Getting Into Business With Your Partner
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4606)
United States
April 11, 2012 12:38am CST
my bf and i argue almost everyday. this is because he has a big loud, snotty mouth. not only when he talks to me, but when he talks to most people. the problem with me is that i don't have to much of a kind ear for a big loud mouth. i don't know how long and why we survived this long. well, i have clues but i am surprised they are enough to keep us together given our extremely opposite dispositions.
anway, i do a couple of thing online, as well as sell jewelry. recently my bf suggested that we get into business together to start to buy and sell real gold jewelry. at first one would think that it is a good idea to get in to business with someone you love and trust. i use to think so, until today.
we just now got into our very first fight about the business. it took of quick. i didn't understand an idea he had. i asked him a question. he thought it was questioning him (after i told him it wasn't), and he just chewed me out. he was actually getting voice elevated outside. he hurt my feelings. when i tried to appologize, he dogged me out some more with sarcasm and roughness. when we came back, he went through the front door , i went through the back. the fact we went through two different doors is symbolic.
the way we handle our relationship is that we don't get in to too many conversations. he is a game addict, so i let him do that and i do other things. by the time he is tired, i am already asleep. when i am awake, he is asleep. that's how we keep our relationship going for our kids sake. what if we tried to go in to business together. we wouldn't last.
i don't know, do you think it's healthy for love partners to be in business together?
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3 responses
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
11 Apr 12
I would not go into business together. My husband and his aunt started a business together. That did not work out well at all, always fighting. She always thought he should do as she says because she was his aunt and older, and he thought they should do what he says because he knew more about the business than her. It ended up we had to buy her half of the business out and to this day they still do not speak.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
11 Apr 12
i imagine that after a while, the business probably brought out things in the personal relationship. i still want to keep my relationship. he still wants to work together. i say it's a better idea if he just helps me with the one i already got going (if he wants)
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Apr 12
I agree with you on that Moon. My ex was a construction worker. Initially, I kept his books and fielded phone calls from his customers. That alone could be challenging as they often had complaints about him and his way of doing business was sometimes rather shady. Still, it did not throw us directly together for hours on end. At one point, I did get involved in the actual construction and I found that I loved doing finish work and painting, scraping etc. I loved the work and the money was good but in the end I up and quit on him...I could not tolerate his mouth and being yelled at for no good reason and there was no going home and leaving it at the door as he would carry it on at home as well. DON'T DO IT!!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Apr 12
I think so much depends on the dynamics of the couple. I do have friends that have been in business together for years and they seem so happy together in their marriage after gosh...I think they've been married at least 30 yrs. For most, I would say that it is a lot...maybe too much. We all need our space and to work together and then go home and be together, I don't know..seems like overkill.
For you and your boyfriend, I would say definitly a big fat NO! If you can't ask him a simple question without him getting all rude and in your face then I don't see this being a good business move or a relationship move. Sounds like the glue that holds you two together is the breaks that you get from each other. Going into business together would really be compromising that structure.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Apr 12
ps..I was married for 13 yrs to a man who was very very much opposite than I was. I was very quiet and a home body. He was loud and a partier and honestly quite obnoxious. We did have some things in common...our love of nature, people, music etc. He brought me out of my quiet a lot and I think I calmed him as well. It worked for a long time. We had our space and I think that helped us a lot. There was his world and my world and that little space where we connected.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
A lot of couples become successful in their business partnership but it's not for everybody. And if you will put up a business together, make sure all the legalities are done so that everything is official. It's good if you both are hardworking and open-minded. A business needs more work than what is required from a regular employee. It's not your regular 9-5. You will live and breathe the business till your sick and tired of it. And you still have to get over that and make it work. And if it's a partnership, you must listen to each other and know how to compromise. Sorry but I think it might not work for you and your bf. Your relationship is hard enough work that throwing in a business as another source of stress would not be wise. Take care!
