my daughter is applying for a job yea...

@laken02 (3065)
United States
April 9, 2012 2:28pm CST
my daughter is applying for a job, i am so happy, she called me to help her fill out the paper.application and she is going to drop it off and ask for a manager i hope she gets it.. this could help change her life.. if she does i am going to tell her every day how proud i am of her so she will keep it.. she called me just a sec ago again and ask me what to put for her biggest weakness and i had to try and think really hard..i know one is she is very quite.. but im not sure if she should put that becasue they want outgoing people to hire to work.. so i dunno.. she wprked at mcdonalds when she was a teenager and took management classed and aced it she is not dumb on that way she just quits and is more lazy i guess if she can make herself go even when she dont want to i feel it will get easier on her and then afte rshe gets over that hump and money starts rolling in she would be fine.. but i already told her me and hubby will give no more handouts get a job if you want money your perfectly fine to work for your money.. so yesterday she said she would apply today at arbys and they were hireing and i did not say anymore and i really did not think she would.. so im happy when she called and said im almost there i hope she gets it.. she had a flat tire yesterday and me and hubby had to come to rescue went out of our way and used alot of gas.. so maybe she will get her ,life on track but she is 21 and im done begging and trying to help someone who wont listen anyhow.. so maybe this is the turning point.. i hope..
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
9 Apr 12
That is a great news, at least your daughter trying her luck to get a job, and it is a great chance too. It won't be matter if that is McDonald, Arby's or Taco bell, whatever, at least she is making her money, and not asking you for the money. I would suggest that your daughter should get more customer service experience, and climb the career ladder one by one, and eventually, she will get to where she want to be.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
9 Apr 12
she even said yesterday, mom if i had not quit mcdonalds i would have been a manger right now.. and i know she is right but she went back once before and turned aorund and quit again so her chance is up there.. so hopefully she can find something she likes arbys or what every to get her going again and stay, there for a long time she is young and the longer she stays the better.. and dont find a nother job until you have a good replacement job already lined up.. thanks for the kind words..
• United States
9 Apr 12
Good advice. I would hope she could get some management training.
• Indonesia
10 Apr 12
Hello Laken02, Im happy for you and I hope your daughter get the job and enjoy it. Well, everyone ever made mistake in life, probably she was not too happy with her previous job but now she is trying to change her life. I too has made a mistake in my life, I was a rebel at home but my parent always tried to bring me back to the right track, they have faith that someday I would learn and grow up. Many people looked down at me and they think my parent was insane to give me a second chance. well if you dont mind let me share you a story, it is not about job but perhaps I can relate it to your daughter that one day we find a turning point and try to make a change in our life, always have faith in your daughter & show her that you care. actually I had attended previous university but I made a big mess so then Im transfered to another university. The previous university is one of the famous university in my country and now I study in smaller university but it is okay for me, sometime I think if i was being serious with my study I would have graduated because everyone who are as age as me already graduated and find a job but my parent keep telling me they are happy to see me now being serious with my life, we learnt from our mistake. But anyway there is no use to looking back and regreting right? My parent gave me a second chance and now im in 6th semester, I hope to graduate soon and can find a job, then I would repay the mistake I made. So I hope that your daughter will get the job and make you proud & happy of her.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
12 Apr 12
i wish you all the best of luck with your future plans sounds like things are looking up for you, just realizing that , your relationship was toxic was a start i told my daughter that he the guy did nothing but bring her down and she wont listen she said they were broke up but she always goes back against my better judgement i want her to help herself before she trys to help others espically him when he dont care ,, just walks around in another world of his own .. and has nothing to show he is 38 and she is 21.. and im 42. and hemy hubby is 36. so her bf is older then her step dad my hubby.. messed up yep.. if we all could see beyond the blinders of love .. im glad my standards was at least the guy i meets has a job or home.. hubby has always worked and now im working pt too.. take care and better your life and you will one day when not looking find the guy of your dreams :)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 12
all the best for you and your daughter. when I read the story of your daughter its like reading my own story even it is not exactly the same. Fall in love with someone who is much older than me, was blinded by my own feeling that he was great, he was not as bad as he looks, but yeah same problem he has no job, all the time I was defending him that he actually a smart man, he was only lost & i believed it would be fine...but no it was not fine, it was not okay...until one day I realized he is not everything for me. Im sure there is a turning point for everyone. Im doing okay now, I dont have passion with my current major but I enjoy my life. at least I need to have a degree whether someday I will use it or not but to have a degree is important. my dream is to have a small boutique and art gallery. My mom keep supporting me that her best friend's daughter also run a boutique and design her own clothing label.
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@celticeagle (168418)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Apr 12
Good luck on her new job. I hope she gets it too. GOod to know she still needs you. They always feel they know more than the parents. There does seem to come a time when we realize just how much our parents do know. Usually around our late twenties. Hopefully that will be coming soon for you. hehe
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
9 Apr 12
she does need me.. and i know that but i get so aggrivated when i tell her something for her own good and so does hubby and she will say ok i will do it and then she never does.. or she will nod that she understands and it's like talking to a brick wall.. it would listen more.. thanks for the kind words..
