Past's loves' seem ed to be -- Unfriends again

When people break up, it Is mostly not with a good reasons. May be one cheated on the other or one just got fed up with the relationship and wanted out, but break ups have never happened for good reasons. It this fact therefore that makes past lover not to even have the ability to relate as just friends.one of the partners always gets the feeling of betrayal.

There is a lot good advice given here. Sometimes it takes years before you become friends again. Sometimes when you both fined someone else and are married then you can become friends and start sharing again like true friends. I am not saying it will be easy. The one left behind will fined it harder to deal with because of the emotions evolved. You both have to at good spot in your life and confident in yourself that you can be friends no matter if both of you have significant others. As we age like in 40 or 50 we have fewer friends so if relationship went south sometimes at that age we are more mature and stay friends. Thanks Unique16

it makes me think of what my past is.You know it is really hard to end it up to friendship.Because you both shy to each other especially if your break up is unexpectedly.It really hurts and still you love that person.But if you think wise.You need to move on and have friendship again.That's life.it is really ;like that.

for me, i dont find it easy to be friends again with a past lover. it would usually take some time to heal the wound of what love brought to you. in time you'll be friends again, but you should not hurry it. no pressures at all. everybody deserves space and time to move on. :)

I tend to think that all breakups hurt be it mutual or unexpected, a lot goes into a relationship before it comes to the point of a break-up. There is LOVE which in the first place, is the reason why people get in a relationship. you and i know what happens when people are in love,all the memories they make and everything. Then comes the break-up, if its mutual, it will still hurt when all this memories come back but because its mutual, it wont be to the point where you don't want to see your ex or be friends For the unexpected it hurts so much, because one is still in love, doesn't understand the reasons for break-up and also seeing the one you love with someone else is just so much to take in. The prospects of a friendship in such a situation only adds salt to the injury.

Well, it is very different for me. Me and my ex are basically friends right after the breakups and we still contact with each other like 3-5 times a week when each other is online through facebook. We don't text now though. But for me, i don't like to break womens hearts. Even if i get bored with them, i always entertain them all the time until they get bored with me too and asked for a break. That's why me and my ex are friends.

That is just normal. When we break our relationship with someone, the friendship also has to end. But it does not mean that the ending of the friendship will be permanent. Friendship can also be saved but we must find the right timing. Sometimes, we have to move on with the feelings and the hearteache for us to be friends with someone who brought them.

friendship after break ups is really hard..it's like rebuilding a house after a major calamity..but for me, if i have already forgiven the one who broke my heart, i'm always ready to offer my friendship to that ex lover..

Hi katrina..you have a nice name my friend.. Well first of all, breakups are really hard to manage and i personally feel that i cant look into the eyes of my ex and be friends with him or tolerate him being with another women...well you know i am not that matured, plus you never know the story about the other side too... I guess i really depends on how the relationship was before the break, if it was on a friendly term and they broke up because of they were bored or got separated because they were away or something, then it makes some sense if they agree to be good friend, but what if the relationship was intense and partners were possessive, and had a nasty breakup it would be really bad being friends with them, because you never know how things are going to get ugly in that case

It depends on the situation actually. In my case most of my ex's aren't my friends but were okay. I choose not to be friends with them because of course I am considering of what my bf would feel. Even if you say that "past is past" and everybody moved on and we re both happy you can never blame him to think that there would still be a little "malice" when you and your ex are together. So, to avoid those circumstances i'd rather not to make friends with my past lover's. =)

It is never possible for ex lovers to be friends again, mainly because one party still loves the other. How is one able to be friends with someone whom they used to be so close with? How do you go back down to the friends level after treating them as your life partner? How is it possible for you to see someone you love to be with someone else? It is not easy. But well, in some cases, ex lovers can be friends because they realised that they are really not suitable for each other and that being friends is the best. In these cases, their ex lover became a family member to them. The bond between them is way over between the bond of a couple. So, actually, it depends on each individual cases on whether ex lovers can remain as friends after a breakup.