship with the person, then I would recook the bacon because it was probably a mistake on my part in that situation. However, if it was something like what you are talking about, I tend to think that it would end up as a fight because I would feel like the other person was just trying to find everything that they could to nitpick about.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
yeah , i know she was just nitpicking , maybe she was tired from the long drive they live in sc.. and maybe she was just in a bad mood got up on the wrong side of the bed. but since then she and her hubby have retired and are teaching sunday school and my other aunt is really sick and having lots of test run so i hope she gets ok.. she had alot of stress as well babysitting her son's 5 kids whuile he worked .. so im glad he got remarried and has more help .. less stress for his mom my aunt.. take care..
@hvedra (1619)
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10 Apr 12
As others have said, there is no need to be rude if you don't like the food you are offered. It does sound like the other woman was looking for a fight or being nasty - some people are permanently like that, there's a word for it but I won't use it here!
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
9 Apr 12
Hi laken: Maybe the way your uncle's wife remark was not the right one. Probably she was unpolished, her tone but basically the way she said what she was thinking was not the right one to use on a special moment like this and she obviously hurts your aunt feelings. But even in this case, I think your aunt's reaction was not the best. She should try to ignore this moment or at least, try to forget this event after all these years. I mean, there is too much hate in the world. I think people should try to contribute a little bit more to find peace and love in their own families.
ALVARO
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
i agree totaly and that is my new attitude , im being more helpful imstead of hurtful, and im helping others im not trying to be hurtful to others im going back to the days when i was a peacemaker and im feeling really good about it. im learning not to let little things get me down and not get mad .. lif eis to short just all get along.. let words be words.. and just say something nice back..
@jobfindonline (1744)
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9 Apr 12
That was very rude and sounds like she is talking to a maid and not a relative. Tactless statements could offend anyone. If I were in the same situation I will just cook the bacon again to keep the peace between us. It is just a small thing and if she has a problem with her personality I think it is not my job to be bothered about it. If I would react immediately in her unethical comments the tendency is to have a fight, which I really do not like.
I would talk to her privately in another time and tell her that it is not good to say those things in such a rude way. Sometimes people say things without thinking that it could offend the other persons. So I mst let her know that I was offended so she would not act that way the next time we encounter the same problems. If she stills act that way, it is not my obligation anymore to keep our relationship close. I did my part and if I would not insist myself to anyone. I would still show nice attitudes towards her.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
9 Apr 12
I may be wrong, but seems like there is more than just raw bacon there... I've been in either side, and it's usually handled in friendly way between friends, relatives, or families. To end up 'leaving mad at each other' suggests that there has been perhaps some kind of personality conflict or something like that between them...
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
yeah you guessed it, they have a common thing tha talot of people fight over and that is there religion and God, they have fought for years over this and never to my knowledge got it resolved . . so the bacon was not the only issue.. but they are all getting older and he is the last brother on my dads side alive.. and i hope one day they can get it all better and make up and all get along and relaize in my eyes there is only one God and he loves us all...
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@olivia52779 (66)
• United States
10 Apr 12
In my opinion that was a very rude thing to say. When you are the guest of someone else, you respect their efforts, even if the food is not cooked to your specifications. I would say tell her you're sorry but this is how you believe bacon should be cooked. Maybe give her the option to go and cook it more herself, but don't do it for her. Otherwise, let her know that she does not have to eat it. It really isn't a severe enough incident to cause a many year grudge though. I would never hate someone if they stated that they didn't like the bacon I cooked. I think that is silly.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 Apr 12
well that was a while back and now i think there more worried about heath issues and stuff like that, i know my aunt who lives here the one im close to has alot of problems going on right now medical and she is having lots if test run and they say she is losong blood soemwhere and im praying they find it and she gets better and before too when all that happened she was under alot of stress becasue she had been watching her sons kids 5 boys , while he worked that woud drive anyone in sane thankfully now she only does it part time.. take care
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
23 Jul 12
At times we get mad at people and when we sit back and think about it, it is usually over very trivial issues. This is usually brought about by pride but if we area to let go of that pride and let bygones be bygones then we might find that we are at peace with most people most of the time.
