Do you use birth control? If you don't, is it because you don't believe in it??

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
April 8, 2012 6:28pm CST
I'm curious to see how many people here use or HAVE used birth control. It could be any form but I'm most interested in prescription forms. If you DON'T, is it because you personally do not believe in it, because it isn't compatible with your body (you have too many reactions), or for another reason? If you don't personally believe in it, would you take it upon yourself to prevent someone else from having access to it? If you wouldn't interfere, I commend you. If you would, WHY would you? What makes your belief above someone else's?
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@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I have experienced using different kinds of contraceptives and they were all prescribed by the obstetrician. I first started on the pill after giving birth to my first child but after I few years, I had some palpitations and I changed the pill for the IUD. It didn't work out and the OB prescribed the depo provera injectibles. It worked fine for me and has continued using it. I actually encourage most women to use the birth control. Having too many children children in this economy is not advisable. Responsible parenthood means we have to be prepared to provide for the needs of our children and not just go on giving birth without any planning and preparation. In my country I am an advocate of the RH Bill or reproductive health bill now pending in Congress. I am vocal about my opinions on this subject because I see that overpopulation is one of the reasons for my country's poverty.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
I too see using birth control as something RESPONSIBLE people do. I think it is extremely irresponsible not to UNLESS you are trying to have a family and are physically and financially independent. Yes, this means I do not advocate people who are living off other people ie living with parents or other relatives OR using government assistance to NOT use birth control and have kids they can't physically take care of or financially afford. Keep in mind that I don't care what these people believe, as far as religion. It is laughable to say 'my religion advocates me being irresponsible and creating children I cannot afford or take care of so it's okay'. No, it's NOT okay.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
15 Apr 12
Generally going off depo seems to make your body freak out. I had a never ending period for about 2 months when I stopped using it lol.
• Ireland
14 Apr 12
Yahnee, I have just happened upon your post whilst searching for threads related to my latest discussion on Depo Provera. Just something to note with Depo - many doctors won't give it to you anymore because of the high level of mineral-bone density degredation leading to possible osteoporosis. It's not a long term solution. Also, I just came off it and life has become awful at the moment as a result of it. Have a look at my latest discussion if you want to know more.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
9 Apr 12
I tried to use birth control when I was sexually active and married. However it never seemed to work for me. 13 pregnancies later and only 5 live births. Something in the pill I guess did not work in my system even though they tried various brands. So miscarriages became the norm for me. I am amazed i was able to carry the five I did. As far as interfering with someone else on birth control whether the pill or IUD or other form, to me its an individual matter to be discussed with your GYN. If you are married I would think you, your husband and doctor should sit down and discuss your options. I always did. But i know a few women who did not want a baby over a career and would slip the pill and their hubbys thought there was some reason they were not getting pregnant. if you are asking my opinion on the Govt. with birth control, The government should have more responsibilities like keeping our nation safe and secure instead of debating over your and my private body. We can walk in and discuss with our doctor who is more informed about birth control than any member in Congress!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Thanks for responding! I have friends who weren't able to use birth control either - using it gave them 2, 3, 4 kids. That can be frustrating when you're married, young, and neither of you wants a permanent birth control solution because you DO want kids, just not YET. I feel that birth control is a personal matter and it's of no one else's business but yours. I also feel that it's something which should always be included as an OPTION in insurance plans, but that's because I think over 50% of women use it regularly, or WOULD if it were available.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
9 Apr 12
i think it is everyone's business because you are not having the kid and placing it in a bubble. you are putting in this world with us. i think it's everybody's business. especially the state if you can't take care of it.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Well... it is not anybody's business to PREVENT you from having access to birth control, and I mean REASONABLE COST access. When people who should NOT be having kids are having kids, then yes, I do agree with you, MoonGypsy. However, it is NOT anybody else's business if someone who can afford to have kids and WANTS to have kids does - or doesn't. People should not be forced to have kids because other people don't like birth control lol. The state shouldn't be taking care of anybody! It's so frustrating how many people are dependent on government aid. I hope those people realize that means the government OWNS them in a way.....