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@celticeagle (168418)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Apr 12
I think she will realize how much you really do know after a while.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I think that for the vast majority of us it does take a while for us to realize that we really have to work in order to have any kind of value in our lives. I know that for me I was still in college when I turned 21 years old, but after I was done with school it took me several months before I decided that I really wanted to have a job. The first regular job that I had after getting out of college was a turning point in my life and I'm sure that it will be for your daughter as well.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
21 Apr 12
she is 21 now, i had her a job interview where i worked would have been great for her but no she did nt show up for the interview.. i was so aggrivated i mean if she would have said i dont want it i would have not been as nad, but she says ill be there and she never follws thur with it. i think she is afraid she will have to work .. and actualy get it.. my friend put in a good word for her for another job she said she went and put in application but i dont think she did she said they told her to call the next day and she did not.. so she has lied so much it unreal what i could tell you..she is just a lazy bum and that is all she wants to be..
• United States
9 Apr 12
Hopefully she will be able to get this or some job. I really don't know what to say here. I hope she gets the job and I hope you and your husband can be happy for her and supportive of her. It sounds like she is getting a late start at being an adult. It may take her awhile to learn how to be responsible if she's never had to be up till now.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
9 Apr 12
she always had my mom to lean on and if we did not give her money freely she would go to my mom and mom would hand it to her against me telling her no even if she had to slip it to her but dakota would always tell me see i told you she would give it to me.. and i was always in the middle.. kept me and hubby into it all the time and then she stold 6,000 my moms life saving off her.. and even after that mom acted mad long story, short she kept giving her money anyways, and me and then mom had to move in with me and hubby and that did not fly well we got in huge fight and mom ended up moving out and now lives in china with my sister..we still dont talk.. i cant i have police orders not to be within 50 geet of her.. sad but true.. for 3 years.. so now my daughter dont have her to give her money.. so she has to grow up as well as me.. thanks take care hun
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
10 Apr 12
actauly we are better becasue of it.. becasue as long as mom who lived next door to me was there she would still be giving her money and the problem was sometimes she did not have the money and she would over draw herself knowing she did not have the money she would actualy go borrow from check in go to give my daughter money and then she got the eviction notice.. becasue she could not pay her rent and was behind on bills.. so now that she's gone i dont have all the stress as my daughter knows now its work or sleep in your car.. no hand outs here you are capable to work get a job.. so maybe this is a turning point .. but im ok and doing better each day.thanks again
• United States
9 Apr 12
Oh gosh! Shame on your mom for allowing her to continue using her. That kind of living arrangement would put a strange on any marriage. Hope you and hubby will be okay over the long haul without mom in the picture.
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• Philippines
10 Apr 12
Hi laken! You should be proud of your daughter because she already wants to find a job and that is a big responsibility. She is matured enough to think of being independent and thinking of producing an income for herself.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
10 Apr 12
well in the past she would lie to me and never go, or even try.. just lay around and be a bum.. but today she did go and tehy told her to come back in tomorrow the hiring manager would be there so i hope she gets it and takes this job serious and get her life on track were she should be.. i do love her just hate her lies..
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Apr 12
It sounds like your daughters luck may be changing for the better. I am so happy to hear things are starting to look up. My fingers are crossed that she gets the job. Hopefully, it will be one she likes as well. My boyfriend works at a local restaurant as a cook. I remember taking him up there so he could apply. He was so happy when he was hired again. he has worked for several 'Big Boy' restaurants through the USA. So they hired him right in where he is at now. He is happy. So that make sme happy.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
9 Apr 12
that is so awesome that the one you love has a job and actualy wants to better himself hopefully this is will help my daughter as well even if not this job maybr another one she can do as well.. as long as she is bringing in money to support herself and i think that will make her and me happy as well.. take care hun
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
Good story. I wish good luck for your daughter, in her application for a new job. It will certainly help change her life, it will make her more responsible, especially with her money and her spending.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
9 Apr 12
im hoping it will make her and all around better person, and she will meet a cute guy he he one who is nice and at keast stable.. she is with a loser now, and he wont work just got of of prison, still does bad stuff, has no car ,no, job no home and a crappy attitude.. but when she goes to break up, he will write her the most beautiful love letters telling her how much he loves her and stuff and it sucks her back in,, i think i will give her more encourgaement if she gget this job i plan to make her feel better to inspire her to keep it.. thanks
@indi15 (888)
• India
10 Apr 12
All the best to you and to your daughter. Hope this is the turning point you all are waiting for.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
10 Apr 12
thanks for the god wishes we need them, she is going in tomorrow to talk to the manager who hires and i hope she gets it and does well.. i got me a part time job on weekends maybe i can be an example to her when she sees me doing well or better she will say if mom can do it i can too..thanks again..
• Philippines
9 Apr 12
It's good to know that your dearly beloved and beautiful daughter is applying for a job so that she can help herself. I believe that your happiness will be more when she's actually in it and the best part is when she'll share something out of her sweat, working in a job earning money. There is no other way for a loving mother but to be happy when their kids are attempting good things for themselves. I believe that you will be happier in the days ahead. Truly, God is good all the time. May your sacrifices be rewarded in many ways.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
10 Apr 12
thanks for the kind words.. i have came a long ways and i am proud.. when my daughter does get her life together i will be very proud of her and tell her often and encourage her to keep this job.. and do better.. i have a weekend job pt my self so that will help too.. take care..thanks again