• United States
9 Apr 12
I have never had a prescription birth control. I just know I would forget to take the pills and we would have a problem. We had also discussed other methods to handle things and agreed on various OTC, natural and lastly surgical methods. I would not prevent anyone from having access to birth control. It's a womans right when they & their partner choose to start a family or not have a family.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
LOL! I avoided bcp at first because I figured I would forget to take them too.... so far I haven't been doing too badly. If you forget one, you take it when you remember that day, or you take 2 the next day. I'm glad you agree that access is important - AFFORDABLE and EASY access is the main issue. People should not have to worry if their ins will cover it or not and if it will be highly expensive or not. It should be on every ins plan and avail for generic with a small copay or even no copay.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I am not married yet and my boyfriend and I have not done it yet. So I cannot answer that question right now. However, I am very interested with this discussion, because as a women, planning to have a family soon, I like to know more about family planning because I want to support my family well. I think, I will also apply family planning and birth control methods. I think it wouldn't be a sin to do it because I just want my kids to have a good life.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Hormonal birth control does have some side effects which some women experience, I dont' know if I'm lucky or what but I have never had any of the worse ones associated with any birth control I have ever used. What's important when choosing something is to choose something that is easy for you to use and gives you what you need - ie I really enjoyed using depo because I just had to go get one shot once every 3 months. I didn't have to think about pills, remember otc things, look at the calendar, or avoid my husband at all, ever. It also meant that I was visiting my doctor more frequently so if anything were to be off with my hormones or I got pregnant, I would know right away. Another thing to remember is that some forms of birth control take longer to leave your body, so it can be a few months before you get pregnant after stopping some birth control methods. When you talk to your doctor, just do your research before and see how you feel, if you don't notice anything different, then you are probably using the right type.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
9 Apr 12
I took birth control pills to regulate my periods. For me it wasn't a good choice - after taking it for two years, it turned out that I developed a tumor and lost the ability to have children. I should have never taken estrogen. It doesn't mean that for others it will cause problems. But in my opinion, whether it is used for therapeutic or birth control purpose, they should not be given without proper and regular exams. The patient's complaints should not be ignored, telling that she will be better if she keeps taking the pills. But otherwise it can be safe. Despite my experience, I think birth control should be available for everyone. There are many forms of birth control, and what works for one doesn't work for someone else. Everyone should have access to them. Those who use birth control know why they don't want children, and perhaps they think responsibly, so I don't see why making restrictions would make sense.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
The hardest part of this whole situation is that many of the people who don't believe in birth control have the largest current families and the least money and they are least prepared physically and emotionally to care for a large family - it seems. Just going off what I see in real life, whether someone is religious or maybe an immigrant or they were young parents forced to get married by unsupportive families.... these are the people who SHOULD be able to have access to low cost or free birth control and even ASKED to use it. I really don't understand why some people think it's such a good thing to be irresponsible - which not using birth control when you cannot physically or financially provide for more babies IS. Anybody should be able to see that, even if you're not smart and even if you don't understand why. People who have kids they can't afford are in more danger of depression, anger issues, problems at work, loss of job and or home, and then the children could be neglected or abused or even taken away. Prevention would solve the big mess that results when people overextend themselves and are not responsible from the start.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
It's not advisable since it has a side effect! guys avoid using that.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
Reported side effects do not affect everybody. They are included because they have been reported, doesn't mean it will happen to you. Trust me.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
9 Apr 12
i think there are more people today who don't use birth control, not because of religion but because the average person is trying to have babies no a days. even though the world is very over populated. so many people are trying to feel some sense of security by having children. this is especially true with poor people (who ironically tend to be more "religious"). some poor people can't afford kids, but will refuse to go on birth control. they want to have as many kids to fill up as many voids and rely on the state to pay them per kid they have. i'm so sorry that this came out left field, but you don't know how many poor , "religious" people that don't use birth control, even though they can't afford it. i know two of them who won't go on birth control cause she is trying to keep the man she is with by trapping him with kids. not to take birth control is more power to some than taking it. no, i don't believe that there is no birth control that someone can take because of allergies, reactions. if you have a reaction to one, than you and the doc find another. no, i wouldn't prevent someone from taking birth control. i take birth control. this is because i know better. i don't want any more kids right now until i can take care of the two that i have. i am not going to just do what i want to do and take my burdens to the state on public tax money. so, yes. i believe in b control. i believe for some people it should be mandatory.
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• Romania
11 Apr 12
Every person, sexually active or not, should learn about the available birth control methods. Choosing a birth control method is a personal matter and no one should interfere with that. Every option has its advantages and disadvantages. A woman should choose what she considers is best for her body and mind. I agree with having an abortion if birth control fails and the couple doesn't want children.
• United States
9 Apr 12
When I was married and did not desire to have children I used birth control pills. I cannot recall what the brand was but they messed with my body something terrible. After my second child was born, my husband at the time got a vasectomy. I was not for that option because I really wanted more children but he did not want to have to worry about it so he had the surgery done without my consent. I would not impose my own belief on someone else. I do not like some forms of birth control - but it is not my call (and should never be in my opinion) to determine what is right or wrong for someone else to choose!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
During some of my research, I've seen that some types of birth control pills really mess with some people, I don't know if it's because they are NOT low hormone or whether some people just cannot use hormonal birth control but some people get ALL of the listed possible serious side effects, like insomnia, weight gain, headaches, bloating, nausea, etc. Could you have tried something else? I had an IUD for awhile and it was a great option, the only problem is that apparently my husband could feel it sometimes lol. I would never assume I should tell someone else what is right or wrong for THEM, that is why I disagree with anybody deciding they can withhold birth control OPTIONS or ACCESS by not including it in an ins package they offer to employees because of THEIR personal religious beliefs. I think this is wrong and access should be included in every single insurance plan, regardless of employer or how the employer feels personally, no matter what. People are not employed to agree with or have the same beliefs, they are employed to do a job. Your job has nothing to do with beliefs or religion in 99% of cases. If it does, then it's a very very specific job which would only ever be offered internally to people who agree in every way lol.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
Hi MommyBoo. I am using BCP because i have PCOS. My eggs dont come fertilized. I dont use it though to prevent me from having a baby, i use it to balance my poor hormones.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
This is a medical necessity reason and I'm glad you brought it up. Someone like you would suffer if your employer suddenly decided they did not want to allow access to birth control within your insurance plan they offered because THEY don't believe in birth control. If you had to pay for the entire thing out of pocket without subsidy from your insurance plan, it would likely become very expensive. I know that when I get older, I will probably want to use HRT either to avoid menopause or lessen the effects. I will have to hope my access is not affected by anybody else's beliefs.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
9 Apr 12
I was put on BC when I was teen due to an extremely heavy flow that would last close to two weeks. I stayed on a pill form until I was in college. I tried depo, but the two weeks after I had the shot I went crazy. I was completely emotional and would cry at the drop of a hat. Went back on oral, but a different kind. After I was married I went on ortho evra (the patch). It regulated my period, and made my periods light and no more than 4 days. It worked for 5 years without a problem, and then I got pregnant on it.
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@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
hi there, i haven't used any of that in any forms. i am just not comfortable with it so is my boyfriend. we always just want to go natural and we are just being careful. but we are planning to start our own family maybe next year. there were some false alarms but if anything it would still be okay since he is already stable and now i have already graduated from school.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
So you're just careful? Or do you use barrier or otc forms? It's just too easy to chance getting pregnant unless you think about all these things every time, and that's too much thinking for me. I've been married a long time and it just seems like a big waste of time and energy to have to think about time of month and buying extra things, etc lol.
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
I believe in birth control. Why should Health Care Provider keep on encouraging their client to use this kind of method? One day, I will use birth control so that I can avoid unwanted pregnancy.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Apr 12
At least using birth control is a responsible thing to do, and it can also help women who have heavy or irregular periods. It just shocked me to find out that some ins plans don't include access to birth control. That's as bad as working for a dialysis clinic..... and finding out your employee ins plan doesn't cover DIALYSIS for you if you were ever to have kidney failure. Yeah, ridiculous.
@norcal (4889)
• Franklinton, North Carolina
22 Nov 15
I don't use it, because I don't need it any more. I did use prescription methods, to limit the size of my family. I think whether to use birth control or not should be up to each woman.
@blake4d (13)
• United States
10 Apr 12
Yes I use contraception and birth control with my partner. I believe it is everyone's right to choose, but be honest with the partner and work it out as a couple. No one should infringe on other people and their reproductive choices.